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Faut-il faire du sexe avant une compétition sportive ?

Dans l’inconscient collectif, un bon rapport sexuel avant une compétition sportive peut altérer les performances physiques et mentales. Pour d’autres, il serait un boosteur ! Où se situe la vérité ? Chez Goliate, on s’est posé la question. Dans la Grèce Antique, on proscrivait toute relation sexuelle avant le sport ; on imaginait que celui-ci nuisait aux performances. C’était mauvais pour le corps et l’esprit ! Mais aujourd'hui ? C’est toujours la même histoire. Nous avons tous entendu que le coach de l'équipe britannique de football avait interdit à ses joueurs de s'envoyer en l'air lors de la Coupe du monde 98… L’abstinence serait donc une clé de la victoire, le meilleur moyen de décrocher des médailles ? Pas si sûr : on rappelle que l’Angleterre a été éliminée en huitième de finale ! Toujours est-il que la croyance persiste : même Mohamed Ali, célèbre boxeur, s'offrirait l'abstinence avant un match important pour augmenter sa compétitivité. Vraiment ? Pourquoi ? Que redoute-t-on ? Garder son énergie vitale (et sa testostérone)… Dans l'imaginaire, le sexe épuise. Il grignote nos ressources et notre énergie vitale, qui n’est autre que notre libido, cet élan de vie que l’on peut mettre dans l’activité de notre choix ! Et puis, le sexe est tellement bon qu'il est susceptible de nous faire quitter le monde réel au point d’altérer notre concentration. Or, sans concentration, que devenons-nous sur un ring, une piste de course, une scène ? Imaginons un rapport sexuel intense la veille d'une rencontre sportive majeure : en nous abandonnant sous les draps, en offrant tout notre souffle et notre vigueur avec plaisir, on se vide ! Le lendemain, c’est la cata : muscles fatigués, tête rêveuse ou brumeuse… Voilà d’où naît la croyance ! En d’autres mots, il faut choisir où donner de sa fougue, la fougue ne peut pas être partout, sur le terrain et dans le lit. Autre « problème » : le taux de testostérone. A trop le consommer pendant l’amour, voilà que le taux baisserait et ne serait plus assez costaud pour accompagner les athlètes dans leurs épreuves sportives. Car voilà, grâce à l’hormone de la testostérone, les hommes seraient plus agressifs, plus forts, et leur capacité de performance péterait tous les scores. Pour un athlète, la testostérone serait donc un atout majeur, une sorte de carburant naturel qui alimente ses performances. Si un rapport sexuel entraîne une baisse de ce taux, on imagine facilement les conséquences : puissance amoindrie, détermination mollassonne... D'où la peur de certains sportifs de voir leur énergie s'évaporer après une nuit de sexualité. Des études qui nous laissent libres ! Alors, mythe ou pas ? Existe-t-il des études pour confirmer ou infirmer cela ? Dans un article mis en ligne l’année dernière à ce sujet, le magazine l'Equipe partage les résultats d’une première étude menée dans les années 90 aux Etats-Unis grâce à la curiosité d’une étudiante de l'Université de Southern Mississippi. La conclusion : sur les 11 hommes observés âgés en moyenne de 26 ans, aucune différence n'a pu être constatée entre ceux qui ont fait l'amour et ceux qui n'ont pas fait l'amour avant de courir sur un tapis. Une autre étude, cette fois plus récente (2016) et publiée dans le Science Daily, s'est penchée quant à elle sur toutes les études à ce propos… cherchant à déceler la vérité. Il ressort de cette analyse que l'abstinence et les performances n'ont pas grand-chose à voir… Selon les chercheurs, à moins de faire du sexe deux heures avant une compétition décisive, aucune raison de se planter. Plus exactement, on peut lire que « aucune importance particulière n’a été accordée aux effets psychologiques ou physiques de l’activité sexuelle sur les performances sportives, ou sur les différents types de sports. » De quoi démystifier l'idée que le sexe nuit aux résultats sportifs (mais ne pas oublier de se faire plaisir 120 minutes avant d’enfiler son short…). Et pour les femmes ? En effet, les performances sexuelles VS les performances sportives sont bien moins considérées chez les femmes… L’enquête du Science Daily prend d’ailleurs le temps de le souligner :  les hommes sont bien plus souvent étudiés que les femmes. Pour autant, du sexe qui fatigue, c’est du sexe qui fatigue ! De la même façon, un rapport sexuel qui booste est un rapport sexuel qui booste… Mais les hormones, dans tout ça ? Elles peuvent orienter l’impact des rapports sexuels sur l’effort ! Pour répondre à la question, faudrait plutôt regarder du côté de la santé menstruelle. En début de cycle, avec les menstruations, les femmes pourraient être plus fatiguées. Au milieu de cycle, période d’ovulation, c’est différent : généralement, les femmes ont plus d’énergie, le moment est idéal pour faire du sport. Et si c’était une bonne idée, le sexe avant la compétition ? Parmi toutes les études existantes à ce sujet, certaines nous enverraient un autre son de cloche… Tendez l’oreille, enfin ouvrez les yeux : le sexe pourrait favoriser la relaxation et améliorer le sommeil (gros dodo post-coït), si bien que les athlètes seraient en forme ! Aussi, les hormones que nous produisons pendant l’amour auraient leur rôle à jouer dans l’activité physique : anti-stress, joie… On se sentirait bien, dans le corps et dans la tête ! N’est-ce pas la preuve, finalement, qu’il est impossible de statuer et qu’il s’agit avant tout de décisions personnelles, d’élans ou de freins intimes ? Si on va plus loin, on peut aussi noter qu’une vie sexuelle épanouie (et non pas seulement un rapport one shot la veille d’une compétition) participerait à améliorer la confiance en soi. Si on se sent bien dans sa peau, heureux dans ses relations et à l’aise avec son corps, on décroche plus facilement des rideaux et des médailles ! Alors, on fait quoi ? On fait bien ce que l’on veut ! De là, chaque sportif verra midi à sa porte : envie de sexe ou non ? Ce rapport sexuel peut-il me faire du bien, m’apporter des forces ? Au contraire, va-t-t-il m’épuiser ? Suis-je plutôt pour nourrir mes performances sexuelles ou sportives, aujourd’hui ? Où ai-je besoin de placer ma libido, cette énergie vitale qui vibre en moi ? On se pose les bonnes questions ! On interroge aussi ses croyances : en effet, si on croit dur comme fer que les rapports sexuels avant un effort sportif ont un impact négatif sur nos performances, alors on s’abstient, peu importe que ce soit vrai ou pas. Car c’est aussi ce que l’on a dans la tête qui peut changer la donne… La seule chose à faire, c’est bien de s’écouter, sachant que tout dépend également de la pratique sportive qui nous attend. Une petite course le dimanche, ce ne sont pas les Jeux Olympiques… A vous de voir !   Nos recos pour du sexe doux (qui prend soin de vous avant le sport) Avant le sport, pourquoi ne pas s’offrir un moment doux pour la tête et le corps, qui n’épuise pas mais détend ? Chez Goliate, on a créé une crème de massage comestible bio et 2en1 : le couple gourmand pour un moment sensuel et plus si affinité. Vous pouvez aussi partir avec notre huile de massage aphrodisiaque bio pour vous détendre et éveiller vos sens. Que de produits pour des parties de slow sexe super agréables !

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Qu'est-ce qu'un orgasme et comment le reconnaitre?

