Less and less taboo, sodomy seems to be making its way into many beds: 53% of women had already tried it in 2019*, a figure that has quadrupled since 1970. But how can we prepare the ground, between temptation and apprehension? Our answers.
Why venture into exploring sodomy?
A unique experience for those who dare
Anal sex, often shrouded in mystery and taboo, can be a source of unprecedented pleasure. For women, this sensation differs greatly from traditional vaginal penetration.
It's an intimate dance that requires practice, gentleness, and mutual trust between partners. But once mastered, it can open the door to unexpected pleasures.
Let's bust the myths: it's not as "dirty" as we think
It's common to hear rumors or jokes that tarnish the image of anal sex. Let's be clear: while minor mishaps can occur, anal sex, when practiced with care and preparation, is not the chaotic scene some imagine.
It's as clean an experience as any other form of intimacy, provided you follow certain precautions.
A desire often mentioned by the partner
Anal sex is often perceived as a fantasy, especially among men. This perception is partly influenced by popular culture and the fact that the anal opening is generally narrower than the vagina.
This particularity offers a different sensation, which can spark curiosity and the desire to explore this practice. Furthermore, when a partner has already experienced anal sex, they are more inclined to introduce the idea into the relationship.
Our advice for preparing for sodomy
For good sodomy you need excitement
To enjoy sex, desire and consent are paramount. There's no point in resorting to anal sex when the desire isn't there or when it only exists to satisfy your partner.
The main thing is to ask yourself: do I want it? Do I want it right now? Perhaps I simply want to want it, which is already a first step, an opening? And why, for whom? And then, how do I want it? How do I imagine this experience?
Without writing an essay or a cover letter, we can question and study the notion of pleasure that lies behind our curiosity.
Good sodomy is also good hygiene.
The question is not the most glamorous, but it crosses everyone's mind: what is the risk of encountering fecal matter during anal sex?
You should know that stools pass through the anus but they don't spend their winter there! Some people will still prefer to do an enema, but a simple intimate douche (but external, always!) is more than enough.
You can also simply skip going to the bathroom and having anal sex. Just let a few hours go by and everything will be fine! However, it should be noted that vaginal penetration following anal sex is strongly discouraged.
To be able to walk around on the front after visiting the back, you use a condom that you remove before entering the vagina. The same goes for a sex toy.
A good dose of lubricant, to enjoy your moment
This is clearly one of the most important topics!
The anus is an innervated area that promises sensations. However, it does not automatically lubricate, unlike the vagina, which has an ingenious system.
So, we rely on a lubricant to avoid unpleasant friction and welcome pleasure. Generally, lubricants dedicated to anal intercourse are designed to "last" longer than traditional lubricants, which may require being applied and reapplied... But taking breaks is nice too!
In any case, no oil-based lubrication or massage oil if there is a condom...
And if you use an anal plug, still prefer a water-based lubricant to preserve your toy.
And add some sweetness!
No need to muster all your energy and give it your all. Anal sex, especially when you're new to it, requires gentleness. And besides, what's more pleasurable than listening to the sensations in that very moment? Than taking your time to connect with this new practice and this new sharing? So we choose not to rush. Any advice? First, feel the waters with a finger covered in lubricant. And, always, continue to stimulate other areas of the body. Practicing anal sex isn't about throwing everything out the window. Breasts, clitoris, stomach... Pleasure is a whole, and the sensations feed off each other.
The extra thing: what about an anal plug?
We talk a lot about anal sex in the context of couples, heterosexual or homosexual. But anal sex is also practiced during masturbation. Thanks to an anal plug, specially created to stimulate the anal area, you can indulge in many pleasures! Of course, the anal plug can also be used as a couple and can be a preliminary step, or a simple game. In short, one does not preclude the other.
The best Goliate products for sodomy
- Lubricant, because it’s THE essential step when playing with anal sensations
- Anal relaxant : if you want to play it safe first
- The My Pleasure toy, which has the perfect shape when you want to tickle the bottom!
One thing is certain, sexuality is free, to each their own desires, ideas, inspirations! This is exactly what sodomy tells us: sex is an intimate question to which we respond... however we please.
- IFOP / ELLE survey, 2019
