These erogenous zones that we do not know!

We all know our erogenous zones. But what we don't know is that we've never finished waking them up for new sensations and that… we have others, hitherto discreet, which could well make us go to the curtains tomorrow! Exploration. Both men and women have so-called primary erogenous zones (in men, the penis, the testicles, the P-spot, in women, the breasts, vulva, clitoris, vagina, etc.). These areas make everyone agree: they are innervated, sensitive, and to the touch, they provide pleasure. Only, discovering your body does not stop there! There are also secondary, more personal erogenous zones, which wake up according to a personality, a moment, a partner, a fantasy... Some will love having their toes tickled, others will ignite during a caress on their belly. And if we are all endowed with primary erogenous zones, we all have secondary zones to explore. In other words, we never finished getting to know each other! Between the areas already traveled which hide new pleasures and those which we have never approached… ecstasy is not far away! Walk in erogenous zones We know each other, we know our partner, and we often have fun according to our criteria. Taking an already known route is fine, it's our “erotic base”. But to discover new erogenous zones and therefore new sensations, let's bet on two points: sensuality and softness. Very long preliminaries will be essential to get out of our usual caresses and dare to venture (whether alone or in pairs). Once the excitement rises, that everyone surrenders, we caress each part of the body of the other and we invite him to do the same. Another invitation to sensuality: massage! We settle comfortably in bed, we choose an atmosphere that we like and we start with a massage. No need to think about the sexual relationship that will follow: it is not the goal and it prevents us from living the present moment. We rather take the time to discover the body of the other, from his back to his torso, from the crook of his elbow to his neck, from his crotch to his buttocks... An infinite time in front of us, without pressure, in an erotic context . Awakening your erogenous zones: tips Passing his hand over a forearm… okay? Touch is an art! And to wake up an erogenous zone, let's touch differently! We use the pulp of our fingers for maximum shivers, we grip or slightly pull out our nails for a slightly wilder hold...  We change approach, method! And also rhythm. Faster, slower, we alternate. Without forgetting to use our mouth, very sensitive, moist, warm, which allows us to approach the corners of our partner's body in a different way. Finally, vibrating sex toys can be real “engines”. Your myPleasure will be the perfect companion. Specially designed to stimulate your intimacy or that of your partner, it will vibrate on all the erogenous parts of your body with such power that certain corners of your anatomy will awaken. Communicate with your partner He touches us, we touch him… To discover our own erogenous zones but also those of our partner, let's listen to each other and don't hesitate to communicate! When you go through your partner's body, pay attention to his reactions, his breathing, the expression on his face… You will then understand if you are on the right track. Just as he will observe you while caressing you: tell him via sounds, sighs... and that you like it. And then, the words remain quite useful in addition to this non-verbal language. “I love it, try again”… By communicating, we make the trip even more surprising, we venture together, as a couple, into new terrain.

MASTURBATION: TABOOS, PREJUDICES AND GOOD PRACTICES

Through my work, I receive a lot of questions related to masturbation and I realize that this practice is much more taboo than we think while being stuffed with prejudices, which does not help to move forward on the question. Today, I suggest that you dispel preconceived ideas to redefine the vision that we have of this solitary practice at the start (but which can very well be part of life as a couple) and to go through the best ways to masturbate, including through the use of lubricant . Is masturbation normal? The answer is yes ! Yes 100%! The same way it's OK not to masturbate. Indeed, not everyone feels the desire or the need. This non-envy can present itself punctually or over the longer term. Anyway, it is important to ignore the injunctions to tend towards more respect for oneself. Masturbation is a privileged moment and many people make the mistake of comparing it with a relationship between two people. We can never repeat it enough: the pleasure taken is different, the feeling is different, the mechanics and the desire are also different. Indeed, most of the time and by way of example, it requires less energy. You just need to be tired or have a heavy mental load for this desire to take over. Also, masturbation allows you to give yourself a moment of pleasure the way you want and at the pace you want. I assure you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with preferring masturbation to sex from time to time. It is simply human and many of us think this way. Also, it is important to note that masturbation is not synonymous with betrayal or dissatisfaction or deception. It is part of the time we take for ourselves in the same way as reading or leisure time, for example. Beyond that, it allows you to reconnect with your body, to get to know it and to feel it. In addition, she can be a good ally when you experience a discordance of libido within the couple, but also a game partner for two! Eh yes ! You can very well share a moment of pleasure by masturbating in front of each other or by masturbating each other. Masturbating with lube: the guide The benefits of masturbating with lube Using lubricant makes masturbation smoother and more enjoyable. In addition, it helps reduce pain in case of dryness in the intimate area. It is therefore essential to choose a good lubricant to apply to the genitals to achieve unparalleled pleasure. As such, I particularly recommend the Glisse Sensuelle lubricating gel from Goliate. In addition to having a long-lasting effect, it is organic, vegan and 100% French! A must have made with more than 99% natural ingredients! In short, everything we love! Penis masturbation with lube For a successful penis masturbation, do not hesitate to pour a dab of lubricant in the palm of your hand. You can, according to your affinities, add a little more for an increased feeling of sliding. Then, apply it over the entire length of the penis, from the base to the top of the glans. The lubricant will heat up quickly by the back and forth movements that you will exercise. For even greater pleasure, do not hesitate to make slow and ample movements for long minutes by sliding your penis in your hand. You can also dwell on the glans + brake combo to vary the pleasures. When masturbating, do not hesitate to add lubricant whenever you see fit. The sensations generated by the glide and the humidity provided by the lubricant will be even better! Finally, be aware that water-based lubricants are also compatible with sex toys (unlike silicone-based lubricants which are to be avoided with toys that are also made of silicone!). If you have some available and if the desire is present, do not hesitate to use them to make this moment unique! Clitoris masturbation with lube For clitoral masturbation full of pleasure, pour a dab of lubricant on your fingertips and gently apply it to your clitoris in circular motions. In this way, you will also lubricate part of the vulva and avoid irritation linked to friction if you masturbate with your fingers. If you have an appetite for penetrative masturbation, you can also put a little lubricant inside the vagina to stimulate the G-zone or any other area likely to give you pleasure (you know yourself better than anyone, do you trust!). Finally, know that you can also use the sex toy of your choice - a clitoral stimulator for example - to increase the pleasure felt or if you simply want to take pleasure with less effort (sex toys are also there for that and we're not going to complain about it!). The precautions to take Since your hands are in contact with the private parts, remember to wash them properly with soap and warm water before your masturbation session. If you use lubricant, despite its 100% natural composition, always remember to test it beforehand on an area of ​​your skin (excluding the intimate area) to make sure that you are not allergic to it. Normally, there shouldn't be a problem, but you can never be too careful. Finally, consider filing your nails to avoid injury, especially if you plan to use your fingers for penetration. As you will have understood, masturbation is a very healthy and very pleasant practice. Masturbation with lube is even better! So don't hesitate to use it, even during your intercourse to make it even more pleasant, more fluid and less painful for some of you!