Il y a le plaisir sexuel… et puis il y a l’orgasme, cet étonnant climax aux sensations fortes. Mais pourquoi jouit-on, exactement ? Peut-on ne pas s’en apercevoir ? Comment reconnaître l’orgasme, tous nos orgasmes ? On fait le tour du sujet ! Demandez à quiconque de vous définir l’orgasme : chacun ira de sa définition et de son adjectif. Pour certains, l’orgasme est volcanique, surprenant, bouillant, tremblant. Pour d’autres, il est frissonnant, rare, comique, mou ou mignon. Pour d’autres encore, il est… un mystère. Car oui, si l’orgasme fait partie de nos vies sexuelles, est-on sûr de bien le connaître et le reconnaître ? De l’accepter comme il est pour davantage profiter de lui ? Il a beau être au centre de nos conversations, nous avons beaucoup à apprendre à son sujet pour mieux l’apprécier et mieux jouir ! Une définition… médicale L’orgasme est une expérience clé de la sexualité humaine et de la santé sexuelle. Autrement dit, il nous apporte satisfaction lors de nos rapports sexuels. Mais d’où sort-il, exactement ? Il survient généralement après les phases d’excitation et de plateau. Ces phases de ce que l’on appelle « la réponse sexuelle » ont été définies par Masters et Johnson, chercheurs pionniers en sexualité, au siècle dernier. Il s’agit des différentes étapes que l’on traverse lors d’un rapport sexuel. Après la phase d’excitation (le désir est assouvi, le plaisir monte), nous atteignons la phase de plateau, durant laquelle notre plaisir se maintient. Puis voilà que tout le plaisir contenu finit par exploser : c’est l’orgasme, ou la décharge orgasmique ! La plupart de temps, on ressent une perte de contrôle. Que se passe-t-il exactement dans notre corps, quand on perd le contrôle ? Le DSM-5 (Manuel diagnostique et statistique des troubles mentaux de l'American Psychiatric Association), ouvrage de référence en psychiatrie qui s’intéresse à de nombreux phénomènes psychologiques et physiologiques, propose une définition de l’orgasme. On peut lire qu’il est une « sensation de plaisir intense résultant de la stimulation sexuelle, accompagnée de contractions rythmiques involontaires des muscles du plancher pelvien. » Il faut ajouter à ça une dimension psy : on ressent aussi des choses dans la tête ! Du relâchement, des émotions, de l’amour, de la satisfaction… C’était un orgasme, ça ? Toutes les preuves à connaître ! Certaines personnes ne savent pas qu’elles ont joui, du moins elles doutent ! Cela s’explique par un orgasme discret ou rapide, ou encore par un manque de connexion à soi-même. Alors, pour reconnaître un orgasme, on peut aller au-delà de sa définition et découvrir tous les phénomènes susceptibles de l’accompagner. Les contractions involontaires du plancher pelvien, autrement dit de la zone intime : en effet, comme le suggère la définition officielle, l’orgasme se manifeste par des contractions dans la zone intime. C’est un peu comme si tout le plaisir concentré ici-même depuis le début du rapport sexuel jaillissait. Un rythme cardiaque qui accélère : pendant l’amour, le cœur bat vite. Pendant l’orgasme, il cogne ! Une respiration plus rapide : la respiration est également un marqueur de l’orgasme. On peut avoir besoin de reprendre son souffle, on peut chercher son air, on peut haleter de plaisir… La température corporelle augmente : difficile de le mesurer (on ne va pas sortir le thermomètre), mais on peut sentir que l’on a chaud ! Le diamètre de la pupille s’élargit : certes, ce n’est pas le moment de s’observer dans un miroir, mais vous pouvez regarder votre partenaire dans les yeux… et constater combien c’est magique ! Une envie de faire pipi, notamment chez les femmes (je vous invite aussi à lire notre article sur l'éjaculation féminine). La partie du périnée qui entoure le vagin peut, en se contractant de plus en plus fort, chatouiller l’urètre. Pour rappel, le périnée est un ensemble de muscles qui participent au plaisir sexuel. Chez la femme, toujours, la lubrification est plus intense : les femmes se sentent davantage mouillées. Aussi, les lèvres au niveau de la vulve gonflent et le gland du clitoris est plus visible et plus dur. Chez l’homme, l’érection peut être plus dure, plus rigide, preuve que l’orgasme est en cours. L’éjaculation, chez les hommes, est également une preuve de l’orgasme qui point. Toutefois, attention, il n’est pas impossible d’éjaculer sans jouir : on parle alors de réflexe. Le plaisir mécanique est présent mais il manque certainement une dimension psy pour déclencher un véritable orgasme masculin capable de surprendre le corps et l’esprit ! Et puis, selon les individus : une envie de rire ou de pleurer, un besoin de crier ou de parler, des rougeurs sur la poitrine, un fantasme de douleur, des spasmes... Après l’orgasme, de nouveaux indices pour savoir que l’on a joui Si, pendant l’orgasme, certaines femmes et certains hommes ont envie de rire ou de pleurer, il faut savoir que ces réactions émotionnelles peuvent arriver après l’orgasme et l’éjaculation. Ainsi, si vous êtes ému, dites-vous que vous venez certainement de jouir. Sinon, pourquoi votre état changerait-il comme ça ? En plus de cela, après un rapport sexuel et un orgasme, une sensation intense de détente peut vous envahir, jusqu’à vous donner envie dormir. Car oui, le cerveau est présent pendant le plaisir et l’orgasme : il lâche des neurotransmetteurs qui ont un super effet relaxant ! Par exemple, l’ocytocine détend et renforce le lien au partenaire, tandis que les endorphines, connues pour atténuer la sensation de douleur physique procurent un état de bien-être général. Donc si vous planez après avoir pris beaucoup de plaisir, c’est normal, et il y a de grandes chances que vous ayez touché l’orgasme ! Une autre façon de se rendre compte de l’orgasme qui vient de se produire : la sensibilité des parties intimes. Tout le monde ne la rencontre pas. Mais beaucoup d’hommes et de femmes ne souhaitent plus qu’on leur touche le pénis, la vulve ou le gland du clitoris : ces organes du plaisir ont bien travaillé et ont besoin de se remettre de leurs émotions. On parle de période réfractaire, ce laps de temps durant lequel le sexe prend sa pause après la jouissance. L’érection redescend, le clitoris aussi. Il faudra plusieurs minutes, voire plusieurs heures, pour relancer le plaisir depuis la phase d’excitation, la toute première ! Orgasme clitoridien ou vaginal ? La question existe toujours. Des femmes pensent parfois qu’elles n’ont pas joui car il n’y a eu pénétration vaginale, c’est faux ! L’orgasme féminin n’a pas de loi, pas de règles. Dans tous les cas, il provient du clitoris, ce fabuleux organe dédié au plaisir, qui gonfle à mesure des caresses. Distinguer l’orgasme vaginal de l’orgasme clitoridien n’a donc aucun sens, et c’est une bonne nouvelle. Le clitoris s’étend à l’intérieur du corps sur plusieurs centimètres. Dans sa « planque », il croise le périnée, qui, à force de contractions, le stimule. En somme, une femme peut jouir en pratiquant une pénétration vaginale, mais aussi en profitant de stimulations de la vulve et du gland du clitoris. D’ailleurs, on sait aujourd’hui que les femmes qui ont tendance à moins jouir mènent généralement une vie sexuelle très orientée sur la pénétration vaginale : or, c’est bien en caressant l’extérieur du sexe féminin (la vulve et la partie émergée du clitoris) que l’orgasme peut surprendre ! Eh oui, il s’agit d’un orgasme à part entière. On peut tout à fait avoir un orgasme sans avoir stimulé le vagin, de la même manière que faire du sexe sans pénétration, c’est faire du sexe quand même ! En sortant de ces stéréotypes, on s’ouvre à tous nos orgasmes et on les aime d’autant plus ! Changer sa vision de l’orgasme pour mieux jouir Et si on arrêtait d’imaginer que l’orgasme est forcément la conséquence d’une pénétration active et rythmée ? Et si on arrêtait d’imaginer que l’orgasme est forcément spectaculaire, accompagné de cris, de rideaux qu’on arrache, d’ongles qui griffent les épaules du partenaire ? En accordant davantage de liberté à nos orgasmes, en acceptant qu’ils soient petits, grands, timides, originaux ou encore flemmards, on apprend à les accueillir comme ils sont et donc à les apprécier. On apprend également à apprécier leurs particularités : certains nous feront suffoquer, d’autres nous offriront de petits tremblements seulement… On saura alors que toutes les manifestations physiques et physiologiques sont dans la nature, et que le plus important, c’est bien de se connecter à elles pour en tirer un maximum de plaisir ! Choisissons donc de regarder nos orgasmes avec plus d’indulgence. Si on sort de notre vision étroite, on reconnaîtra mieux l’orgasme, puisqu’on lui accordera le droit d’être qui il est ! Qui sait si nous ne sommes pas passés à côté de plusieurs orgasmes, tout ça parce qu’ils n’avaient pas l’air… d’orgasme ? Se laisser surprendre par l’orgasme Pourquoi certaines personnes accusent des difficultés à jouir ? Parce qu’elles espèrent, plus que tout, jouir. Nous voulons tous des orgasmes : il faut voir comme la jouissance est plaisante ! Mais si nous focalisons uniquement sur cet objectif, nous passons à côté du plaisir. Notre « phase de plateau » s’appauvrit. Or, c’est bien en vivant à fond les caresses, en prenant le temps de stimuler nos zones érogènes, que l’on cumule du plaisir. Voilà comment l’orgasme peut nous surprendre ensuite : parce qu’on ne s’attend pas à lui mais qu’on a mis toutes les chances de notre côté ! Une bonne résolution : ne plus chercher à « performer ». L’idée n’est pas d’atteindre d’incroyables orgasmes mais de se sentir bien dans son corps, de se connecter à ses sensations, de prendre soin de ses rapports sexuels, de le faire durer… C’est comme ça que l’orgasme peut débarquer et être agréable. Oser la masturbation pour mieux connaître ses orgasmes Pour d’autant mieux accepter ses orgasmes et surtout apprendre à les connaître et les reconnaître, la pratique de la masturbation chez les femmes comme chez les hommes est une bonne idée. Bien entendu, il ne s’agit pas d’une pratique obligatoire : chacun fait ce qu’il veut, comme il veut. Simplement, le fait de s’essayer à l’autoérotisme offre un temps d’observation très précieux. Disons qu’il n’est pas question de faire l’amour avec son cerveau (seulement) et d’être en mode « analyse », mais il est intéressant de voir la masturbation comme un terrain de jeu et de sensations nouvelles en quête d’une sexualité plus épanouie. On peut tester des choses : Est-ce que si je me caresse plus longtemps et contiens mon désir plus longtemps, l’orgasme est plus fort ensuite ? Est-ce que des caresses plus franches provoquent un plaisir plus grand ? Est-ce qu’une masturbation plus « physique » (changement de positions, rythme de caresses soutenu…) entraîne des orgasmes d’un nouveau type ? Dois-je stimuler des zones érogènes que j’ai tendance à oublier, ou qui sont peu sollicitées pendant les rapports sexuels à deux ? Elles méritent peut-être un meilleur traitement ! En solo, c’est l’occasion ! Est-ce que mes doigts me comblent de plaisir, ou puis-je utiliser un sextoy ? Pour stimuler le clitoris et le vagin chez la femme, la prostate et le pénis chez l’homme… A chaque jouet son rôle pour nous accompagner dans l’expérience de nos orgasmes. La masturbation permet ainsi de découvrir plusieurs types d’orgasmes et de comprendre que nos orgasmes ne sont jamais les mêmes. Tout dépend de nos caresses, de nos pratiques, des zones érogènes abordées, de notre état d’esprit à ce moment-là… L’important, c’est d’entendre que tous les orgasmes sont dans… notre nature ! Nos sextoys best-sellers pour une (re)découverte de vos orgasmes myPleasure, Le Vibromasseur Point G incurvé, un sextoy au féminin pour une stimulation vaginale en douceur. The Amazing! - Le 2 en 1 - Stimulateur clitoridien & vibromasseur, pour une stimulation clitoridienne inouïe grâce à des vibrations intenses. Adès - L'expérience ultime pour votre pénis, pour une pénétration parfaite et de nouvelles sensations à l’érection !

