4 pistes pour connaître la sexualité sacrée

4 Ways to Know Sacred Sexuality

At Goliate, we are deeply interested in sacred sexuality, a spiritual approach to sexuality for maximum love and connection to oneself and to others. Explanations and advice to meet a new form of ecstasy.

Sacred sexuality can be scary: right away, we imagine a perched practice, far from the sexuality we know. And what if that was, precisely, the whole point? The opportunity to leave our sexual automatisms and our recurring practices – penetration, orgasm, sleep – to rediscover our desires, our pleasures, and the strong bond between two partners? Does that still seem vague to you? To fully understand what sacred sexuality is and form an opinion, you have to understand what tantric sex is: a kind of state of awakening and pronounced awareness of love and carnal pleasure. In short, we forget the effective and directive caresses of modern-day sexuality to cherish the relationship and connection that are offered to us. From there, we flirt with new sensations, both on a sentimental and physical level.

Here are our four ideas for trying it out and rediscovering your sexuality... in a tantra version, or a more sacred version!

Dare to look… without hands

And what if, to get out of a mechanical sexuality, such as we have always invited it into our intimacy, we started by getting naked, face to face? Cross-legged on the bed or sofa, blankets within reach if necessary, each member of the couple closes their eyes and takes the time to breathe slowly. This moment of concentration allows you to push away intrusive thoughts and to connect with yourself and your own presence before going in search of the other. The couple can also synchronize their breathing so that sexual energy settles and circulates.

Then, the couple opens their eyes and plays at contemplating each other, looking at each other, why not smiling at each other. Of course, you may feel embarrassed. But this exercise is very interesting, it invites bodies and hearts to live together, very closely, and to capture their mutual energies. You can then touch each other's hands. You are now connected! What exactly do you feel? Tender or exciting?

Good to know: the goal of this practice is not to have sex. Otherwise, you risk going fast and not enjoying the connection that is established. Look at each other for a while then lie down together, undertaking, if you wish, very slow caresses to continue to arouse each other. By "frustrating" your desire, you charge it! Then, why not decide to make love tomorrow? Maintaining this ardent desire means remaining in a very interesting state of sexual energy.

Practice slow motion penetration

No one is unaware of the sometimes boring nature of the back-and-forth of penetration! And yet, we continue. For pleasure, certainly, but also out of habit. What if it were time to rediscover penetration in the way of sacred sexuality, revisited in the light of spirituality? How can we make penetration more sacred and turn the page on this practice that has become mechanical?

You can opt for slow penetration: there is indeed penetration but once the fusion sets in, stop everything! When you are perfectly united because perfectly fitted, sacred sexuality invites you to slow down the movements and to initiate very light ones. Why not undulate together, at a gentle pace, always looking into each other's eyes to strengthen the bond between bodies and minds? The temptation to speed up can be strong! And why not, if you feel like it. But come back from time to time to this sacred exercise, which, with practice, will make you discover a new type of powerful orgasm because it is very contained!

Good to know: you can practice circumclusion , which counterbalances penetration. You have to forget the idea of ​​the penis entering the vagina – or the anus, but remember that the partner's organ welcomes and envelops the penis. Each partner is both giver and receiver. The connection with sacred sexuality? At the heart of this suspended time, men and women can focus on this balance. Each body gives as much to the other and the energies circulate freely. This equality is good for the relationship. Enjoy this exercise and the new pleasure it offers you!

Dance slowly and intuitively

Dancing can be sexy, but it can also be sensual. Why not try, as a couple, to start a few dance steps, to connect with each other? Dressed up, you put on some music that you like and then you let your bodies do the rest. How do they undulate? Do they move? Do they stick together? The simple act of moving supports the circulation of energies from one partner to the other.

This activity invites surrender and therefore letting go, a central notion in tantra. Letting go never seems obvious, but it is when we forget the outside and accept to no longer control anything that we can be entirely present to our body and our sensations.

Good to know: don't hesitate to turn off the light, which will allow you to enter a bubble far from the real world, and, why not, leave some areas of your skin in the open air. Your bare skins, one against the other, will be able to communicate and commune. A door opens for desire! When the dance has lasted well, you can move on to another exercise, or take the time for a moment of tenderness to continue the connection.

Activate your five senses

For an awakening of the body and consciousness, our five senses have a role to play. In a tantric approach to sexuality, it is therefore interesting to solicit them to "educate" them. The more they participate in intimate relationships, the more they will express themselves: over time, your senses will always be there and support you in your pleasures! Stimulating the senses is therefore precious, especially since it creates play and complicity.

The couple can equip themselves with ice cubes, chocolate, soft fabrics, and then put music in the room. We listen, we smell, we shiver, we taste, and we watch. You are free, use your imagination. Each time one of your senses is titillated, focus on the sensation, only on the sensation, and place all your consciousness there! Forget the possible caresses, the orgasms to come, the practices that have punctuated your sexuality since the beginning of your sexual life. Focus only on what your body feels. Among our products, all organic and made in France, " Le couple gourmand " (A 2 in 1 edible massage oil and intimate lubricant) can accompany you in this awakening of the senses. Our product Aphrodisiac massage oil will also surprise you!

Good to know: choosing to work on your senses while emphasizing looks (as suggested in track #1) and sharing slow gestures can lead you to tantric orgasms. In other words, pleasure reaches a new dimension: your mind is 100% connected to this rising pleasure, the orgasm seems to approach but does not explode; the contained sexual energy is incredible and gives you incredible pleasure. Welcome to sacred sexuality, this world where sex awakens us!