THE COMPLETE GUIDE TO DEEP SPOT

The female body is made up of many erotic and erogenous zones. Today, focus on an exclusively female area that offers intense pleasure to many people when stimulated, I named the Deep Spot. G-spot, A-spot, Deep Spot: How to find your way around? The female anatomy is full of sensitive and very innervated areas which can, in many people, provide countless pleasures, all as different as each other. Only, it is sometimes difficult to navigate as their names may seem vague. Follow the guide, I explain everything from A to Z. The point G The G-Spot was named after the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered it in the 1950s. Recently, this famous Point G was renamed Zone G because a 2022 study suggests that it would be composed of five distinct erogenous regions. These are located about two phalanges from the entrance to the vagina, on the anterior wall, in the direction of the bladder. It is also possible to identify this area by its rough texture, by placing your fingers in a hook up. Point A or Deep Spot Point A and Deep Spot… it's exactly the same thing, and it's the subject that interests us today. He means a area to situating Also In THE vagina, but GOOD deeper than Zone G, near the cervix to be exact. Rich in nerve endings, it would trigger multiple and intense orgasms in many people when stimulated. For this, it is necessary to appreciate the penetration, which is deeper (editor's note: I take this opportunity to remind you that penetration is not compulsory during a report and that it is possible to take pleasure from many others manners). How to find the Deep Spot? Located at the very bottom of the vagina, it is identifiable by its consistency which is softer to the touch than the vaginal wall. It is also important to note that it is very sensitive to pressure. Also, if you stay tuned to your body and the sensations it gives you, you will be able to identify it without too much difficulty. To do this, do not hesitate to take the time. It may seem obvious at first glance, but our daily lives are punctuated by many tasks, we can tend to forget to slow down. Sexuality is no exception to this rule and it is sometimes necessary to take time for yourself in order to (re)appropriate your body. When one wishes to discover new pleasures as is the case here, it is extremely important to be able to identify each sensation, whatever it may be. By practicing this introspection regularly, it becomes easier to get to know yourself and thus, to better understand your desires and, a fortiori, your needs. What are the sensations it provides? Each body being different, the sensations can vary from one person to another. Its stimulation can, in some women, be sufficient on its own as the point is sensitive. For others, add a clitoral stimulation will be necessary to increase this pleasure. Finally, it is important to note that these sensations can also be unpleasant. If this is the case, do not hesitate to change position before repeating the experiment. If it doesn't change how you feel, don't insist. Once again, sexuality is rich enough to be able to give pleasure without necessarily stimulating the Deep Spot. How to stimulate it? : Tips and Tricks The deep spot can be stimulated alone or in pairs. In solo, you can go for Point A if you have long fingers. Otherwise, you can use a sex toy to reach it more easily. In this regard, I advise you to use fairly long toys like the rabbit vibrator MyPleasure Plus (this can give you clitoral pleasure in addition to helping you reach the Deep Spot) or any other sex toy, vibrating or not, at least 8 cm long. In a duo, your partner can also use their upward curled fingers, a toy, or their penis. Note that certain positions facilitate its stimulation. Among them: the greyhound, the andromache, the Amazon and its variants or the anvil. Note also that sodomy can also stimulate the deep spot indirectly if you are a fan of anal sex. The precautions to take to stimulate the Deep Spot Whatever the practice to which one devotes himself, it is advisable to take precautions to limit the risks. Since Point A is in a very sensitive area, it is important first of all to gently stimulate it (at least initially) in order to avoid pain as much as possible. Also, if you have sex with a casual partner, remember to protect yourself! The best solution is still the condom. Note that you can obtain it free of charge from pharmacies with a simple prescription from your doctor. Finally, if you stimulate the Deep Spot, don't forget to wash your hands properly beforehand if you use your fingers and/or to wash your sex toys with a suitable product. I hope these few tips have helped you to see more clearly about this erogenous zone that is the Deep Spot. And don't forget, if you're not fond of penetration, non-penetrative sex is also full of practices that are sure to offer you tasty pleasures.

