In the “all-digital” era, sexting takes a significant place in our daily lives and is part of our lives. Whether you exchange sexts with an occasional partner or within your couple, the primary objective is to raise the tension. But for a conversation to be successful, it is important to respect a few rules of use. Follow the leader !
What is sexting?
Sexting is the exchange of sexts; in other words, the exchange of messages of a sexual nature between two people.
It can be a simple message, a spicy conversation or even photos or videos. For many, it helps to bring out the desire before a meeting or to maintain a state of tension in the relationship. Indeed, sending a sext is not only reserved for people present on dating sites, or for young people. This practice can totally fit into the life of a couple and provide pleasure both to the person who sends it and to the partner who receives it.
The 4 important steps of sexting:
Step 1: Consent
First of all - and I insist on this point - it is essential to exchange your consents. Exchanges of sexts involve the sharing of explicit content, and transmitting messages, photos or videos of a sexual nature without consent is punishable by two years in prison and a fine of €60,000. Once this step is done, do not hesitate to give free rein to your respective imaginations.
Step 2: Discuss your desires
For once, communication is key. If you are already in a relationship, you may already know your partner's affinities and
this is a good thing. However, keep in mind that these (just like yours) may evolve and change over time. Also, if you do not feel comfortable sharing your sexting desires orally, the written format is for many a preferred means of communication. It allows many people to communicate more easily.
If, on the other hand, you have only just met your partner, do not skip this moment of exchange.
Step 3: Choose your preferred mode(s) of communication
In writing, via a voice note, in image or video, there is something for everyone! Even if they each have their own particularity, these different forms of sexting allow you to vary the pleasures. For some, the written form is more comfortable because the words can stand on their own, while for others, “a picture is worth a thousand words”.
Anyway, it is very important to choose your exchange platform carefully by favoring those that allow the sending of ephemeral messages if you do not know (or little) your gaming partner.
Among the best known are WhatsApp, Snapchat or Messenger.
Step 4: Be yourself!
We may tend to forget it, but the objective of sexting is not to judge your partner or to judge yourself, whether on form or on substance. No, above all, sexting allows you to share your attraction, especially sexual, and your desire for others. Only, not everyone knows how to go about it or is not comfortable with this practice. If so, nothing is stopping you from exploring the world of sexting step by step. Indeed, you are not obliged to reveal everything (immediately, or at all). Also, do not hesitate to use your strengths. I assure you, everyone has them, even if you think otherwise.
Sexting in the couple
If you are currently in a relationship, perhaps you feel a form of routine settle into your daily life. I assure you, it's completely normal and many people go through bad times in their relationship. Also, even if we don't always make this connection naturally, love and sexting go together perfectly. Sexting, when practiced with the loved one, makes it possible to strengthen emotional ties, to increase complicity but also to (re)awaken a sometimes dormant desire. This is one of the main strengths of these exchanges. Indeed, the asynchronous format of this type of discussion awakens envy and libido in us while boosting our imagination. You can also seize this opportunity to share with your half your (or your) fantasy of the moment. Whether it's directly or through a game of innuendo, sexting offers an incredible space for expression. It even allows some couples to reconnect with a form of communication which, in many ways, can be very positive.
Finally, sexting makes it possible to create surprise at unexpected times. Receiving a burning message at the office, when you are far from each other or during a family meal can have its small effect!
Now that sexting has no more secrets for you, all you have to do is jump into the deep end and send that first sext! Remember that what matters above all is mutual respect. One wrong word and you risk jeopardizing this moment of sharing. To remember all the points discussed above, I'll give you a little mnemonic: "It's like you" (CECOMVOUS)
C for Consent, E for Desire, COM for Communication,
YOU as "be yourself". SO ? Ready to try the experience?