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4 pistes pour connaître la sexualité sacrée

Chez Goliate, nous nous intéressons de près à la sexualité sacrée, une approche spirituelle de la sexualité pour un maximum d’amour et de connexion à soi et à l’autre. Explications et conseils pour rencontrer une nouvelle forme d’extase. La sexualité sacrée peut faire peur : de suite, on imagine une pratique perchée, loin de la sexualité que l’on connaît. Et si c’était ça, justement, tout l’intérêt ? L’occasion de quitter nos automatismes sexuels et nos pratiques récurrentes – pénétration, orgasme, sommeil – pour redécouvrir ses désirs, ses plaisirs, et le lien fort entre deux partenaires ? Cela vous paraît toujours flou ? Pour bien comprendre ce qu’est la sexualité sacrée et vous faire un avis, il faut comprendre ce qu’est le sexe tantrique : une sorte d’état d’éveil et de conscience prononcée à l’amour et au plaisir charnel. En somme, on oublie les caresses efficaces et directives de la sexualité des temps modernes pour chérir la relation et la connexion qui s’offrent à nous. De là, on flirte alors avec des sensations nouvelles, tant sur le plan sentimental que sur le plan corporel. Voici nos pistes, au nombre de quatre, pour s’y essayer et redécouvrir sa sexualité… en version tantra, soit en version plus sacrée ! Oser les regards… sans les mains Et si, pour sortir d’une sexualité mécanique, telle qu’on l’invite depuis toujours dans notre intimité, on commençait par se mettre nus, face à face ? En tailleur sur le lit ou le canapé, des plaids à porter de main s’il le faut, chaque membre du couple ferme les yeux et prend le temps de respirer lentement. Ce moment de concentration permet d’éloigner les pensées intrusives et de se connecter à soi et à sa propre présence avant de partir en quête de l’autre. Le couple peut également synchroniser sa respiration pour que l’énergie sexuelle s’installe et circule. Ensuite, le couple ouvre les yeux et joue à se contempler, se regarder, pourquoi pas se sourire. Bien sûr, on peut ressentir de la gêne. Mais cet exercice est très intéressant, il propose aux corps et aux cœurs de vivre ensemble, de très près, et de capter leurs énergies mutuelles. Vous pouvez, ensuite, vous toucher les mains. Vous êtes désormais reliés ! Que ressentez-vous exactement ? De tendre ou d’excitant ? Bon à savoir : l’objectif de cette pratique n’est pas d’avoir un rapport sexuel. Sinon, vous risquez d’aller vite et de ne pas profiter de la connexion qui s’établit. Regardez-vous un certain temps puis allongez-vous ensemble en entreprenant, si vous le souhaitez, de très lentes caresses pour continuer de vous éveiller. En « frustrant » votre désir, vous le chargez ! Puis, ensuite, pourquoi ne pas décider de faire l’amour demain ? Conserver ce désir ardent revient à demeurer dans un état d’énergie sexuelle très intéressant. Pratiquer la pénétration au ralenti Personne n’ignore le caractère parfois ennuyant des va-et-vient de la pénétration ! Et pourtant, nous continuons. Par plaisir, certes, mais aussi par habitude. Et s’il était l’heure de redécouvrir la pénétration façon sexualité sacrée, revisitée à l’aune de la spiritualité ? Comment rendre la pénétration plus sacrée et tourner la page de cette pratique devenue machinale ? Vous pouvez opter pour la pénétration au ralenti : il y a bien pénétration mais une fois que la fusion s’installe, arrêtez tout ! Quand vous êtes parfaitement unis car parfaitement emboîtés, la sexualité sacrée vous invite à freiner les mouvements et à en initier de très légers. Pourquoi ne pas onduler ensemble, à un rythme doux, toujours en vous regardant dans les yeux pour renforcer le lien entre les corps et les esprits ? La tentation d’accélérer peut être prégnante ! Et pourquoi pas, si vous en ressentez l’envie. Mais revenez de temps à autre à cet exercice sacré, qui, à force de pratique, vous faire découvrir un nouveau type d’orgasme puissant car très contenu ! Bon à savoir : vous pouvez pratiquer la circlusion, qui prend le contrepoids de la pénétration. Il faut oublier l’idée du pénis qui entre dans le vagin – ou l’anus, mais bien se rappeler que l’organe du partenaire accueille et enveloppe le pénis. Chaque partenaire est à la fois donneur et récepteur. Le rapport avec la sexualité sacrée ? Au cœur de ce temps suspendu, hommes et femmes peuvent se focaliser sur cet équilibre. Chaque corps donne autant à l’autre et les énergies circulent librement. Cette égalité est bonne pour la relation. Appréciez cet exercice et le plaisir nouveau qu’il vous propose ! Danser lentement et intuitivement La danse peut être sexy, mais elle peut surtout être sensuelle. Pourquoi ne pas essayer, en couple, d’entamer quelques pas de danse, pour vous connecter l’un à l’autre ? Habillés, vous lancez une musique qui vous plaît puis vous laissez vos corps faire le reste. Comment ondulent-ils ? Remuent-ils ? Se collent-ils ? Le simple fait de bouger soutient la circulation des énergies d’un partenaire à l’autre. Cette activité invite à l’abandon et donc au lâcher-prise, une notion centrale dans le tantra. Lâcher-prise ne paraît jamais évident, mais c’est lorsque nous oublions l’extérieur et acceptons de ne plus rien contrôler que nous pouvons être entièrement présent à notre corps et à nos sensations. Bon à savoir : n’hésitez pas à éteindre la lumière, ce qui vous permettra d’entrer dans une bulle loin du monde réel, et, pourquoi pas, à laisser quelques zones de votre peau à l’air libre. Vos peaux nues, l’une contre l’autre, pourront communiquer et communier. Une porte s’ouvre pour le désir ! Quand la danse a bien duré, vous pouvez enchaîner sur un autre exercice, ou bien prendre le temps d’un moment de tendresse pour poursuivre la connexion. Activer ses cinq sens Pour un éveil des corps et de la conscience, nos cinq sens ont un rôle à jouer. Dans une approche tantrique de la sexualité, il est donc intéressant de les solliciter pour les « éduquer ». Plus ils participeront aux rapports intimes, plus ils s’exprimeront d’eux-mêmes : avec le temps, vos sens seront toujours de la partie et vous soutiendront dans vos plaisirs ! La stimulation des sens est donc précieuse, d’autant qu’elle crée du jeu et de la complicité. Le couple peut se munir de glaçons, de chocolat, de tissus doux, et puis mettre de la musique dans la pièce. On écoute, on sent, on frissonne, on goûte, et on regarde. Vous êtes libres, servez-vous de votre imagination. Chaque fois que l’un de vos sens est titillé, focalisez-vous sur la sensation, uniquement sur la sensation, et placez-y toute votre conscience ! Oubliez les possibles caresses, les orgasmes à venir, les pratiques qui rythment votre sexualité depuis le début de votre vie sexuelle. Concentrez-vous seulement sur ce que votre corps ressent. Parmi nos produits, tous bios et fabriqués en France, « Le couple gourmand » (Un 2 en 1 huile de massage comestible et lubrifiant intime) peut vous accompagner dans cet éveil des sens. Notre produit Huile de massage aphrodisiaque vous surprendra également ! Bon à savoir : choisir de travailler ses sens tout en insistant sur les regards (comme proposé piste n°1) et en partageant des gestes lents peut vous conduire à des orgasmes tantriques. Autrement dit, le plaisir atteint une nouvelle dimension : votre esprit est 100% connecté à ce plaisir montant, l’orgasme semble approcher mais n’explose pas ; l’énergie sexuelle contenue est incroyable et vous procure un plaisir inouï. Bienvenue en sexualité sacrée, ce monde où le sexe nous éveille !

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Plaisir anal : vos interrogations et nos réponses !

Le plaisir anal vous attire autant qu’il vous questionne ? Chez Goliate, en plus de concevoir des produits (tous fabriqués en France) qui vous accompagnent dans la découverte de vos pratiques, nous répondons à toutes vos appréhensions sur le sujet ! L’anus et le rectum sont des zones innervées, c’est-à-dire qu’elles sont sensibles et susceptibles de nous procurer du plaisir – et même un orgasme – lorsqu’elles sont stimulées ! Via la sodomie, mais aussi l’anulingus ou des caresses externes bien menées autour de l’anus, les sensations anales sont porteuses de bonnes surprises et d’extase ! En solitaire lors de la masturbation, en couple, avec un sextoy, des doigts, un pénis… Tout est possible. Mais il reste à se débarrasser de ses appréhensions, somme toute normales, en faisant le plein de connaissances sur le sexe anal, pour un lâcher-prise de rigueur et de fabuleuses découvertes à la clé ! J’ai peur d’avoir mal Cette peur est très fréquente, et elle se justifie ! Pourquoi ? Le rectum, contrairement au vagin par exemple, ne lubrifie pas spontanément. Ce qui veut dire que la pénétration, par un objet, un pénis ou même un doigt, peut entraîner quelques gênes (ça ripe, ça manque de fluidité…). Craindre la douleur lors de la pratique du sexe anal est donc normal. Nos conseils  La solution est toute trouvée : l’utilisation d’un lubrifiant ! Le lubrifiant est le compagnon parfait et rassurant de la pénétration anale, dont il serait dommage de se passer quand on sait qu’il est indispensable. C’est la nature qui le veut ! Bien sûr, en plus du lubrifiant comme « soutien », nous vous recommandons d’y aller pas à pas : si c’est votre première fois, commencez par des caresses anales et jouez avec vos doigts ou les doigts de votre partenaire. L’important est de partir à la conquête de cette zone érogène de votre corps en toute confiance, pour mieux vous familiariser avec elle et mieux l’explorer. Chez Goliate, nous avons conçu un lubrifiant anal, le Gel lubrifiant anal, pensé pour votre plaisir. A base d’eau et de texture non grasse, il est composé d’ingrédients naturels, qui respectent la zone intime et est certifié bio. Compatible avec les sextoys et les plugs en silicone, il apporte l’humidité nécessaire à la pratique anale. Avec lui, vous pouvez partir en douceur à la rencontre de vos plaisirs, en solo ou en couple. J’ai peur de me tendre et de bloquer la pénétration On comprend cette peur ! En cas d’appréhension, il n’est pas impossible que votre corps émette un blocage. Cela n’empêche pas toujours la pénétration mais peut générer des douleurs malgré tout. Mais comment se détendre ? Nos conseils D’abord, assurez-vous d’avoir envie de tester le plaisir anal et d’être en parfaite confiance et sécurité avec votre partenaire et votre environnement. Il ne faut pas se forcer à découvrir des plaisirs pour découvrir des plaisirs ! Soyez à votre écoute. Si l’envie est vraiment là, alors vous pouvez prendre le temps d’approcher la zone anale, dans une position confortable. Inutile de commencer par l’emploi d’un sextoy qui pourrait vous surprendre trop rapidement ! Commencez avec vos doigts, et optez pour de douces caresses autour de l’anus et à l’entrée de l’anus. Plus le plaisir va monter, plus vous allez vous relaxer et envoyer à votre esprit un signal positif. Votre sphincter anal (le muscle qui entoure le rectum, susceptible de se « contracter » et de freiner toute pénétration) se relâchera plus aisément. On parle de dilatation ! Nous avons pensé un Relaxant anal, parfaitement décontractant. Il se compose d’huiles essentielles d’estragon, poivre noir, romarin et gaulthérie, réputées pour leurs vertus décontractantes, ainsi que de benjoin et ginseng, deux plantes qui stimulent le plaisir. En sus, il se marie très bien à notre Gel lubrifiant anal et aide à cicatricer les microcoupures: le combo gagnant d’une sexualité qui mène à l’abandon de soi ! J’ai peur d’être sale Encore une appréhension très courante. Mais bonne nouvelle : de la même façon que le vagin se nettoie tout seul (comme l’œil aussi, en passant), le rectum est capable d’une telle prouesse, lui aussi. Toutefois, on n’est jamais certain de ce qu’il s’y passe exactement, et l’anus, lui, a besoin d’un coup de main. Il n’est pas seulement l’orifice mais aussi l’entrée du rectum, zone que l’on peut donc nettoyer. Nos conseils Il va de soi qu’une bonne hygiène intime est de mise, notamment après être allé à la selle. Utilisez de l’eau et un savon doux, surtout si vous avez prévu d’avoir un rapport sexuel avec plaisir anal. Une solution « sûre », qui rassure beaucoup, consiste à effectuer un lavement rectal. Il faut bien respecter le processus. Généralement, on utilise une poire de lavement, qui va servir à remplir le rectum avec de l’eau. Cette eau, une fois relâchée (on la retient quelques secondes) évacue les éventuels débris de selles. Suivez bien votre notice ! Attention néanmoins à ne pas abuser des lavements, qui pourraient à la longue perturber l’équilibre de la flore (la fameuse qui sert au lavement du rectum). Enfin, sachez que pour des raisons d’hygiène, mais aussi pour vous protéger des IST, l’utilisation de préservatif peut être très utile.   J’ai peur d’utiliser un sextoy Ça tombe bien : rien n’oblige à utiliser un sextoy pour découvrir le plaisir anal. C’est comme vous voulez, sachant qu’il y a des avantages et des inconvénients ! Nos conseils Si vous êtes novice, évitez les « gros » sextoys, qui pourraient vous brusquer et qui ne possèdent pas de « bras », soit un repli qui empêche toute « absorption » anale (on vous rassure, ce n’est pas si courant, notamment avec des sextoys qui prennent de la place). L’idéal : le plug anal, fin et courbé, parfaitement adapté à la pratique anale. Il peut vous aider à rencontrer votre anus en douceur ! Et s’il vibre, l’expérience peut être d’autant plus étonnante : le plug peut vous conduire tranquillement vers un plaisir plus prononcé. Aussi, pour les hommes, l’utilisation d’un masseur prostatique sera à double effet, entre stimulation anale et stimulation de la prostate ! Bien sûr, si vous préférez utiliser vos doigts, pour un contrôle plus précis de vos gestes, c’est super aussi, même si, lors de la masturbation, il n’est pas simple de se contorsionner. D’où le recours possible à un plug aussi doux que rassurant ! J’ai peur de ne pas aimer ou de ne rien sentir C’est possible : peut-être que le plaisir anal, en fin de compte, ça ne sera pas votre truc ! Toujours est-il que si vous avez très envie de tester, partir à sa rencontre est une bonne chose. Vous allez bâtir votre expérience et, petit à petit, développer un goût de reviens-y… ou pas du tout. Nos conseils En choisissant d’avancer par paliers, vous vous offrez la liberté de découvrir vos sensations en douceur. Sachez que le plaisir anal peut mener à l’orgasme, notamment quand d’autres zones érogènes sont stimulées (vagin, clitoris, prostate…). Par exemple, un massage des testicules pour les hommes, ou bien une stimulation de la vulve pour les femmes, sont des pratiques qui accentuent le plaisir et permettent alors à la zone anale de se libérer. Tout ça pour dire que le plaisir anal est souvent plus facile à tutoyer quand on l’implique dans un tout, c’est-à-dire des plaisirs que l’on maîtrise déjà !! Cette façon de faire vous aidera à l’apprivoiser et à affiner vos sensations à son égard ! Evidemment, si après quelques tentatives – toujours avec consentement, vous ne ressentez rien de convaincant, vous êtes en droit de tourner la page du plaisir anal ! Il existe mille et une façons de jouir, mille et une façon de façonner sa vie sexuelle, mille et une façon d’aimer et de connaître des orgasmes. Trouvez les siennes, voilà ce qu’on veut !