13 Tips to Take Care of Your Sex

Taking care of your penis is an integral part of sex life, and yet we are rarely taught how to do it. Unfortunately, the vulva is more sensitive than the penis to inconveniences such as urinary tract infections, or flora imbalances... But hygiene rules apply to everyone! A few practical tips can ensure good hygiene while avoiding most difficulties. Take care of her vulva To wash your penis: Wash your vulva once a day, but be careful, only the external part! The vagina is self-cleaning, you should never put water or soap internally, at the risk of completely unbalancing your flora. What product to use? The ideal is to use a gentle cleansing care (without soap, without perfume) or simply clear water, according to your preference. Even if it is not necessary to buy specialized products (which are expensive and often contain perfume), avoid all the same the ultra-scented shower gels of the trade. A gentle washing care from a drugstore is ideal. Wash, yes, but not too much: wash your vulva once a day, no more! Too frequent washing can unbalance your flora. If you feel the need for refreshment during the day (for example, when you have your period) you can rinse with clear water, but without adding any product or soap. Dry your vulva well after showering, to avoid trapping moisture in this sensitive area. Wipes and deodorants are to be avoided! In addition to being useless, they are often harmful. Some advice in your sexuality Everything that comes in contact with your vulva must be clean: hand washing (/ of sextoys, penises, etc.) is compulsory before masturbation or sex. We do not go from the anus to the vulva: the anus and the rectum contain bacteria which must never come into contact with this area, at the risk of causing inconveniences such as vaginosis, mycosis or even a urinary infection. . This also applies to a passage from the anus (external) to the vulva (external), even if there has been no penetration. On the other hand, doing the opposite does not cause any problem! Go pee after sex: this reduces the risk of urinary tract infection, by removing all the small bacteria that could have lodged in your urethra. Tips for everyday life: drink plenty of water and prefer cotton underwear. With or without hair? The bristles are hygienic: they form a barrier that slightly reduces the risk of infection. The decision to keep them or remove them should depend on your desires and preferences. Bonus: look at your vulva in a mirror! This area of ​​the body is often neglected, yet getting to know yourself better is an integral part of sexual fulfillment. If you feel comfortable with this, take a small mirror (or the selfie camera of your cellphone), and look at your vulva trying to locate the different elements: clitoris, urethral meatus, inner lips ("small labia ), outer lips (“labia majora”), entrance to the vagina. Help yourself with an illustration in case of doubt. Take care of his penis Wash your penis: it should be cleaned thoroughly every day. The penis is generally less sensitive to imbalances in the flora than the vulva, so it is quite possible to use soap or shower gel to wash, even if a mild cleansing treatment remains ideal. If you don't have had a circumcision operation, don't forget to retract your penis to wash your glans. The scrotum (skin around the testicles) and anus should also be cleaned carefully. Touch your testicles: Testicular cancer is very treatable if detected early. And the best way to spot it quickly is to feel your testicles regularly! Once a month, in the shower with soapy water, use one hand to hold your testicles, and the other to feel them in search of an anomaly: small hard lump under the skin, pain, swelling... If in doubt, go quickly to consult your general practitioner. Take care of your partners: Certainly, the penis is less sensitive than the vulva to infections and imbalances. But a lack of hygiene on your part could cause an inconvenience to your partner. Taking care of your sexual health also means thinking about others by having good hygiene, providing condoms in your size, learning about what could create a problem for your partner, and consulting at the slightest signal. alert. Find the right condom: A condom that is too tight can cause loss of sensation, and a condom that is too loose is more likely to slip off during sex. A good condom fits snugly, but not too tight. If you have any doubt about your size, you can go to this website . Taking care of your sex is also... Accept its scent: The vulva and penis do not smell like roses and that's normal! As long as your hygiene is good and your smell doesn't suddenly change, there's nothing to worry about. Consult at the slightest alert: Unusual discharge, appearance of a small lump, itching, sudden change in the smell of your penis, plaques, pain, strange discharge… Any unusual signal should lead you to quickly consult your general practitioner. Most difficulties and inconveniences can be resolved easily if they are taken care of correctly. In case of problem, avoid "home remedies": Many people try to treat yeast infections or vaginosis with outlandish remedies (like putting yogurt or garlic in the vagina!). Result: more often than not, the situation worsens. Ask your doctor or gynecologist for advice before trying anything out of the ordinary to solve your problem, and don't forget that traditional medical treatments (eggs, antibiotics, etc.) are the most effective and the most sure! Protect yourself from STIs: STIs are unfortunately on the rise due to a drop in the use of protections. Using condoms and getting tested regularly are the two best ways to protect yourself! I hope these few tips will help you take care of your sex with ease.

