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The Coital Alignment Technique to Increase Pleasure

The CAT method, for coital alignment technique, is played during penetration and more particularly the missionary position. Thanks to it, women can discover new sensations and more intense orgasms. Why try the coital alignment technique? Penetrative sex has many qualities , but it also has a flaw: with all the back and forth, female pleasure sometimes feels left out. Indeed, several studies show us that penetration alone is not ideal for reaching orgasm. This does not mean that it should be avoided, only that a double stimulation – including vulvar and clitoral caresses – is welcome. And the CAT method – CAT for coital alignment technique – is used for this: this practice invites both partners to leave the usual penetrative patterns and to reinvent penetration for more pleasure and fusion. The CAT Method or How to Position Yourself to Maximize Pleasure It’s an approach that’s made its way into the world of intimacy, and for good reason. Originating from the research of Dr. Beverly Whipple , an American sexologist, this technique focuses on optimal positioning during intercourse to maximize clitoral stimulation. Basically, it’s a way of redefining the missionary position. The story behind the technique The coital alignment technique is not just a passing fad. It has deep roots in scientific research. In the 1980s, Dr. Whipple, in collaboration with Dr. Barry Komisaruk, began studying the physiology of female orgasm. Their work revealed that the clitoris plays a central role in female pleasure, and that its direct or indirect stimulation can lead to more intense and satisfying orgasms. How to achieve coital alignment? The technique itself is quite simple. During missionary sex, the man positions himself slightly higher on the woman's body. This allows for increased pressure and friction on the clitoris . The motion is not so much a typical back and forth, but more of a rocking or grinding motion. This promotes constant clitoral stimulation, increasing the woman's chances of achieving orgasm. So, next time you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, why not try the alignment technique. So, how does it work in concrete terms? To practice the CAT method, we… penetrate each other (to begin with). But this time, we break our habits. Rather than going back and forth (we know how), we play with our pelvises and undulate together . To do this, the partner, placed on top, lies down on his partner. If he must not crush her (that would be a shame), he must not hesitate to slump down a little , the idea being to be very close and stuck together. The partner, below, will straighten her legs and not spread them very far. The important thing to remember is that the two bodies are thus aligned. And they must be aligned, as the name of the technique specifies. Then, we move our bodies. In other words, we wiggle. A practice that invites the stimulation of the vaginal walls (often neglected when it comes to going straight to the bottom of the tunnel) and the vulva, since the pubic area is in contact. And we know that the glans of the clitoris, which is located at the top of the vulva, likes to be part of it! And as always, for extra softness, we do this with a nice natural lubricant from the family . Coital alignment isn't for everyone either. Please note, however, that for girls who are very sensitive in the clitoris, this technique should perhaps be avoided or tested very gently. Indeed, even if it is fashionable, it is possible that you do not like the sensations and that is completely ok. But, there are plenty of people for whom this technique remains an excellent idea to spice up their sex life. The curious about pleasure If you're the type of person who's always looking for new ways to explore and improve your intimate life, this technique is for you. Whether you've been in a relationship for years or you've just met someone, coital alignment is a great way to rediscover pleasure together. The followers of renewal Are you tired of the routine? Do you feel like you've tried everything? Coital alignment could be that little spark that rekindles the flame. It's a simple method, but it can bring a renewal to your intimacy. Clitoris Skeptics If you or your partner have always struggled to understand the importance of the clitoris in female pleasure, this is your chance to discover it. This technique focuses on clitoral stimulation, and may well change your mind about its central role. Sharing lovers will love it The coital alignment technique is not just for the woman's pleasure. It is a shared experience, where both partners can feel a deeper connection and mutual pleasure. So, are you also going to try the CAT method?

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VAGINISMUS: WHAT SOLUTIONS TO GET OUT OF IT?

Due to an involuntary muscular contraction of the muscles surrounding the vagina, vaginismus makes penetration painful or even impossible. How to treat it and regain a fulfilling sex life? Our tracks.   Behind the term vaginismus, there is that of vagina. But vaginismus is not a vagina problem, nor a gynecological problem; usually the vagina is fine. Vaginismus is a sexual disorder linked to an involuntary contraction of the muscles surrounding the vagina. This contraction then prevents penetration. It's as if the vagina was closing, locking itself. Medically speaking, we distinguish partial vaginismus (at this time, the subject has no difficulty inserting a tampon, a cup, an ovum, only coital penetration is made impossible) from total vaginismus (in this case, any "intrusion" is impossible), but also primary vaginismus (always present) secondary vaginismus (which occurs later in life, when everything was going well until now). But why do the muscles of the perineum lock and how to treat vaginismus?   Fear of pain and fear of the penis When we talk about vaginismus, we are therefore talking about a reflex contraction of the muscles of the vagina: we “want” to make love, but something is blocking it, the body refuses. In question, often dyspareunia, that is to say pain during intercourse. By dint of pain, of a badly experienced penetration, the vagina chooses to close so as not to “relive” this experience. In other cases, we can evoke in the broad sense the fear of the penis, due to a distorted vision of the male sex (we imagine it very large, while we imagine its very small vagina), sexual abuse which revives in the subject a fear of suffering. We can also question the way we look at sexuality, or what we have heard about sexuality. A woman, for example, who thinks that sex is "dirty", can suffer from vaginismus insofar as she does not allow herself sexuality. Of course, all this does not mean that dyspareunia, sexual abuse, or a "negative" view of sexuality necessarily leads to vaginismus. "Practical" solutions Without saying that vaginismus is purely "in the head", it is necessary to admit, all the same, its psychological nature, so that a psychiatric follow-up can be of great help. But there are other parallel solutions to get out of it and re-tame your body. Namely, already, that vaginismus does not always prevent a fulfilling sexuality: penetration is, wrongly, the centerpiece of sexual intercourse . However, one can take pleasure in practicing a so-called "preliminary" sexuality, thanks to external caresses, in particular via stimulation of the vulva (and therefore of the glans of the clitoris), breasts, belly... This "way of doing allows women to relax, lubricate, and realize that their body is still in the game. A positive observation that is more than useful for healing. Then, specialists generally suggest taking your time: the muscles of the vagina, if they contract, do not contract for hours. During a relationship of trust, with lubricant , softness and external caresses to calm down, it is possible to “play” at the entrance to the vagina. The idea is not at all to force the passage, but to show your body, inch by inch, that it can relax. The vagina is like tights: it's when you put your leg in that it opens. Even if so, here, we won't talk about a leg (atmosphere) but a finger, then a penis. If, of course, the pain is present and the penetration impossible, we resume the sexuality of foreplay, we have fun differently, so as not to lose confidence. Finally, masturbation also remains an avenue to explore: the fear of the penis and, sometimes, the fear of a relationship that is too virulent, partly explain vaginismus. Masturbation then allows you, solo, to meet your body and reassure yourself: it's ok, it's going well. A “victory” which invites, then, to share a sexual relationship in a new dimension. If, at two, it blocks again and again, it is then necessary to take stock: what bothers me in this configuration? In the practice of penetration? Elements of response to then share with a specialist if necessary.