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Qu’est-ce que la pansexualité ?

La pansexualité, ça vous dit quelque chose ? Si cette orientation est de plus en plus visible, elle reste mal comprise. Attirance pour les hommes, les femmes, mais aussi pour toutes les identités de genre... C’est bien plus qu’une simple question de sexe ! On vous explique tout sur cette sexualité fluide et inspirante, en clarifiant les termes qui la définissent.Bas du formulaire Pansexualité : de quoi parle-t-on ? La pansexualité, c’est quoi au juste ? En voici une définition claire : il s’agit d’une orientation sexuelle qui se distingue par l'attirance envers une personne, sans se soucier de son genre ou de son sexe. Le préfixe « pan » signifie « tout », et c'est exactement l'idée : une personne pansexuelle ne limite pas ses relations aux hommes et aux femmes. Elle peut aussi être attirée par des personnes non-binaires ou transgenres. On pourrait évoquer une forme d’attraction fluide, qui met l’accent sur la personnalité et les émotions, plutôt que sur les critères physiques. En clair, ce qui plaît, c’est la personne, dans toute sa singularité. Non, la pansexualité n’est pas une mode Certaines stars comme Miley Cyrus, Janelle Monáe ou Cara Delevingne se revendiquent pansexuelles. Elles contribuent à rendre cette orientation plus visible, tout en sensibilisant tout un chacun. Miley Cyrus parle d'une liberté totale de choisir ses relations sans se limiter aux genres, tandis que la chanteuse et actrice Janelle Monáe explique être attirée par toutes les personnes, peu importe leur identité de genre. C’est parlant, et même indispensable, quand on voit combien les personnes pansexuelles font parfois face à des préjugés ou de la confusion. On ne comprend pas toujours leur orientation. Certains individus mal informés pensent que la pansexualité est une simple « mode » passagère, d’autant plus quand les stars s’en emparent ! Ce genre de méconnaissance peut être source de souffrance pour ceux qui cherchent simplement à être eux-mêmes dans la société. Le terme « pansexuel », au même titre que d’autres termes relatifs à d’autres orientations sexuelles, n’est pas là pour faire joli, mais pour raconter l’amour selon certaines personnes, tout en exprimant une réalité différente de la binarité traditionnelle. En adoptant un langage respectueux et inclusif, on contribue à normaliser cette diversité dans la société. Rose, jaune, bleu : le drapeau de la pansexualité vaut mille mots Le terme « pansexuel » a été façonné par les mouvements queer et les batailles pour que toutes les orientations sexuelles et toutes les identités de genre soient reconnues. Le drapeau de la pansexualité a alors été créé en 2013. Levez les yeux à la marche des fiertés : il sera parmi les drapeaux LGBTQ (drapeaux lesbien, transgenre, asexuel, bisexuel, genderfluid...), et notamment le célèbre drapeau arc-en-ciel (LGBT). Cette journée de célébration est un moment fort où le drapeau de la pansexualité est fièrement arboré, avec ses trois couleurs impossibles à ne pas retenir tant elles font sens : le rose, le jaune et le bleu. Le rose représente l'attirance pour les femmes, le bleu pour les hommes, et le jaune, placé entre les deux pour casser les schémas, symbolise les personnes non-binaires et de genres divers. Autrement dit : l’ouverture, le « tout », la liberté d’être, d’aimer et de mener la vie intime de son choix ! Ce drapeau est synonyme d’ouverture, de diversité, et soutient le concept de « fierté » au sein de la communauté lesbienne, gay, bisexuelle, transgenre, queer et intersexuée (LGBTQI), en France comme ailleurs dans le monde. Pansexualité et bisexualité : attention à la confusion ! On confond souvent la pansexualité et la bisexualité, mais ces orientations ne racontent pas vraiment la même histoire. La bisexualité, c’est l'attirance pour deux genres – on est attiré par un homme ou une femme, indifféremment. Mais un individu bisexuel peut aussi être attiré par des individus non-binaires, ce n'est pas exclu. D’où la confusion facile avec la pansexualité et le méli-mélo fréquent entre les termes. La vraie différence ? La bisexualité reconnaît encore, dans une certaine mesure, la binarité des genres, même si elle peut s'élargir à d'autres genres. En revanche, la pansexualité, elle, transcende complètement cette binarité. Elle va plus loin, elle ne se soucie pas des genres. Elle ne parle que de l’attirance pour la personne, point final. La pansexualité se place donc au-delà du concept de genre. Mais attention, chacun vit sa sexualité à sa manière, et pour certain, opérer une distinction et faire une vraie différence entre ces deux orientations n'est pas si importante. À chacun de se reconnaître là où il ou elle se sent à l’aise. Comment se passe une relation pansexuelle ? Comme les autres ! Dans les relations amoureuses, une personne pansexuelle tombe amoureuse d'une personne indépendamment de son genre. Les dynamiques dans un couple pansexuel sont les mêmes que dans n'importe quelle autre relation amoureuse : ce sont les émotions et la compatibilité qui dessinent le lien et la vie amoureuse. Il faut combattre l’idée reçue selon laquelle l’attirance pour plusieurs genres peut compliquer les choses. En réalité, c’est la sincérité des sentiments et l’authenticité de la relation qui importent. Et en général, ça ne complique rien du tout, bien au contraire. Une sexualité non-binaire, un vent de liberté vers l’avenir Par essence, la pansexualité est donc non-binaire. Elle remet en question les classifications traditionnelles du genre. Avec elle, grâce à elle, le genre devient secondaire dans les relations, voire pas important du tout. Ce qui prime, c'est la personne et ce que l’on ressent pour elle ! Ainsi, dans un couple pansexuel, l'important est la connexion authentique et l'amour. Avec l’évolution des mentalités et la reconnaissance croissante des identités de genre fluides, la pansexualité joue un rôle important dans la déconstruction des stéréotypes. Elle célèbre l’idée que l’amour n’a pas besoin de rentrer dans des cases, et n’a même aucun intérêt à le faire. C’est une ouverture qui permet d’aimer librement, sans se laisser enfermer par des notions de genre. Beaucoup de personnes pansexuelles disent que cette orientation leur permet de vivre leurs relations avec plus de liberté et de fluidité. C’est un amour qui ne se limite pas à des étiquettes, mais qui favorise les connexions sincères, spontanées. Ça change la donne ! L’amour reprend ses droits, et, chez Goliate, c’est exactement ce que l’on défend. Depuis 2016, Goliate pense et conçoit des produits qui vous accompagnent dans votre sexualité et participent à la découverte de tous vos plaisirs, sans étiquette et avec une parfaite liberté. Du lubrifiant intime bio au gel orgasmique pour le clitoris en passant par l'huile de massage aphrodisiaque, il y a pour tous les gouts!   

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The different types of couples: from polyamory to open couples, we tell you everything!