DIRTY TALK: A BEGINNER'S GUIDE

According to an Australian study conducted in 2015 by Professor Peter Jonason and his team and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, 92% of people questioned talk during sex. But what is Dirty Talk? What is it exactly? Focus today on this practice that raises the temperature! Dirty Talk: Definition Dirty Talk refers to a practice of pronouncing more or less daring words or phrases during sexual intercourse. Even if initially the Dirty Talk is associated with exclusively raw words, the scientists through their study have identified 8 major themes allowing them to be categorized. And as you will see, there is something for everyone! The 8 categories of Dirty Talk 1. First, we find the category of intimate ties. In other words, it is about the sentences pronounced during the act which have an affective link. Examples: " I love you more than anything ! », « I find you really beautiful… », « I love making love with you ». 2. Second category, words or phrases called “reflexes”; these words spoken without our realizing them. Examples: " Oh yes ! ", " Again ! Keep on going ! ", " It's good ! » 3. The third theme identified by the researchers concerns fantasies. As its name suggests, it is about verbally materializing our personal and/or common fantasies. Examples: "Imagine if someone surprised us", "Imagine being watched fucking", "Imagine that there are two of us taking care of you". 4. Fourth category: encouragement. No need for a drawing, it's about the sentences you say to encourage your partner to continue what they have started. Examples: “Please keep it up! », « Don't stop, it's perfect! » 5. In number 5, we find the instructions. Examples: “Go harder! Faster ! », « Take me from behind », "Hang on to my hair" 6. The sixth theme concerns possession. These are phrases that are spoken in order to accentuate the feeling of belonging. Examples: " You're mine ! ", " You belong to Me… " 7. The penultimate point refers to dominance and words that can sound like commands. Examples: "Do Exactly What I Tell You", "Lick Me/Suck Me" 8. Finally, the last theme concerns submission. Unlike domination, this allows you to offer great freedom to your partner. Examples: "Do what you want with my body", "Do what you want with me". How to practice Dirty Talk correctly? Before playing with words, it is essential to discuss them beforehand with your partner. You can schedule a time dedicated to this discussion by cutting off all sources of distraction (telephone, television, etc.) and talk openly about your affinities in this area. During a report, do not embark on an improvisation that could undermine this moment of sharing if you have not taken the time to discuss it. Indeed, before embarking on this path, it is important to ensure that the desire is shared. This can be punctual or, on the contrary, be part of your long-term desires. Also, don't forget to discuss your respective limits, whether it's about the sentences or the words spoken. While dirty talk can be arousing, it can also kill the urge if you don't use the words wisely. Once this framework is properly defined, you can let your imaginations do the rest. The Dirty Talk in Sex Life The power of words is sometimes underestimated. And while it can raise the temperature in bed (or elsewhere) during sex, it can also help raise arousal before the act. For example, nothing prevents you from sending sexts to your partner during the day, just before meeting them in the evening to give them a taste of what could await them when they get home. Dirty talk also allows you to access a more liberated part of yourself, sometimes even wilder or even more animal if you decide to venture into the field of raw words. Whatever your personality, there will always be words that resonate with you more than others. What if I don't have a particular affinity with Dirty Talk? It is not an end in itself. It is not a sine qua non condition to live and share a moment of pleasure with someone. Indeed, some people express their pleasure in ways other than words. It is also possible to communicate with your partner non-verbally: by breathing, moaning, looking or even by gestures. Don't worry if you don't have a particular affinity with this practice, you will always find a way to make your other half understand how much you appreciate this moment. Precautions to take during the Dirty Talk If there is one precaution to take when practicing dirty talk, it is to avoid falling into clichés or even disrespecting others. The practice requires desire (and as with everything in sexuality, the consent of one's spouse) and listening before and during intercourse. Do not hesitate either to make regular updates by organizing moments of discussion because, it is said too little, everyone's desires can evolve in one direction or another over time. And it's completely natural! In addition, if certain fears or reluctance persist, you can very well start this practice gently, by drawing ideas from the category of intimate ties, reflex phrases or encouragement. When you feel more comfortable, you can take it up a notch and try other things if you want. I hope these tips for Dirty Talk have answered your questions on the subject. And don't forget: what matters above all is to be yourself!

SEXTING: THE ART OF RAISING THE TEMPERATURE

In the “all-digital” era, sexting takes a significant place in our daily lives and is part of our lives. Whether you exchange sexts with an occasional partner or within your couple, the primary objective is to raise the tension. But for a conversation to be successful, it is important to respect a few rules of use. Follow the leader ! What is sexting? Sexting is the exchange of sexts; in other words, the exchange of messages of a sexual nature between two people. It can be a simple message, a spicy conversation or even photos or videos. For many, it helps to bring out the desire before a meeting or to maintain a state of tension in the relationship. Indeed, sending a sext is not only reserved for people present on dating sites, or for young people. This practice can totally fit into the life of a couple and provide pleasure both to the person who sends it and to the partner who receives it. The 4 important steps of sexting: Step 1: Consent First of all - and I insist on this point - it is essential to exchange your consents. Exchanges of sexts involve the sharing of explicit content, and transmitting messages, photos or videos of a sexual nature without consent is punishable by two years in prison and a fine of €60,000. Once this step is done, do not hesitate to give free rein to your respective imaginations. Step 2: Discuss your desires For once, communication is key. If you are already in a relationship, you may already know your partner's affinities and this is a good thing. However, keep in mind that these (just like yours) may evolve and change over time. Also, if you do not feel comfortable sharing your sexting desires orally, the written format is for many a preferred means of communication. It allows many people to communicate more easily. If, on the other hand, you have only just met your partner, do not skip this moment of exchange. Step 3: Choose your preferred mode(s) of communication In writing, via a voice note, in image or video, there is something for everyone! Even if they each have their own particularity, these different forms of sexting allow you to vary the pleasures. For some, the written form is more comfortable because the words can stand on their own, while for others, “a picture is worth a thousand words”. Anyway, it is very important to choose your exchange platform carefully by favoring those that allow the sending of ephemeral messages if you do not know (or little) your gaming partner. Among the best known are WhatsApp, Snapchat or Messenger. Step 4: Be yourself! We may tend to forget it, but the objective of sexting is not to judge your partner or to judge yourself, whether on form or on substance. No, above all, sexting allows you to share your attraction, especially sexual, and your desire for others. Only, not everyone knows how to go about it or is not comfortable with this practice. If so, nothing is stopping you from exploring the world of sexting step by step. Indeed, you are not obliged to reveal everything (immediately, or at all). Also, do not hesitate to use your strengths. I assure you, everyone has them, even if you think otherwise. Sexting in the couple If you are currently in a relationship, perhaps you feel a form of routine settle into your daily life. I assure you, it's completely normal and many people go through bad times in their relationship. Also, even if we don't always make this connection naturally, love and sexting go together perfectly. Sexting, when practiced with the loved one, makes it possible to strengthen emotional ties, to increase complicity but also to (re)awaken a sometimes dormant desire. This is one of the main strengths of these exchanges. Indeed, the asynchronous format of this type of discussion awakens envy and libido in us while boosting our imagination. You can also seize this opportunity to share with your half your (or your) fantasy of the moment. Whether it's directly or through a game of innuendo, sexting offers an incredible space for expression. It even allows some couples to reconnect with a form of communication which, in many ways, can be very positive. Finally, sexting makes it possible to create surprise at unexpected times. Receiving a burning message at the office, when you are far from each other or during a family meal can have its small effect! Now that sexting has no more secrets for you, all you have to do is jump into the deep end and send that first sext! Remember that what matters above all is mutual respect. One wrong word and you risk jeopardizing this moment of sharing. To remember all the points discussed above, I'll give you a little mnemonic: "It's like you" (CECOMVOUS) C for Consent, E for Desire, COM for Communication, YOU as "be yourself". SO ? Ready to try the experience?

