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Understanding everything about sexual breakdowns

Sexual dysfunction , a disorder affecting sexual function, does not only affect men. In fact, many women also experience similar sexual difficulties.

A study conducted by Lilly Laboratories on the sexuality of the French reveals that 42% of men and 38% of women have already experienced sexual failure. This problem tends to increase with age.

It is important not to panic when faced with these sexual dysfunctions because solutions exist. Exploring your sexuality can be an effective way to find answers and prevent these dysfunctions from affecting your life as a couple.

Why can we have sexual breakdowns?

Knowing the causes of your sexual dysfunction allows you to find the appropriate solutions. Here are the factors that can cause desire disorders.

Stress

It is the first enemy of a fulfilling sex life . Stress is a sneaky evil and it brings with it various psychological and physiological problems. It even promotes sexual disorders .

First of all, stress causes significant mental concern. It leads to a lack of concentration that will harm your sexual activity: it can get to the point where it becomes impossible to have a pleasant time and be truly present during your intercourse.

In cases of intense and chronic stress, other psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression can arise, which can trigger other harmful consequences for your relationship:

  • difficulty letting go during intercourse , which prevents orgasm during intercourse,
  • the probable inability to maintain an erection for long,
  • loss of sexual performance or premature ejaculation,
  • erectile dysfunction or male impotence.

You should also know that stress reduces the production of noradrenaline . However, a deficiency in this hormone leads to a decrease in arousal , which will deteriorate the quality of sexual intercourse.

Organic causes of sexual dysfunction

Did you know that some pathologies can cause sexual dysfunction ? By causing damage to the blood vessels, they generate a decrease in the flow of blood to the genitals. If you think you have a problem that is more serious than simple stress, we strongly recommend that you consult a sexologist or a doctor who can guide you.

Erection problems can actually intensify the development of diseases. You may develop one of the following diseases:

  • high blood pressure,
  • diabetes,
  • heart problems,
  • increased blood cholesterol levels.

Hormonal deficiency extends the list of organic causes of sexual dysfunction . The decrease in the level of sexual hormones causes, for example , male impotence, as does a deficiency in thyroid hormones, which will have the same effect.

Finally, age is another factor that increases the risk of sexual dysfunction .

If you are in one of these cases, we strongly recommend that you consult a sexologist to learn more about your problem. The Sexologues France platform brings together certified sexologists that you can consult by video or directly in the office! We recommend!

Taking care of yourself to avoid sexual breakdowns

To help you avoid sexual breakdown, the ideal is clearly to learn to take care of yourself!

Adopt a healthy lifestyle

How to avoid erectile problems or other sexual disorders ? Adopting a healthy lifestyle is the first solution to explore if you are not already used to it. Focus on a balanced and varied diet.

You also reduce any risk of developing erectile dysfunction by reducing consumption of:

  • of sugar,
  • salt,
  • of fats,
  • tobacco,
  • of alcoholic beverages.

A healthy lifestyle obviously includes regular exercise since it is a natural stress reliever! In addition, it optimizes the production of the happiness hormone which is good for morale and the body! This therefore makes sport an ally of choice in the fight against sexual dysfunction.

Improve sleep and promote relaxation

A good night's sleep is an ally to have better endurance during your intercourse. If you do not sleep well, you can develop certain health problems, promote your stress and be more irritable. Lack of sleep, if excessive, can go as far as causing erectile dysfunction.

So, improve the quality of your sleep!

If you still need a few more hours of sleep, you can already use relaxation methods before your date or intercourse. Choose what will please you the most:

  • the hot bath,
  • the meditation session,
  • the yoga session,
  • massage,
  • a little reading….

Increase excitement and reduce performance pressure

Increasing arousal means increasing the intensity of desire and pleasure. The question is: how to do it? First, learn to manage your stress !

Some foods known for their aphrodisiac properties can also help you increase arousal, such as:

  • chocolate,
  • coriander,
  • ginger,
  • oysters,
  • calf's liver….

In addition to all this, try to detach yourself from the result: it is not necessary to always be a good sexual "performer": in real life, it is not like in porn! The fear of not being able to satisfy the other sexually will automatically generate stress and therefore itself reduce your performance: it is a vicious circle from which you must try to escape to regain confidence in yourself.

Finally, using sex toys or sex toys is also a good option to overcome a breakdown: toys help to optimize pleasure and stimulate sexual desire .

Talk about the subject without taboos with your partner

A sexual breakdown is not a taboo subject. To manage it well, you must discuss it with your partner. If you find yourself faced with someone who judges you, who makes fun of you and who is not supportive, it is certain that it is the wrong person in front of you: the problem comes from his side! It is important to make him understand that this breakdown was not a failure, neither for you nor for him, but that it can happen to anyone and that we must move forward, as a duo, to find adequate solutions.

To approach the subject lightly, you can also use humor if it is too delicate for you to go straight. The most important thing is to talk, this will bring you closer together and allow you to boost mutual trust. This rapprochement will allow you to overcome the sexual breakdown together.

When should I really worry?

Certainly, sexual breakdown affects everyone. That said, there is a big difference between an occasional problem and recurring erectile dysfunction . If the breakdown repeats itself, consulting a sexologist is essential.

This specialist can guide you towards the appropriate medical approach and possible treatments to take. But you also need psychological support, which a sexologist is generally able to provide you.

Women can also have sexual dysfunctions

Female sexual dysfunction is not a myth! It manifests itself by a loss of desire or lack of interest in sexual intercourse and also causes various problems such as vaginal dryness, making penetration painful.

If this happens to you, the best solution is obviously to use natural gels or lubricants. These products have been designed to facilitate vaginal lubrication, in order to eliminate pain and optimize your feeling of pleasure.

Asking for erotic help or advice from those around you is also an excellent idea: there is a good chance that your friends have already been confronted with the problems and they will therefore be good advisers to reassure you and help you find suitable solutions.

Don’t stress, breakdowns can be managed!

Are you facing sexual breakdown ? Stay calm! It is a problem that can be managed. Here is what you need to do:

  • Take care of yourself and manage your stress,
  • Establish dialogue, because it will allow you to overcome this impasse together,
  • Practice slow sex to avoid the pressure of an erection,
  • Make an appointment with a sexologist if the problem persists.

But what you really need to do is change the way you perceive the problem. In other words:

  • De-dramatize the situation,
  • Take a positive approach by trying to solve the problem together,
  • Have sex differently: use massage oils to have a pleasant time for example,
  • Focus on the future and stay optimistic.

If you're with the right person, they'll understand, that's for sure!