Hey! Ever wonder what happens in relationships other than the classic "two people, together forever" ? In our modern world, romantic relationships come in all the colors of the rainbow. Whether it's to spice up life together or because we believe that love can be multiple, there are a variety of couple configurations to explore. Come on, we'll take you on a tour of the different types of relationships to see what might suit you, talking about everything: emotions, love, sex and much more! Open couples: when freedom rhymes with fidelity In an open relationship , you agree to see other people, but only in bed. This means that you and your significant other can have affairs without questioning your commitment. It's great for those who want a bit of fresh air without losing what they've built together. Heart side : you stay anchored to each other, while exploring from time to time. Bed side : freedom, but with clear rules so that everyone is comfortable. Head side : you have to be strong to handle this, especially if jealousy rears its ugly head! Libertine couples: sharing is also loving Swinging couples love parties where we exchange more than just hellos. These can be clubs or private parties where we share intimate moments with others, while remaining a united couple. On the heart side : you do everything together, which can really strengthen your bond. Bedside : It's hot, it's exciting, and it can spice up your sex life. Head side : you have to be very open and self-confident, and above all communicate well. Polyamory: Love in the Plural Polyamorous people believe that you can love multiple people at the same time, ethically and consensually. Imagine multiple relationships, all important, all unique. On the heart side : the more the merrier? It can be enriching to share your life with several partners. Bedside : Every relationship can be different, which means diversity and exploration. Head side : it requires a lot of management! Between schedules and emotions, you have to juggle. The open relationship: without attachment, but with respect In an open relationship , there are no real rules. Everyone does what they want, when they want, with whom they want. It's total freedom. On the heart side : it's cool not to have to be accountable, but you really have to be on the same wavelength. In bed : absolute freedom! But always with consent and respect for all partners. Head side : for independent minds, it's perfect, but it can also be a little scary not knowing where you're going. Let's explore other forms of couples Beyond open, libertine, polyamorous and free relationships, there is a whole world of love configurations that deserve a look. Each type offers a new way of seeing and experiencing relationships, adapted to the needs and desires of each person. Mono/Poly Couples : Imagine a couple where one is all about monogamy while the other happily explores polyamory. It takes a lot of chit-chat to keep everyone happy and respected, but it can definitely work! Relationship Anarchy : Here, we say no to hierarchies. Everyone is on an equal footing, whether lovers, friends or family. It's all about freedom and personal choice, questioning what society expects of us in love. Long-distance love : In the age of the internet, many people experience romances miles apart. These relationships test trust and communication, but they can also make the time spent together even more precious. Serial couples : and then there are those who prefer short but passionate stories, choosing to live relationships one after the other rather than committing to the long term. Each relationship style has its own challenges and benefits, reflecting the richness of human experiences with love and intimacy. By learning and respecting these different ways of being together, we can better understand our own romantic journey and, who knows, become more open and tolerant of the romantic choices of others around us. Spice up your love life with a little something extra! A few sex toys or intimate pleasure gels? Our naughty little gadgets are perfect for exploring new sensations and rediscovering pleasure, whether you're solo, in a duo or more! For fun for two (or more!) : Are you a couple, a threesome or more? Our sex toys are great for exploring together and spicing things up. They open the door to exciting adventures and can really strengthen your bond as you discover together what makes you tick. Solo but oho!: and if you're more on your little solo cloud, no worries! Our toys are also there to accompany you in your quest for personal pleasure. They are great for helping you get to know yourself better and enjoy a sweet moment, just for you. All in softness and safety : we do not forget comfort and safety! All our pleasure gels and intimate lubricants are certified organic , enriched with natural active ingredients and made in France, in the South-West with a partner family laboratory that grows its own plants! In short, everything to make it slide perfectly, and to ensure you have a smooth and pleasant experience. So why not give it a try? Exploring new ways to have fun can really spice up your love life . Take a look at our selection and find the thing that will take you to seventh heaven. Let yourself go, explore and above all, have fun! What can we conclude from this? No matter what type of relationship you’re considering, the important thing is to find what makes you happy and to respect others. In a world where love takes so many forms, why limit yourself? Talk, explore, and most importantly, have fun! Who knows? Maybe one of these configurations is the one that will make you vibrate.

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The Art of Deep Throat: Techniques and Pleasures of a Very Intimate Experience

In the arsenal of sexual techniques, deep throating is often seen as one of the most daring and intimately connected acts . Often glorified in the media for its intensity and depth of sensation, deep throating is not only a feat of performance, but a form of intimate expression that can strengthen the bond between couples. If you are curious about how to master this technique and want to explore both its physical and emotional dimensions, here is a complete guide for you. What are the origins of deep throat? The practice of deepthroating, while often considered a modern phenomenon, has roots that go back into history. The term became widely known in the 1970s with the release of the adult film "Deep Throat" , which not only popularized the term but also placed it firmly in the public domain. However, practices similar to deepthroating can be traced back well before that time, in various cultures around the world. In ancient times, some references to acts similar to deepthroating can be found in the erotic art and literature of civilizations such as ancient India and Japan . For example, some ancient Hindu texts and Japanese Shunga artwork explicitly depict deep oral acts, indicating familiarity with this form of sexual pleasure. The historical context of deep throating is therefore complex and multifaceted. The practice, in its various forms, has been both tolerated and taboo, often shrouded in secrecy due to its intimate nature and sometimes judged. In contemporary societies, it has gained visibility and, at times, acceptability , thanks in part to greater understanding and more open communication around sexual practices. Today, deep throating is recognized not only as an act of intense pleasure but also as an expression of trust and intimacy between consenting partners. Why practice deep throat? Intensity of Connection : Deep throating can be an incredibly intimate experience and an act of trust, strengthening the emotional bond between partners. Intense stimulation : For the giver, the sensation of being completely engulfed can be extremely erotic and gratifying. Boundary Exploration : This allows partners to explore their boundaries and increase their comfort with deeper, more expressive sexual practices. How to do deep throat? Deepthroat is a fellatio technique where the penis is taken deep into the partner's throat, bypassing the usual gag reflex. Here's how you can approach it with care and confidence: Preparation : The key is relaxation and preparation. Make sure both the receiver and the giver are relaxed and comfortable with the idea. Communication is key to making sure both partners feel safe and respected. Position : Begin in a position that minimizes strain on the neck and throat. The recipient can lie on their back with their head slightly back at the edge of the bed, while the giver stands or kneels, in line with the recipient's neck. Technique : The giver should move slowly, allowing the receiver to adjust as they go. Using plenty of saliva or possibly a natural and especially organic water-based lubricant can help facilitate movement and minimize discomfort. Control of the gag reflex : the recipient can try to breathe deeply and focus on relaxing. Techniques such as squeezing the fist or using specific anesthetic sprays (always with caution and moderation, we do not recommend this type of product) can also help control the gag reflex. Advanced techniques and tips for successful deep throat! For those looking to perfect deep throat technique, there are several tips that can help improve the experience for both the giver and the receiver: Positioning : Experimenting with different positions can reduce pressure on the neck and make breathing easier. For example, lying on the side may be less intimidating for the donor. Breathing : Learning to control your breathing is crucial. Taking a deep breath before you begin and learning to breathe through your nose can help manage the gag reflex and aid in letting go. Communication : Using nonverbal cues or simple words to communicate during sex can increase safety and comfort, allowing the receiver to know when to slow down or stop. In any case, make sure to create an atmosphere conducive to trust and letting go before practicing deep throat. It is essential that both partners are excited and relaxed. We recommend that you start your relationship with a more sensual approach, conducive to arousal, for example by providing a successful erotic massage to your partner with an aphrodisiac oil intended for this purpose, or by having fun stimulating the anatomy thanks to intimate cosmetics intended for this purpose such as our edible and 100% organic intimate lubricating cream , ideal for starting deep throat! Psychological considerations Deepthroating is not just a physical act; it also has important psychological dimensions. For some, it can be an expression of trust and devotion and submission , while for others, it can evoke feelings of vulnerability or anxiety: Trust and Power Dynamics : This practice can intensify power dynamics in a relationship, requiring mutual trust and respect to maintain a healthy experience. Emotional impact : Discussing emotions and reactions after the act can help strengthen the relationship and ensure that sexual practices contribute positively to the bond between partners. Deep Throat in BDSM Context: Exploring Domination and Submission Deep throat can play a significant role in BDSM dynamics, where power play and domination are central elements. It can be part of those so-called "kink sex" practices that we don't always dare to explore. In this context, it can be seen not only as a sexual technique, but also as a form of expression of dominance and submission, adding a layer of psychological complexity to the act. Some people, for example , need to dominate their partner in order to achieve orgasm . Expression of domination? In BDSM relationships, deep throating can be used by the dominant as a way to assert control. The practice can symbolize the submissive partner's complete submission, agreeing to give up control of their body, including their ability to breathe, to their dominant partner. This can intensify the feeling of power for the dominant and vulnerability for the submissive, reinforcing the roles established in their power play. Deep throating is often accompanied by dirty talk and an environment conducive to more uninhibited sex. Consent and safety are essential. It is crucial that this practice is always based on mutual consent and trust. Partners should discuss their boundaries and safety signals in detail before engaging in acts involving such intensity. The use of nonverbal signals or safe words is essential, especially in situations where the ability to speak may be limited. This ensures that all actions remain within the framework of consensual and safe boundaries. Towards a strengthening of the relationship thanks to deep throat? When practiced with respect for boundaries and consent, deepthroating can strengthen the bonds between BDSM partners. It can help establish a deeper connection, where the submissive feels safe to explore their limits, while the dominant is careful to respect and listen carefully to their partner's reactions. This practice can therefore become a powerful expression of mutual trust and dedication in the relationship. Safety and hygiene Deep throating, like any sexual activity, requires careful attention to safety and hygiene: Oral Health : Maintaining good oral hygiene is crucial to avoid infections and other health problems. Use of protection : In some cases, the use of condoms can reduce the risk of transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Listening to your body : It is important to recognize your body's limits and avoid practices that cause pain or discomfort. What are the social perceptions of deep throat practice? The perception of deep throat has evolved over the decades, influenced by cultural and social factors that have changed its acceptance and practice: Media and pornography : The depiction of deep throat in pornography has played a significant role in its popularization but also in the creation of sometimes unrealistic standards. Open Discussions : With society becoming more open to discussing sexuality, taboos around practices like deep throating are beginning to fade, allowing for more free and informed exploration. The Limits and Difficulties of Deep Throat Physical challenge : Deep throating can be physically demanding and uncomfortable, especially at first. It is crucial to progress slowly and respect each person's limits. Managing the Gag Reflex : Overcoming the gag reflex is a major challenge in deep throating. It can take time and practice to get used to it. Potential risks : As with any intense sexual practice, there is a risk of pain, nausea, or even vomiting. It is important to always practice safely and with consent. Goliate Orgasm Meter On our Goliate Orgasm Meter scale, deep throating can vary greatly between individuals, but it generally receives high marks for its intensity and the arousal it can cause, often rated at 4 out of 5. What can we conclude from this? Deepthroating is an advanced technique that requires trust, communication, and practice. It can open up new dimensions of pleasure and intimacy for couples willing to explore their limits together. As always, the importance of safety, consent , and comfort cannot be understated. If you decide to explore deepthroating, take your time to learn and adjust to each other's needs for a rewarding and satisfying experience. Dare to dive into this profound experience, and you may discover new levels of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship. Happy exploring!