Stop the moments of embarrassment: we eroticize the condom

Fateful moment, moment that breaks everything... Putting on a condom is not always glamorous, but it is nevertheless essential! Tips to turn this awkward moment into an erotic moment. Eroticizing the condom, it takes preparation! Tip n°1: the condom at hand As soon as you do not know the state of health of your partner, the use of a condom is essential. So we start by having it on us and… close at hand. We thus avoid a long embarrassing pause (and that I return my drawers, and that I panic in the bathroom…). Within reach, it also means that you gently place the condom on the bed or the pillow so as not to have to “break the relationship in two”. Thus, when we want to put it, we will catch it discreetly. Fluid gesture, fluid report! Tip n°2: we talk to each other (like pigs) The idea is to grab the hood while continuing our momentum: a few caresses and especially sweet or dirty words (since our hands are slightly taken). By murmuring “I want you”, or even “I want you”, we stay in the mood. Grabbing the condom and putting it on against a backdrop of erotic words, that perfectly accompanies the gesture without breaking the excitement. It is now…. ! Tip #1: We don't have to look at each other! If we barely know each other, we can decide not to look at each other. If it is the man who puts on the condom, he can sit astride the woman lying on her stomach. Thus, he continues to caress her buttocks and in two and a half seconds, it's done! If it is the woman who puts on the condom while she prefers not to meet her partner's gaze, she can stand behind the man who sits on the edge of the bed. With (and after) a few kisses on the neck, voila. Tip #2: don't stand idly by If the condom moment is not always the most glamorous, it's because we tend to stop (are you okay otherwise?). However, we can remain in control (in this case mistress) of the game: when Mr. puts on the condom, Mrs. can caress (supra exciting). If she puts him on, why not dare fellatio at the same time? We kiss his penis, we put the condom on... And after ? It's finish ? Not that much. It's true, once the report is over and you remove the condom, the embarrassment flies away. However, we can discuss it. Ask yourself if you liked the warming or textured effect. If we felt confident, if we didn't feel burnt or otherwise… It's quite simple but this post-act exchange helps to de-dramatize the use of condoms. Or how we prepare the ground for the next time!

The perineum, or how to intensify your orgasms. Simple and efficient !

The perineum is an area of ​​skin made up of muscles and ligaments that takes the shape of a hammock. It is located between the genitals and the anus. The perineum is a fragile area which is generally taken care of very little. Most women only hear about the perineum after childbirth, when perineal re-education is needed. For some men, they only become aware of it during a prostate operation. However, strengthening the perineum has several advantages, such as: weight loss, preparation for childbirth, increased orgasmic pleasure and also delaying premature ejaculation. In addition, its toning can be done at any age. This part of the body is an area that plays a crucial role in the anatomy and sexuality of individuals. In women, it closes the abdomen and supports a number of organs in the lower abdomen. While in men, it includes the end of the digestive tract and part of the urinary and genital tracts. This area contains vital blood vessels that send blood to the genitals and nerve endings send sexual messages to the brain. Why do you need to strengthen the perineum? Issues related to sexuality In the intimacy of the two partners, the perineum allows you to have a fulfilling sexuality and contributes to the increase of sensations. If it is not firm enough, the woman is less likely to feel the penis, which means less pleasure during penetration. On the contrary, a well-muscled perineum promotes compression and ascension of the clitoris, as well as vascularization . As far as men are concerned, the perineum is just as important, because the contraction of the perineal muscles makes it possible to boost the inflow of blood into the cavernous bodies of the penis, which increases sexual arousal and guarantees erection rigidity . Moreover , it is filled with nerve endings, which makes it a particularly erogenous zone . For such a small surface of skin, the perineum can provide a lot of pleasure, taking care of it then represents a considerable complement in sexual life. Health issues A deficient perineum increases the risk of contracting what is called organ prolapse or descent, as well as perineal hypotonia. It's when the woman feels like she's gaping . On the other hand, perineal hypertonia is more and more frequent, it is the involuntary contraction of the muscles, which makes penetration difficult . For a man, it can be the cause of uncontrolled and too fast ejaculations. Besides, it helps maintain gas and bowel movements. Before and after childbirth Childbirth has negative impacts on the perineum, because the load imposed on the latter increases. This causes a relaxation and a decrease in pleasure at the time of the act. This is also the cause of the occurrence of urinary leakage. However, all these problems can be easily solved, thanks to perineal rehabilitation. However, it is best to learn how to tone it during pregnancy, in order to soften it, which will make it easier for the baby to come out. How to strengthen your perineum? There are several exercises that can strengthen your perineum. The elevator Put yourself in a lying or sitting position, and imagine that your perineum is a 4-story elevator. Gradually go up contracting the perineum a little more for each floor to be reached, while pausing when you have reached each floor. The contraction of the perineum provides a sensation that will go up towards your sternum or your chest. 1st stage: contract the muscles of the perineum for 1 second, pause and release gently; 2nd stage: contract for 2 seconds, trying to raise the pelvic floor (perineum), towards the top of the body then release slowly; 3rd stage: contract the muscles of the perineum, raising it a little further for 3 seconds, then gently release; 4th stage: contract one last time for 4 seconds and release slowly. The half bridge This is a yoga posture that helps strengthen the perineum. To do this, it is necessary to stay Lie on your back, arms along your body, legs bent and feet flat on the floor. Then take a deep breath in contracting the perineum while squeezing the buttocks and pressing down on your feet to tilt the pelvis. Finally, it's necessary Lift your buttocks off the ground by blowing for 10 seconds, then gently lower your back, unrolling your spine vertebra after vertebra. Simple daily exercises Indeed, there are simple exercises that you can perform anywhere, such as at the office, at home...During the day, remember to regularly contract your perineum for 5 seconds, then release, redo this movement ten times in a row. However, it should be noted that all exercises should be performed with an empty bladder. Otherwise, they could lead to a urinary tract infection. Finally, do not hesitate to use the famous Kegel Balls, the ideal companion to strengthen your perineum effortlessly. The perineum and sexual pleasure In the woman According to Jean Bourdin, physiotherapist and sexologist , if the perineum is well muscled, this will lead to the lubrication of the vulva, because the Bartholin glands will be emptied more easily. Moreover, its contraction reduces the vaginal orifice and tightens a third of the external part of the vagina, which will keep it firm. This promotes increased vaginal contractions and will allow more intense orgasmic pleasure, a virtuous circle beneficial for sexuality. At men's You should know that the prostate is located two inches from the rectal canal. However, stimulation of the perineum allows indirect access to it. Besides This is a particularly erogenous zone for men, as the muscles become engorged with blood during sex, so this is the best time to explore it. Whatever your gender, stimulating this area could be a great addition to your sex life, as the perineum is rich in sensitive nerve endings. Everyone is sensitive to it to some degree. Regardless of your gender, there's a range of pleasures you may have yet to explore.

