Pourquoi la soumission excite ? GOLIATE

Why submission excites?

What is sexual submission?

Sexual submission refers to an erotic dynamic or role in which one person willingly submits to the will of another. It can be expressed in a variety of ways and vary in intensity, from light role play to more intense BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, Masochism) practices .

Important Rules in Sexual Submission

Here are some key points to understand about sexual submission:

  1. Consent: Sexual submission is based on mutual consent. This means that all parties involved agree to the dynamics and activities being practiced. Consent can be withdrawn at any time.
  2. Communication: Open communication is essential to establish boundaries, discuss desires, and ensure all parties feel safe and respected.
  3. Roles: In a submission dynamic, there is usually a dominant partner (or "dom") and a submissive partner (or "sub"). These roles can be constant or interchangeable depending on the preferences of the participants.
  4. Practices: Submission can include a variety of activities, such as bondage, discipline, sensory deprivation, servitude, etc. The exact activities depend on the preferences and limitations of the participants.
  5. Safety: Safety is paramount. Many BDSM practitioners follow the "SSC" (Sane, Safe, and Consensual) or "RACK" (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) principle to ensure that practices are consensual and performed safely.
  6. Psychology: For some, submission is an emotional release or a way to explore aspects of their personality in a controlled environment. For others, it can be an expression of their identity or deep desires.
  7. Respect and well-being: Even though the dynamics can involve power play, mutual respect is essential. After a session, it is common to practice “aftercare”, a moment of care and comfort to ensure that all participants feel comfortable and safe.

Sexual submission is a choice, not an obligation.

It is important to note that sexual submission, like all sexual practices, is a matter of personal choice. As long as it is practiced consensually and respectfully, it can be a healthy and fulfilling expression of sexuality.

Testimonies on Sexual Submission

Many people enjoy domination-submission relationships with a preference for second place. Why is the submissive role in a couple's game exciting? Explanations and advice on how to indulge in it.

Why test sexual submission?

"By forcing me to follow him, my partner is forcing me to let go."

"It's only when Erwan takes the lead that I don't think about anything. I let him do it, I obey him, my head empties," confides Elodie, 30. While sex helps many of us to disconnect, you still have to surrender completely. Submission requires not taking any initiative, in other words, no longer controlling anything. The very definition of letting go, which we experience in life as in bed, with more or less success.

As soon as we no longer decide on the next caress and let ourselves be guided without thinking, we welcome pleasure more easily. Our brain is disconnected, we are attentive to each word, each gesture, so that our sensations are more intact, therefore more pleasant, as Marjorie, 26, testifies: "If my partner touches my sex by putting his hand on my mouth and pulling my hair, I get off three times more. I like the constraint, I feel like a fragile and vulnerable little thing. By forcing me to follow her, my partner forces me to let go. I can't hold on to anything. This position of inferiority is exciting for me because all the sensations are increased tenfold."

Sexual submission is also a great way to try Dirty Talk .

The unknown, the pleasure of submission

"Not knowing if he's going to touch my breasts or my butt feels terribly good"

By playing the submissive, we let the other person lead the way in our pleasure. How can we predict whether he or she will touch us or bite us? Kiss us or turn us around? Surprises come one after another, especially if we blindfold ourselves. "I like domination-submission relationships blindfolded," says Simon, 32. "I don't know what to expect. My girlfriend decides and every initiative she makes is a surprise, which gives me more pleasure. I'm facing the unknown and it puts me in a crazy state!"

A feeling that Marjorie shares. Because if pleasure comes from letting go and losing control, it is also found in the impossibility of anticipating. "My partner plays hot, cold, he sets the tone of the relationship. Not knowing if he is going to touch my breasts or my buttocks, offer me his penis or force me to masturbate is terribly good. As if the fact of being just as much of an actress took away part of my excitement because the relationship becomes predictable. When we are not playing, I like to know how I am going to touch him or whisper to him what I like but in the surprise, my body jumps, each gesture is crazier."

Sexual submission but also domination

"By submitting, I dominate him"

Domination-submission relationships take the form of a game. The couple chooses each person's role together. The framework is intimate, defined, and respectful. And contrary to appearances, the submissive also holds the power! Physically, one might think he is inferior, but in reality, the relationship is balanced. It is by deciding to be submissive and by playing the game more or less that the dominant is oriented. "All it takes is for me to stop taking any initiative and withdraw into myself as if I had control for Florian to understand where I am going with this. And the more I play "the weak one", the more he plays the strong one. On the contrary, if I want to be a little more present, I show myself more active and he dominates less", Hélène, 31, tells us.

Basically, the couple quickly forgets who is the dominant, who is the dominated, and one needs the other to exercise his role . If the dominated expects the dominant to guide him, the dominant can let go if the dominated allows him to and he will set his limits if the dominant goes too far. A game of balance, for maximum pleasure. As long as everyone is consenting.

If you are interested in the subject, also discover Alicia's testimony on sexual domination .