Introduction to the Facesitting Position
Facesitting is a sexual practice where one person sits on the other's face, providing privileged access to the genitals and/or anal parts. This position may seem dominant at first glance, but it is widely acclaimed for the intense sensations and intimacy it provides. Adapted to all genders and sexual orientations, it allows everyone to discover new pleasures while remaining in control of the intensity and rhythm of the exchanges.
Why choose facesitting?
This position is chosen for the depth of intimacy it generates. The exposure and vulnerability of the lying person combined with the controlling position of the seated one creates a unique dynamic. Facesitting is often seen as an act of trust and abandonment , allowing the person seated to control the pleasure through precise movements adjusted according to the reactions of their partner. In fact, the act of submission is very exciting for many couples.
How to do facesitting?
Setting up facesitting requires a little preparation to ensure the comfort of all participants. The person sitting down must start by finding a stable position that allows them to control their weight without hindering their partner's breathing. It is often recommended to start with the knees supported around the head of the lying partner. Communication is essential here: you must regularly check that the person lying down is comfortable and can breathe without difficulty.
Essential prerequisites for successful facesitting
To ensure that the facesitting experience is both safe and satisfying, there are several prerequisites to consider:
- Mutual Consent : Before initiating any practice, the clear and enthusiastic consent of all partners is essential. Everyone should feel comfortable and willing to participate.
- Communication : Partners must be able to openly communicate their desires, boundaries and feelings. Good communication helps adjust movements and ensure everyone’s comfort.
- Flexibility and body control : The person seated must be able to control their weight and its distribution so as not to cause discomfort or pain to their partner. Some flexibility may be necessary to maintain a stable position.
- Hygiene : Cleanliness is crucial, especially for an activity involving close contact with the genital and anal areas. Partners should pay special attention to their personal hygiene before practicing this position.
- Respiratory comfort : It is important to ensure that the person lying down can breathe correctly throughout the procedure. The seated person should be alert to signs of distress or respiratory discomfort.
- Knowledge of physical limits : Understanding and respecting each person's physical limits is crucial. This includes recognizing pain, discomfort, and fatigue that may occur while maintaining certain postures. Adjusting the position or using props like cushions can help prevent problems.
By integrating these prerequisites into the practice of facesitting, partners can ensure a positive and enriching experience for both.
Benefits of the facesitting position
Facesitting offers many advantages:
- Control and increased pleasure : The person seated controls the pressure and movement, which can lead to intense and targeted stimulation.
- Strengthening complicity : This position promotes communication and trust, key elements in the relationship.
- Variety and exploration : It allows you to explore different sensations, both for the receiver and for the giver. Smells also play a key role in this position.
- Visual and psychological stimulation : Seeing your partner in a position of submission or domination can be extremely arousing and satisfying.
Erogenous zones stimulated by face sitting
Facesitting is particularly effective at stimulating a range of erogenous zones , increasing pleasure for both partners. For the seated person, rubbing against their partner's face or mouth can stimulate the genital areas, including the clitoris or penis , as well as the entrance to the vagina or the base of the penis. Pressure and movement can also excite the labia, perineum and anus.
This position can be a first step towards the discovery of anal pleasure , especially for men. You can easily introduce sex toys in this position. So, in order to stimulate your partner's penis while he is lying down when he stimulates you with his mouth, it may be interesting to use a vibrating cock ring. To avoid being left behind, the person seated can also insert a vibrator. We recommend our 2-in-1 sex toy , ideal for endless games as a couple.
Finally, for the partner lying down, this position can offer intense visual and olfactory stimulation, in addition to the possibility of using one's mouth to actively explore these areas, including the clitoris, vaginal lips, penis and testicles, depending on the preferences of each person.
Facesitting can thus transform each contact into a discovery of new pleasant sensations and intensify the overall erotic experience.
Integration of cunnilingus into facesitting
Integrating cunnilingus into facesitting can transform this practice into a particularly exhilarating experience for the recipient. For the donor to perform cunnilingus effectively, it is essential that the person seated adjusts their position to provide comfortable and supported access to their vagina. We recommend our dedicated article to learn how to let go during cunnilingus.
The person lying down can use their tongue and lips to stimulate the clitoris, vaginal lips and entrance to the vagina. It is recommended to use a variety of movements, such as gentle licking, sucking or even using breathing to vary the sensations. Verbal or non-verbal communication is crucial here to ensure that the pressure and pace are enjoyable and stimulating.
Variations of the facesitting position
Facesitting offers several variations that can accommodate different levels of comfort and intimacy. A popular variation is "reverse facesitting" , where the seated person turns their back to the face of the lying partner, which can offer anal stimulation in addition to cunnilingus or fellatio.
Another option is " side-saddle ", where the seated person positions themselves laterally to their partner's face, allowing less direct contact if one partner is less comfortable with full exposure.
For those looking for more dynamic control or who have comfort issues with traditional positions, using a chair or supports like cushions can also be an interesting alternative, providing different angles and pressure levels for everyone to enjoy.
Additionally, facesitting provides a natural and seamless transition into the 69 position , allowing partners to easily switch to enjoy mutual oral pleasure while maintaining continued closeness and intimacy.
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Disadvantages of the position
Despite its many attractions, facesitting can have some disadvantages:
- Comfort : Finding the ideal position can require frequent adjustments, which can sometimes throw off the rhythm.
- Breathing problems : The person lying down may have difficulty breathing if the weight is not properly managed.
- Psychological barriers : Some may feel vulnerable or embarrassed by the intimacy and exposure that facesitting involves.
Goliate orgasm meter: 4/5
In terms of orgasmic potential, facesitting is often highly rated. The sitter's ability to precisely control the type and intensity of stimulation they provide can lead to powerful and satisfying orgasms for both partners. That said, as with any sexual practice, the experience can vary greatly from one person to another.
Because this position is unusual and allows a real letting go without focusing on the eternal “penetration”, we give it a nice score of 4/5!
Difficulty level
Facesitting is generally considered a position of moderate difficulty . Although installation may be simple, managing weight and maintaining comfort requires some skill and attention. It is recommended to practice this position gradually and increase the duration as partners become more comfortable with each other's techniques and limits.
Conclusion
Facesitting is an exploration of intimacy, trust and mutual pleasure. With good communication and constant respect for each other's limits, this position can enrich partners' sex lives and strengthen their emotional and physical connection.
An interesting fun fact about the facesitting position is that it is called “Queening” or “Kinging” in some cultures, emphasizing its aspect of domination and power.
Historically, this terminology highlights the dynamic of control and authority that the position can symbolize, with the seated person literally enthroned in the other's face like a king or queen on their throne.
So, are you ready to play with Her Majesty?