The prostate, this organ of pleasure that wants you good!

The prostate is an elementary organ for the male gender. Located in the male reproductive system, it plays a major role in reproduction. Its mission is to secrete a fluid allowing the formation of the seminal fluid which transports the spermatozoa. In order to keep it healthy, there are specific but simple techniques. One can, for example, practice a massage. A prostate massage refers to a kind of manual stimulation or using a prostate massager of the organ in question. This practice is likely to bring many benefits. However, do not hesitate to ask a health professional before embarking on this type of experience. What is prostate massage? Before starting this practice, as erotic as it is, you need to know some useful information. First, note that it is to stimulate the prostate. It is often performed for medical reasons, but can also be done for the purpose of causing arousal and sexual pleasure. The man can practice it alone or accompanied. The objective is to stimulate the famous point "P" which is the equivalence of the point "G" of the woman in the man. The method is not simple, but it just takes some getting used to. It suits,  beforehand, of lubricate a finger and insert it into the anus and rectum, then place it at the level of the prostate. The latter is located about 7 cm from the entrance to the anus in the direction of sex. The person concerned must then make circular movements in order to stimulate the gland. This massage can be performed during sexual intercourse, by a woman, using a sex toy or vibrators adapted to this kind of experience. What precautions should be taken ? The first precautions to take are hygienic. Before considering this type of experience, it is necessary to wash your hands. So, again, to avoid scratches and other lesions, it is advisable to cut the nails, since it is a highly sensitive area. Then, in order to facilitate the penetration of the finger or any sex toy, use a lubricant, preferably water-based. Finally, softness is required for this kind of massage, knowing that by going too hard, the risk would be to cause inflammation. The different ways to massage the prostate With the hand The hand can be a great help when it comes to massaging. However, in this particular experience, the finger should be the leader. Knowing that the prostate is located about 7cm from the anus, you will need at least your index finger to be able to reach it. Before you start, settle into a position that is most comfortable for you and above all practical to achieve this. Feel free to use lubricant for an even softer and more sensual approach. Using an appropriate accessory If you want to put all the chances of a successful experience on your side, opt for a sex toy for beginners specialized in this kind of sexual practice. In addition to undoubtedly reaching your goal, it also allows you to share sweet and erotic moments, all for your well-being. Do not consider other possibilities The rectum cannot be compared to the vagina. It is strongly advised not to try other objects or foods such as fruits or vegetables. The use of this type of product for this purpose represents real risks of accident and infection. How to do it ? Concretely, it is not only a question of placing your finger at the level of the anus, that is not enough to reach prostatic orgasm. This type of experience, whether practiced as a couple or solo, with sex toys or a finger, it must imperatively be done gradually. You can start by stimulating the part between the anus and the testicles. Then try to focus on sensuality at the anal barrier. This is a part that is sensitive, delicate and full of sweetness. The second thing not to be taken lightly is position. It must be admitted that each person has their favorite position, the one that makes them more comfortable. Let yourself go, don't be afraid to go beyond your limits. If you fail, persevere. Be aware that the position plays an important role in the success of the experiment. Finally, do not force it. You should avoid forcing your partner to practice it, or even inflicting it on yourselves under any constraint whatsoever, if you do not feel ready. It is better to do it with enjoyment and assurance at the same time. Remember:  you have to go slowly. Again, this is a very sensitive area, so avoid making any sudden movements. Relax, take all the time you need and stay focused on the feeling that floods your whole body. The benefits of prostate massage Basically, this type of erotic massage is used with the aim of relieving the pain and sensitivity of prostatitis. For the majority of men, massage has the ability to relieve discomfort and swelling. This allows them to avoid surgery or drug treatments that treat the symptoms of prostatitis, a disease of the prostate. Prostate massage as cancer prevention The role of the prostate is to secrete part of the seminal fluid, ensuring, thereafter, a consistency to the sperm. Note that a gland can be affected by several conditions. By practicing this massage, you can reduce your risk of developing cancer. Enhances sexual pleasure Prostate massage increases blood flow to the prostate. This phenomenon improves male erections. Naturally, there is nothing better for a satisfying sexual relationship. Only bodily well-being This type of massage can help ease painful ejaculations over time. In addition, it improves the intensity of ejaculation, which allows you to enjoy your intimate moments even more.