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What exactly is a vasectomy?

Vasectomy: a definitive method of male contraception Vasectomy is a permanent male contraception method that is becoming increasingly popular around the world. This minor surgical procedure involves cutting or blocking the vas deferens to prevent sperm from mixing with ejaculatory fluid. Not to be confused withcircumcision , which has absolutely nothing to do with it. This article explores the medical and social aspects of vasectomy, its advantages and disadvantages, and compares vasectomy rates in different countries, with a particular focus on France. We will also discuss scientific studies on the effectiveness and long-term impacts of vasectomy. What is vasectomy? Vasectomy is a relatively simple and quick surgical procedure that aims to render a man sterile. The procedure is usually performed on an outpatient basis under local anesthesia. There are two main vasectomy techniques: Conventional vasectomy : This method involves one or two small incisions in the scrotum to access the vas deferens, which are then cut and sealed. No-scalpel vasectomy : This less invasive technique uses a small puncture to access the vas deferens, reducing the risk of complications and recovery time. Why choose vasectomy? Benefits of Vasectomy Effectiveness : Vasectomy is one of the most effective contraceptive methods, with a success rate of over 99% in preventing pregnancy. Permanence : Unlike other contraceptive methods, vasectomy offers a permanent solution, eliminating the need for temporary contraceptives. Be careful, vasectomy, unlike condoms , does not protect against STIs! Safety : The procedure is safe and carries little risk of serious complications. Recovery is rapid, with most men returning to normal activities within a few days. Sexual freedom : After a vasectomy, men can have sex without fear of unwanted pregnancy, which can improve sexual satisfaction . Disadvantages of Vasectomy Permanence : While permanence is an advantage for many, it can also be a disadvantage for those who may change their minds about fatherhood in the future. Vasectomy should be considered irreversible, although reversal procedures do exist. Potential complications : Like any surgical procedure, vasectomy carries risks, although rare, such as infections, bruising and chronic pain. Psychology and stigma : Some men may experience feelings of regret or diminished masculinity after the procedure. However, this is not normally related to possible sexual dysfunction . It is important to consider the psychological and social implications before making a decision. Vasectomy around the world UNITED STATES In the United States, vasectomy is a relatively common method of contraception. Approximately 500,000 vasectomies are performed each year. The popularity of this method varies across socioeconomic and ethnic groups, but it is generally well accepted and supported by family planning programs. Canada Canada has one of the highest vasectomy rates in the world. About 20% of Canadian men have had a vasectomy, a figure that reflects the high acceptance of the method in the country. Awareness campaigns and easy access to quality health care contribute to this popularity. Europe In Europe, vasectomy rates vary considerably. In the Netherlands, about 17% of men have undergone the procedure, while in France the rate is much lower, with about 1% of men opting for this method of contraception. The low popularity in France can be attributed to cultural factors and a preference for other contraceptive methods. Vasectomy in France In France, vasectomy has long been less popular than in other Western countries. However, attitudes are beginning to change thanks to better education and a growing acceptance of shared contraceptive responsibilities between partners. In recent years, we have also noted a greater desire on the part of men to relieve women of the mental burden of taking the contraceptive pill and the hormonal imbalances that this can sometimes cause. Legislation and access Vasectomy was legalized in France in 2001. Since then, it has become increasingly accessible thanks to increased awareness among doctors and greater cultural acceptance. Men should usually consult a general practitioner or urologist to discuss the implications of the procedure and confirm their decision. Medical studies and opinions A study published in La Revue Médicale showed that vasectomy is well tolerated by French patients and that complications are rare. The same study highlights the importance of a detailed preoperative consultation to ensure that patients understand the implications of the procedure and are firmly committed. Effects of vasectomy on sexuality Vasectomy can have positive effects on the sexuality of men and their partners. The majority of studies indicate that vasectomy does not affect sexual function, sexual desire, or performance. Any changes in libido that you may experience are therefore unrelated. Sexual satisfaction A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that sexual satisfaction for men and their partners often increases after a vasectomy. Eliminating the anxiety of unwanted pregnancy allows couples to focus more on mutual pleasure, although this is obviously up to each individual. It is also often an opportunity to explore new sexual practices, such as vanilla sex or anal pleasure, which are too often overlooked when the prostate is the male pleasure organ. If you want to discover anal pleasure and your P for heightened orgasms, or even become a multi-orgasmic man , Goliate offers a natural anal lubricating gel and a natural anal relaxant , both certified organic , to approach this magnificent aspect of pleasure, gently. Erectile function and orgasm Vasectomy does not directly impact erectile function or the ability to achieve orgasm, whether you have a blood or flesh penis . Semen continues to be produced but is absorbed by the body, and ejaculation remains unchanged, except for the absence of sperm in the seminal fluid. Comparison with other methods of contraception Vasectomy is distinguished from other contraceptive methods by its permanent nature and high effectiveness. Here are some comparisons with other methods: Female contraception Birth control pill : Although very effective, the pill requires daily intake and can have hormonal side effects. Vasectomy, on the other hand, is a one-time solution without hormonal effects from men. Tubal sterilization : This surgical procedure for women is also permanent and effective, but it is more invasive than vasectomy and carries a higher risk of complications. Temporary contraception Condoms : Although condoms are effective in preventing pregnancy and STIs , they are less reliable than vasectomy in terms of preventing pregnancy (85% to 98% effective) and require correct use with every act of intercourse. Intrauterine devices (IUDs) : IUDs are very effective and can last for several years, but they require insertion and medical monitoring, and some users may experience side effects.  What can we conclude from this? Vasectomy is a permanent male contraceptive method that offers high effectiveness and relative safety. It allows men to share contraceptive responsibility and can improve sexual satisfaction by eliminating anxiety about unwanted pregnancies. However, it must be considered carefully because of its irreversible nature and potential psychological implications. In France, although vasectomy is less common than in other countries, it is gaining popularity due to better education and increasing acceptance. The decision to have a vasectomy should be made after a thorough discussion with a healthcare professional to ensure that all options and implications are well understood.

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Everything you need to know about circumcision

Circumcision, the surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis, is an ancient practice performed for cultural, religious, and medical reasons . This article explores the origins of circumcision, the reasons why it is performed in different countries, and the arguments for and against the procedure. We will also focus on the practice of circumcision in France, examining current studies and medical opinions. History and origins of circumcision Circumcision is one of the oldest surgical procedures, having been practiced for thousands of years. It has its origins in the religious and cultural traditions of certain societies. Religious circumcision - Judaism : In Jewish tradition, circumcision (Brit Milah) is a religious ceremony performed on male infants on the eighth day after birth. This practice is a sign of the covenant between God and Abraham. - Islam : Circumcision (Khitan) is also a common practice in Islam, although the timing of circumcision may vary. It is usually performed on boys before puberty and is considered a Sunnah (practice recommended by the Prophet). Cultural circumcision In some African and Australian cultures, circumcision is part of the rites of passage into adulthood. It is often performed during ceremonies that mark the transition from childhood to adulthood. Circumcision in the world UNITED STATES In the United States, circumcision is a common practice for medical and cultural reasons. Approximately 58% of newborn males are circumcised, although this figure varies by region and socioeconomic group. The practice was popularized in the early 20th century for reasons of hygiene and disease prevention. Sub-Saharan Africa In many countries in sub-Saharan Africa, circumcision is practiced for cultural and public health reasons. For example, in South Africa, circumcision is part of traditional Xhosa rituals and is also promoted as part of HIV/AIDS programmes. Studies have shown that circumcision reduces the risk of HIV infection in heterosexual men by 60%. Europe In Europe, circumcision is not as common as in the United States. In France, about 14% of men are circumcised, mainly for religious (Judaism and Islam) or medical reasons. Medical guidelines in France do not advocate routine circumcision, but it may be performed in cases of phimosis or other medical conditions. Benefits and risks of circumcision Arguments in favor of circumcision Reduced risk of infections : Circumcision reduces the risk of urinary tract infections (UTIs) in infants and young boys. One study showed that circumcised boys have a 10 times lower risk of UTIs than uncircumcised boys. HIV and STI prevention : Circumcision can reduce the risk of HIV infection and some other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as human papillomavirus (HPV) and genital herpes. A meta-analysis published in *The Lancet* found that circumcision reduces the risk of HIV infection by 60% in heterosexual men. Another study published in the *New England Journal of Medicine* showed that circumcision reduces the risk of HPV infection and genital herpes. Hygiene : Circumcision facilitates personal hygiene by making cleaning the penis easier and reducing the buildup of smegma, a substance that can promote bacterial infections. Arguments against circumcision Surgical risks : Like any surgical procedure, circumcision carries risks, including infections, bleeding, and surgical complications. Serious complications are rare but possible. Pain and trauma : Circumcision can be painful, especially if performed without adequate anesthesia. Studies show that pain related to circumcision can have long-term effects on pain sensitivity and perception. Ethical issue : Some believe that circumcision on infants and children, who cannot give consent, is a violation of their bodily rights and physical integrity. Effects of circumcision on sexuality Circumcision may have effects on sexuality, although opinions and experiences vary widely. Sensations during penetration Some circumcised men report decreased sensitivity of the glans because the foreskin, which is rich in nerve endings, is removed. However, this decreased sensitivity can also prolong the duration of intercourse by delaying ejaculation. A study published in the *Journal of Sexual Medicine* found that circumcised and uncircumcised men report similar levels of sexual satisfaction, although the specific sensations may differ. For those who wish to accentuate their sensations, we recommend using an organic intimate lubricating gel or orgasmic gels dedicated to the penis. Guaranteed pleasure! And we can never say it enough: a relationship is not only linked to penetration! You can take a lot of pleasure in discovering each other's bodies, whether it's with natural creams to help you spice up your relationship with bodies , or with your hands. Approval for oral reports From a partner's perspective, some people find oral sex more enjoyable with a circumcised partner because of the increased feeling of smoothness and cleanliness. Others prefer the look and feel of the uncircumcised penis. Preferences are highly subjective and vary from person to person. Circumcision in France In France, circumcision is not a routine practice and is generally performed for religious or medical reasons. The recommendations of the High Authority of Health (HAS) do not encourage systematic circumcision. However, it may be indicated in cases of phimosis (narrowing of the foreskin) or other medical conditions that prevent the proper functioning of the penis. Medical studies and opinions in France A study in France found that circumcision may be beneficial in reducing recurrent urinary tract infections in young boys and in treating phimosis. However, the National Academy of Medicine emphasizes that the medical benefits of routine circumcision in newborns are limited and that the decision to circumcise should be made after an informed discussion between parents and the physician. International comparison of circumcision practices An international comparison shows that the prevalence of circumcision varies considerably across regions and cultures. In the United States, circumcision is common and often performed at birth for hygiene and disease prevention reasons. In Europe, circumcision rates are much lower and the procedure is usually reserved for medical cases or religious observances. In Africa, circumcision is often performed as part of public health programs aimed at reducing HIV transmission. What can we conclude? Circumcision is a complex practice with deep roots in religious, cultural, and medical traditions. Arguments in favor of circumcision include reduced risks of urinary tract infections, some STIs, and improved personal hygiene. However, surgical risks, pain, and ethical considerations must also be considered. In France, circumcision is not systematic and is generally reserved for specific medical cases or religious practices. The decision to perform circumcision should be made after an informed discussion between the parents and the doctor, taking into account the potential benefits and associated risks. Sources: Auvert, B., Taljaard, D., Lagarde, E., Sobngwi-Tambekou, J., Sitta, R., & Puren, A. (2005). "Randomized, controlled intervention trial of male circumcision for reduction of HIV infection risk: the ANRS 1265 Trial". *PLoS Medicine*. Bailey, R.C., Moses, S., Parker, CB, Agot, K., Maclean, I., Krieger, JN, & Ndinya-Achola, JO (2007). "Male circumcision for HIV prevention in young men in Kisumu, Kenya: a randomized controlled trial". *The Lancet*.