The best positions to burn the most calories during sex

And if making love helped to lose weight? That would be the foot, wouldn't it? Good news ! These perspirations, shortness of breath and aches are not in vain. However, it must be recognized that the expenditure of calories while having coitus are not the same as those relating to sport strictly speaking. Still, it's still better than nothing. Imagine that we burn three times more of it than in motion at rest. It is still necessary to know the most favorable positions. Either way, you kill two birds with one stone by focusing on practices other than the traditional missionary. As much to combine the useful with the pleasant Make no mistake, sex will never replace a proper exercise program. However, it does help get rid of a few small calories. In any case, there is nothing better than a good part of your legs in the air to enjoy unparalleled pleasure while taking care of your figure. First, this practice does not require as much willpower as sports that are more or less intensive. On the other hand, sweats are an integral part of sex. Although sweating naked is much less painful than with tracksuits. The other side of the coin is that the calories burned are less important in the case that concerns us. Supporting scientific studies Like the University of Montreal, many centers and institutions have already studied the subject. As part of the study conducted by it, twenty couples made experiments with the intention of comparing energy expenditure during sexual intercourse and during sports activities. First verdict: the body of the man and the woman do not work in the same way on this point. If the first burns 100 calories over an average duration of 25 minutes in sex, the woman is at 69. Logic dictates that these figures increase with the extension of this period of time which varies in principle between 10 and 57 minutes. Compared to moderate-intensity walking, the efforts pay off twice as much as in the first case, for both men and women. These results were obtained thanks to the data collected by an electronic armband to put on during the act. In short, the male sex is able to burn 4.2 calories per minute during sexual activities and their opposite is 3.1 calories for the same period of time. Each step has its impact A priori, there are various ways of making love. Each of them leads to different effects, from foreplay to ejaculation. For the preliminaries Let's start with the beginning. You have to believe that foreplay isn't just for arousing. They also increase the calories destroyed, especially in their sports version. Those who love to indulge in sexy dances before taking action are favored, because the more the practice is eventful, the more the efforts increase. For this purpose, the limbs should be used as much as possible. On top of that, lovers of sex games win all the way since they tend to focus on the physical. As an example, if the usual foreplay only burns 200 calories, it is up to 400 for the other case The classic and the Kamasutra Intense sex goes hand in hand with Kamasutra. It is obvious that this one is twice as taxing as the classic. Moreover, some more or less complex positions will be shared in stride. For amateurs, there is sure to be enough to try new experiences without compromising pleasure. Between taking your time and making a quick shot The choice is obvious. If you blast 200 calories for quick hits, the bet is doubled when you get it right. In this case, what to do when orgasm is imminent? It's very simple: you have to let go and take the time to do another round, or even two if your body allows it. Imagine that this effort has an undeniable impact on your energy expenditure. However, this objective must not be achieved to the detriment of the true purpose of coitus, which is the thrill. Difference between standing and lying positions Standing positions are tougher than those practiced while lying down. They are therefore more profitable in terms of calories. However, they must be practiced knowingly since they are not given to everyone in the sense that they require not only great mental concentration, but also a certain physical capacity. In the absence of this faculty, it is necessary to resort to compromises like sitting postures. In this case, you will be halfway between the two.  Some tips in Kamasutra Choose from these positions depending on your physical condition. The standing man: no need to draw a picture for this first choice. If you last an hour with a few breaks in between, you manage to burn 360 calories. The Andromaque Amazone: this is the best way to make a woman reach an exceptional orgasm. The efforts made correspond to those made in the abs-glutes with 200 calories burned in one hour. The Javanese wheelbarrow: this is undoubtedly one of the most effective positions. 570 calories in one hour for the equivalent of one hour of cycling. The traditional doggy style: opt for this one if you are not a fan of complicated postures. You manage to eliminate 540 calories in one hour as you do in climbing. The Avignon bridge: with this one, the woman is more advantaged, because it works the buttocks, the thighs and the legs at the same time. With a deep penetration, it takes you to seventh heaven while you evacuate 300 calories. Stretch: like doggy style, stretch is not very difficult to implement. It is equivalent to 170 calories lost.

The squirting woman

Should we be afraid of it? Is it due to an anomaly? This phenomenon can arouse fear, even disgust in some people, especially because it is still misunderstood, even today. And yet, scientific research carried out by several sexologists has shown that it is a completely natural physiological reaction. Indeed, anatomically, squirting women have nothing that differentiates them from others. Moreover, Dr. Desvaux, andrologist and sexologist, had affirmed that many more women than one might think can be fountains. On the other hand, the work carried out by Dr. Cabello Santa Maria indicated that 75% of the women studied would have expelled a liquid at the time of orgasm. The progress of science has made it possible to make this phenomenon a little better known and to sweep away prejudices. Nevertheless, it is still a source of frustration for some women, because many of them still feel shame in front of their partners. Fountain women are all different from each other. Some manage to control them, while others cannot. Can all women be fountains? The phenomenon experienced by squirting women is a physiological mechanism, which implies that everyone is logically capable of it. In some women, this impressive ejaculation consisting mainly of love juice and urine is uncontrollable. In others, it is well controlled. What is reassuring is that being a fountain woman can be learned. For this, there are different possible techniques. Nevertheless, you should know that each person is different, that is to say that it is necessary to go through several phases of discovery of your body in order to find the appropriate method. On the other hand, there are several tips that can favor the mechanism, such as reaching an optimal state of relaxation, since stimulation and relaxation are the key points of this phenomenon. Several sexologists suggest that it's all about letting go and that the expulsion of this liquid is likened to a total letting go. How to achieve it? The role of the partner According to sociologist Jacques Salomé, squirting women are, for the most part, women who have found a partner who is sensitive and attentive to their sex. Indeed, to reach this state and trigger the mechanism, it is necessary to be in tune with one's body, one's sexuality and especially one's partner, so that the act is a moment conducive to relaxation and not a source of stress. For singles  It is quite possible to trigger this phenomenon by being alone. Studies made in 1950 showed that stimulation of the G-spot could be the cause of this phenomenon. There are therefore several possible techniques, such as the use of sex toys, but also the "Captain hook" technique, which consists of introducing two fingers, in the shape of a hook, into the vulva, then exerting gentle pressure on the point. G. This technique could trigger the mechanism. Is there a difference between squirting and female ejaculation? Squirting and female ejaculation are both sometimes taboo subjects. Although the two concepts may have similar characteristics, it is necessary to clarify that if all women can become squirting, not all can ejaculate. The progress of science has made it possible to lift the veil on these two phenomena, because, in reality, the mechanism of female ejaculation and that of squirting women are different. However, it is important to emphasize that the two phenomena are in no way synonymous with a more intense orgasm. The squirting woman This denomination is especially applied when a large quantity of liquid escapes during orgasm. Physical effort and intense excitement increase the heart rate, causing blood to circulate and filter more quickly, which will cause fluid to accumulate in the bladder. This will then be evacuated in the form of trickling or spurting at the time of sexual stimulation leading to orgasm. The bladder will be completely emptied after the arousal climax. After carrying out analyzes, the scientists were able to deduce that this liquid would have the chemical structure of urine, but more diluted. It is odorless, colorless and has a neutral taste, which makes it  closer to water. female ejaculation During sexual intercourse, it happens that some women release a more or less significant amount of liquid in the sex area. However, this ejaculation is different from that of squirting women, because it comes from the Skène glands which are also called female prostates. The composition of this ejaculation is close to the prostatic fluid of men. Studies have shown it to contain prostatic acid phosphatase  and fructose, both of which are present in male sperm. According to Dr. Desvaux, “all women have these glands, but they are more or less developed depending on testosterone levels and genetics. Even if this phenomenon requires stimulation to be triggered, it should be noted that ejaculation and orgasm do not always go hand in hand, because ejaculation can occur before or after excitement. Different interpretations Fountain women have long been the subject of fascination because of their rarity. Some saw them as practitioners of black magic exercising an unhealthy enjoyment of female sexuality, while others saw them as women with strong reproductive power. In India, the liquid that comes out is sometimes called "lotus nectar" or "nectar of the gods" and it was even recommended to be consumed. In Rwanda, it is considered a sacred liquid. Sociologist Janine Mossuz-Lavau noted that “their rarity made them goddesses in ancient civilizations and monsters in some cultures. In France and the United States, around the middle of the 20th century, several fountain women had surgery for urinary incontinence. This phenomenon has already been mentioned in the "kamasutra" and in the time of Hippocrates who attributed it to a seed playing an important role in procreation. However, it was not until 2007 that it was confirmed with accuracy that this is a completely natural phenomenon and that it is in no way the expression of an anomaly.

5 tips for a fulfilling sex life

What are the secrets of a healthy sex life? How to have fun and take full advantage of the sex moments that we both share? Here are 5 keys that will open many doors for you. I no longer seek orgasm at all costs If I only think about enjoying, my brain only concentrates on the purpose of the sexual relationship. However, during love, many things happen: his skin against my skin, his hands between my thighs, his breath between my legs... Enjoying the journey is better! By living in the present moment, without looking away, I give myself a better chance of reaching orgasm. It will be more surprising and stronger, thanks to the thousand sensations encountered along the way. I don't pretend I'm good at pretending. When it's not my night, I pretend it is. And when his caresses don't speak to me, I pretend that they are talkative. That way, I don't offend my partner and everyone is happy. Error ! It is better to say things. Guide the other towards our desires of the moment to enjoy them more. Without sounding like a school principal, I gently suggest to her… a missionary, because I'm in a missionary mood. I accompany his hands on my clitoris when they are clumsy and I suggest turning off the light if that suits me better. I am not participating in a competition I'm not here to have sex ten times a week and beat the national average. No longer to string together ten positions every quarter of an hour because they do that in porn movies. Sex makes me happy when I live it my way, without counting, without timing myself and without comparing myself. So it doesn't matter if the neighbors make the building shake every night if what makes me feel good is setting it on fire once a month. I don't stay on my achievements I often tell myself that I've done the trick and that my sexuality is routine. Maybe yes, my sexual relations follow each other and resemble each other. However, there are a lot of things to discover. Sexuality is a vast field in which there is always something to discover. A new position, a new toy, a new place, a new erogenous zone… I go for it. The promise: new sensations never experienced before! I don't think about my worries Sex is a moment of sharing and high relaxation! But it's true, when I've had a bad day, rather than enjoying the sex moment, I dwell on my worries. You have to do the shopping, pay the taxes, take out the trash. Certainly. But there is no point in thinking about it during love. Because the bins will not empty in full penetration. I postpone my worries to abandon myself now, right away, and feel how my partner's hands on me are small happiness.