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Hair and Intimacy: Exploring the Perception of Hair in Sexuality

The issue of body hair, especially in the intimate area, has sparked much debate and evolution over time . Shaving and hair removal styles have influenced the perception of body hair in sexuality, and this perception continues to evolve today . We take you on an in-depth exploration of the origins of shaving and hair removal, their impact on the perception of body hair in sexuality, and the biological reasons why we have body hair. And as always, we will emphasize the importance of feeling good in your body, beyond the expectations of society or your partner. The History of Shaving and Hair Removal Methods Antiquity Hair removal is not a recent practice. The ancient Egyptians, for example, took care of their hygiene and appearance by removing all body hair, including those from intimate areas. This practice was associated with purity and aesthetics. Women used recipes based on sugar and wax to get rid of hair. The ancient Greeks and Romans also considered the hairless body an aesthetic ideal . Greek statues, often depicted without hair, attest to this preference. For the Romans, hair removal was a sign of high social class. Middle Ages During the Middle Ages, the perception of body hair changed. The hairy body was no longer viewed negatively, and hair removal became less common, partly due to the religious connotations and modesty values ​​of the time. Body hair was accepted as a natural part of the body . Renaissance and modern era With the Renaissance, interest in body aesthetics and nudity in art revived some hair removal practices, although not as widespread as in ancient times. It was not until the 20th century that shaving and removing pubic hair really took off, particularly in the 1960s and 1970s, influenced by sexual liberation movements and the fashion industry. Impact of modern fashions on the perception of hair 20th century During the 20th century, the media and the fashion industry played a crucial role in promoting the hairless body as a standard of beauty. Advertisements, films, and magazines often featured hairless female bodies, creating social pressure for women (and to a lesser extent, men) to adopt hair removal practices. 21st Century Today, hair removal practices vary widely based on personal and cultural preferences. The rise of body positivity and self-acceptance movements has encouraged many people to embrace their natural appearance, including their body hair. Celebrities and influencers are advocating for body hair acceptance, contributing to a diversification of beauty standards. But then why do we have hair? Function of body hair Body hair, including pubic hair, has several important biological functions: 1. Protection : Hair protects the skin from external elements, such as UV rays, minor injuries and irritations. 2. Temperature Regulation : Hair helps regulate body temperature by providing thermal insulation. 3. Reduced friction : Pubic hair reduces friction during sexual activity and other physical movements, protecting sensitive skin. For those who suffer from discomfort, we recommend using a soothing balm dedicated to intimacy such as our 100% organic calendula-based vulva care balm for an immediate moisturizing and soothing effect. 4. Pheromones : Hair can hold pheromones, chemicals that play a role in sexual attraction, beyond the erogenous zones on which it may be located. Scientific studies on hair removal Several scientific studies have examined the health effects of hair removal. For example, a study published in the *Journal of the American Medical Association* found that frequent hair removal can increase the risk of skin infections, such as bacterial infections and ingrown hairs. Other research has indicated that hair removal can cause irritation and microtrauma to the skin , especially in sensitive areas like the genitals. Consider using your intimate area to feel good at all times. Men's and women's hair preferences A 2019 poll by research firm YouGov revealed some interesting preferences when it comes to intimate hair. According to the poll, about 46% of men prefer their female partners to be completely waxed or shaved, while 30% prefer partial hair removal and 24% have no specific preference or prefer a natural look. On the women’s side, 56% prefer their male partners to be at least partially waxed or shaved, while 44% prefer a natural look or have no specific preference. These results show that preferences vary widely and that acceptance of body hair is increasing, especially since the lockdown. According to the survey carried out among the Goliate Instagram community , 56% of you prefer natural (with hair!) compared to 44% for shaving/hair removal. So there’s something for everyone! Feeling good in your body: the importance of personal choice It is important to emphasize that the choice to shave or wax should be personal and based on what makes you feel good about your body . Conforming to societal standards of beauty or seeking to please a partner should not dictate your choices when it comes to body hair. Listen to your body Listening to your body and responding to its needs is crucial to your overall well-being. If hair removal causes frequent irritation or infections, it may be best to rethink the practice. Conversely, if you find that hair removal makes you feel more comfortable or confident, that may be a valid reason to continue. Communication with the partner Open communication with your partner about your preferences and expectations can strengthen your relationship and mutual trust . Clearly expressing your desires and listening to your partner's can help find a compromise that satisfies both parties without sacrificing personal comfort. Alternative practices for intimacy and sexuality Sex toys and intimate gels Sex toys and intimate gels can enrich sex life by adding new dimensions to pleasure and exploration. Sex toys, such as vibrators , dildos and clitoral or prostate stimulators , can offer varied and intensified sensations, while intimate gels and lubricants can improve comfort and pleasure during sex. 1. Organic Lubricants : Lubricants made with natural and organic ingredients can be gentler on the skin and reduce the risk of irritation. They are often recommended for people with sensitive skin and for anyone who wants to increase sensations during intercourse for more sensuality. 2. Massage Oils : Massage oils can transform foreplay into a sensual and relaxing experience, promoting a better emotional and physical connection. Sexuality beyond penetration It is important to remember that sexuality is not limited to penetration. Caresses, kisses, massages and other forms of stimulation can be just as, if not more, satisfying. Foreplay (which, let's remember, is an integral part of sexual intercourse) plays a crucial role in sexual arousal and pleasure, allowing for a deeper emotional and physical connection. You can use erotic creams to discover new aspects of your sexuality and eroticize your relationships. What conclusions can we draw from this? The perception of body hair, especially in the intimate area, has evolved over time under the influence of fashion, cultural norms, and the media. Today, it is essential to remember that the choice to shave or remove hair should be personal and based on what makes you feel good about your body. Hair has important biological functions, and its presence or absence should not dictate your self-esteem. Ultimately, the key is to feel comfortable and confident in your own body. Whether you choose to keep your body hair or remove it, the important thing is to respect your own preferences and communicate openly with your partner. Sex toys, intimate gels, and a variety of sexual practices can enrich your sex life and promote a better understanding and appreciation of your body. Also, don't hesitate totake care of your intimate areas with gels and cosmetics adapted to your intimate areas. To learn more about this topic, consult reliable sources and scientific studies, and don't hesitate to talk to health professionals to get personalized advice. You also have access to a free first appointment with a sexologist via our pleasure guide.

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Understanding the Refractory Period: A Complete Overview

The refractory period is a natural phenomenon that occurs after orgasm, during which it is temporarily impossible to achieve further arousal or another orgasm . Although this phase is often associated with men, it also affects women, although in a different way. In this article, we will explore in detail what the refractory period is, the differences between the sexes, how to reduce it and how to optimize the sexual experience by incorporating sex toys, intimate gels and other practices. What is the refractory period? The refractory period is the time it takes after orgasm for an individual to respond to sexual stimulation again. This phase is due to physiological and neurological changes in the body that vary from person to person. The refractory period in men In people with penises, the refractory period is generally more pronounced. After ejaculation, the body enters a recovery phase where it is biologically unable to respond to further sexual stimulation. This period can last from a few minutes to several hours, or even longer with age . So it has nothing to do with sexual dysfunction. Hormones such as prolactin play a crucial role in this process, contributing to the feeling of sexual satiety. The refractory period in women People with vulvas, on the other hand, have a less defined refractory period. Some women can achieve multiple orgasms with little or no refractory period between them, while others may need a few minutes of rest . Hormonal, psychological, and physical factors influence women's ability to become aroused again after an orgasm. Be aware that there are also techniques to increase female orgasm tenfold . Factors influencing the refractory period Several factors can influence the length and intensity of the refractory period, including age, physical health, hormonal levels, and emotional state. There is no general rule, so don't panic, that's just nature. Age Age plays a significant role in the length of the refractory period. Younger men and women tend to have shorter refractory periods than older people. In men, this is usually particularly noticeable with an increase in the length of the refractory period after midlife . Physical health General physical condition, including cardiovascular fitness levels and hormonal health, also influences the refractory period. A healthy lifestyle, including a balanced diet and regular physical activity, can help reduce the length of this phase. As usual, avoid smoking, junk food or alcohol, and focus on a healthy lifestyle as much as possible. Emotional state Stress, anxiety and other emotional factors can prolong the refractory period. A relaxed environment and good communication with your partner can help reduce these impacts. Communication within a couple is often the key to maintaining desire and helping to better control your emotions. This is also the case for female ejaculation which will depend on many factors. How to reduce the refractory period? Reducing the refractory period can improve the sexual experience for some individuals, although again, be careful not to seek performance . Here are some strategies that can help, but remember that in sexuality, performance is not the name of the game. Regular exercise Exercise improves blood circulation, increases energy levels, and promotes overall well-being, which can help reduce the length of the refractory period. Activities such as jogging, swimming, and yoga can improve cardiovascular and hormonal health. Balanced diet A diet rich in antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals can help maintain healthy hormone balance and sexual health. Foods rich in zinc and omega-3 fatty acids, such as seafood, nuts, and seeds, may be particularly beneficial. Relaxation techniques Yoga, meditation, and other relaxation techniques can reduce stress and anxiety, promoting a shorter refractory period. Mindfulness, which involves focusing on the present moment, can also improve sexual experience. As you will have understood, when it comes to sexuality there is no miracle recipe , it is all a question of harmony and nuance. Extending the pleasure: techniques and tools For some, making sex last longer is a priority, so here are some tips to help you achieve this: Using sex toys Sex toys can add a new dimension to pleasure and help prolong sexual arousal. Cock rings, for example, can help maintain an erection for longer, while clitoral stimulators can provide a variety of pleasures for people with vulvas without necessarily leading to penetration. Remote-controlled sex toys are also a great alternative for having fun together. Vibrators, dildos and prostate stimulators can also enrich the sexual experience by offering different and intense sensations and the discovery of other pleasures (and the prostate), especially in men. Intimate gels and lubricants Using intimate gels and organic natural lubricants can not only make sex more comfortable but also more exciting while reducing friction. Organic lubricants, in particular, are recommended for their natural and body-friendly composition. Choose a water-based lubricant so that it is compatible with your sex toys and condoms or our 2-in-1 "couple gourmand" cream with a unique texture and delicate hazelnut flavor that allows you to massage your partner's sex, lick it, and then use it directly as a lubricant . An ultra-effective way to get out of the routine and have fun together to vary the pleasures. Communication and exploration Open communication with your partner about desires and boundaries can help you find a rhythm and practices that increase mutual pleasure. Exploring different types of sexual stimulation and practices can also prolong the experience. For example, erotic massages, role playing... Don't hesitate to vary the positions. You will find lots of ideas on our Instagram page or our blog . Sexuality beyond penetration It is important to remember that sexuality is not just about penetration. Foreplay, caresses, kissing, oral stimulation, massages and other forms of stimulation can be just as, if not more, satisfying. On this subject, we invite you to explore circumclusion in order to discover a new approach to sexuality, beyond established norms. Sexuality is an eternal learning process, so educate yourself; for your partner, but especially for yourself! Please also note that for any purchase over €70 on the Goliate website, you will have direct access to our Pleasure Guide, a unique program of 18 video modules to learn how to give yourself pleasure. Importance of “foreplay” Although this term is no longer really relevant because foreplay is an integral part of sexual intercourse , it plays a crucial role in sexual arousal and pleasure. It helps create an emotional and physical connection, thus increasing the pleasure felt during sex. Using massage oils Massage oils can transform a simple touch into a sensual and intimate experience. They promote relaxation, increase intimacy and can even reduce the refractory period by prolonging the arousal phase . This is a very interesting approach to get out of the stereotypes of phallo-centric relationships. Essential oils, such as lavender or ylang-ylang present in our feminine pleasure gel dedicated to the clitoris or aphrodisiac massage oil can add a pleasant aromatic dimension. Conclusion Understanding the refractory period and its influences is essential to improving sexual experience and personal satisfaction. Whether you are looking to reduce this period or prolong the moments of pleasure, there are many strategies and tools to explore. Communication, the use of sex toys, intimate gels and the practice of relaxation techniques are all ways to enrich your sex life. Finally, remember that sexuality is not limited to penetration; exploring bodies and discovering new forms of pleasure can be just as rewarding.

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Everything you need to know about pearly crowns (or pearly papules) on the penis.

Pearly papules, also known as pearly crown, primarily affect men. Although this condition is harmless, it can cause some concern due to its appearance, often being confused with sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as genital warts. In this article, we will explore in depth what pearl crown is, its causes, symptoms, and the key differences from more serious conditions. What is the pearl crown? Pearly corona of the penis appears as small, whitish or flesh-colored growths located around the glans. They are often arranged in one or more rows and can be easily seen during physical examination. These papules are noncancerous and do not cause pain or discomfort. Causes of pearly papules Pearly papules are a natural condition and are not caused by any infection or communicable disease. Their appearance is usually related to hormonal changes that occur during puberty. They are more common in uncircumcised men, probably due to the moist and warm conditions under the foreskin that favor their development. Symptoms and diagnosis Pearly papules are asymptomatic , meaning they do not cause pain, itching, or any other bothersome symptoms. The main "symptom" is their characteristic appearance around the glans. To diagnose this condition, a doctor will perform a visual physical exam. It is important to consult a healthcare professional to ensure that the growths are not genital warts or another more serious condition. If in doubt, the doctor may perform a biopsy, although this is rarely necessary. Pearly papules vs. condylomas It is crucial to distinguish pearly papules from warts, which are a form of STI caused by the human papillomavirus (HPV). Here are some key differences: Appearance : Condylomas can be of various shapes and sizes, often cauliflower-shaped, whereas pearly papules are uniform and round. Symptoms : Condylomas may cause itching, pain or bleeding, unlike pearly papules which are asymptomatic. Spread : Condylomas are contagious and are transmitted through sexual contact, whereas pearly papules are not transmissible. Treatment of pearly papules Since pearly papules are benign and pose no health risk, no treatment is necessary. However, some men may choose to have them removed for cosmetic or psychological reasons. Several treatment options are available: Cryotherapy : Use of liquid nitrogen to freeze and remove papules. CO2 Laser : An effective method that uses a laser to vaporize growths. Electrosurgery : Use of electrical currents to destroy papules. It is essential to discuss these options with a dermatologist or urologist to determine the most appropriate method. Why not worry? The main reason why pearly papules are not a cause for concern is that they are completely benign. They are neither cancerous nor linked to STIs. They do not cause any unpleasant symptoms and do not require any medical treatment unless the individual wishes to remove them for personal reasons. Self-confidence and education An often overlooked aspect of pearly papules is the psychological impact they can have. Many men may feel embarrassed or anxious about the appearance of their penis, fearing that there is something “wrong” with them. It is crucial to understand that this condition is normal and common. Educating teens and young adults about this condition can help reduce the stigma and anxiety associated with it. Open communication with sexual partners and healthcare professionals can also alleviate many concerns. Don't hesitate to discover your body with our intimate cosmetics or sex toys or to consult our pleasure guide offered from 70€ of purchase. These are more than 18 video modules that will explain to you in particular everything you need to know about female pleasure. And as always, we can't say it enough: remember to use organic lubricant for maximum sensation! Conclusion Pearly papules, although often a source of confusion and concern, are a benign and harmless condition. The key is to distinguish these growths from warts and other potentially serious conditions . If you have any doubts or concerns regarding your health, always consult a qualified healthcare professional for proper diagnosis and advice. By better understanding this condition and knowing when to see a doctor, you can approach pearl crown surgery with confidence and peace of mind.

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All your questions about the G-spot

Welcome to a space where curiosity meets knowledge and where every discovery opens the door to unsuspected pleasures. Today, we invite you to explore with us one of the best-kept secrets of female pleasure: the G-spot. Long shrouded in mystery and the subject of much debate, this place of intense pleasure remains unknown to many. But do you really know the potential of this unique erogenous zone? In this article, we will decipher together the mysteries of the G-spot. You will discover not only where it is and how to stimulate it, but also why and how this small area can play an important role in your sexual fulfillment. Whether you are a novice in the field or looking for advanced techniques to increase your pleasure, this guide is designed to accompany you in each step of your exploration. Let’s lay the foundations: what is the G-spot? The G-spot, or Gräfenberg point, is an erogenous zone located inside the vagina, whose stimulation can lead to great intensity of pleasure and sometimes to orgasm. This small area, sensitive to pressure, is located a few centimeters inside the anterior wall of the vagina, just behind the pubic bone. The Quest for the G-Spot: Accessing More Pleasure Discovering the G-spot is not just an exploration of your anatomy; it is an invitation to get to know your body better through masturbation for example, and to explore your sexuality in a deep and satisfying way. Each experience is unique, and finding the G-spot can be a rewarding personal adventure. How to stimulate the G-spot perfectly? Step 1: Let’s start with our hands! Before we introduce tools like a vibrator, let's start small: Finding the G-spot with your fingers is a great moment to share, even if it's not as easy as it seems. Using your fingers to apply gentle but firm pressure can help identify this sensitive area. Finger movements up the pubic bone or in and out are often recommended for effective G-spot stimulation. STEP 2: Find G-Spot Vibrators Choosing a vibrator that is specifically designed for G-spot stimulation can transform your experience. These vibrators typically have a curve that makes it easier to reach and stimulate the G-spot. For optimal stimulation, it is advisable to start slowly to get used to the sensation and gradually increase the intensity. The angle of insertion and the pressure applied can greatly affect the level of pleasure felt. Of course, every body reacts differently! What works for one person may not work for another, so exploration and patience are crucial. How to make exploring the G-spot unforgettable? If you are exploring with a partner, communication is key. Express how you feel and adjust techniques accordingly. Relax: Being relaxed is fundamental to a pleasurable sexual experience. Take the time to get comfortable and relax to improve the sensitivity of your G-spot. Choosing the right time: The timing of G-spot stimulation can also influence the experience. During arousal, this area becomes more engorged and therefore more sensitive, making it the ideal time to begin stimulation. Create an unforgettable atmosphere: sex is also a matter of energy that we put into it! Put your partner at ease, create a soft and sensual atmosphere with slow sex as if you wanted to give him a sexy massage for hours and take care of the foreplay. There is more to life than penetration! Listen to your partner: Listening is of capital importance in a sexual relationship. Realizing the reactions of the other, what he likes or not, how he reacts… This is key to knowing how to give him more pleasure. How to choose the ideal vibrator for G-spot stimulation? The ideal vibrator for G-spot stimulation is distinguished by its curved shape, designed specifically to reach and stimulate this internal erogenous zone. This curvature allows the vibrator to press against the G-spot with the ideal amount of pressure, without excessive effort or discomfort. Choosing the right materials for your vibrators Choose a vibrator made from body-safe materials, such as medical-grade silicone, which is not only soft and pleasant to the touch but also hypoallergenic and easy to clean. Avoid cheap plastics that may contain phthalates or other harmful chemicals. Choosing between the different models Size matters when it comes to comfort and pleasure. A vibrator that is too big can be intimidating or uncomfortable for some, while one that is too small may not be effective. Choose a vibrator that is the right size and shape for your personal experience and preferences. At Goliate, we offer you 2 vibrators perfect for G-spot stimulation: My Pleasure: our sex toy specially designed for G-spot stimulation. Its curvature designed specifically for this and its ideal softness will delight you in stimulating your G-spot. My Pleasure Plus : having all the qualities of My Pleasure, it also allows you to stimulate the clitoris to make your partner explode with pleasure. How to stimulate the G-spot with a sex toy? To stimulate the G-spot with a vibrator, start by applying a little water-based lubricant to ensure comfort and fluidity. Insert the vibrator slowly, with the curve facing upward, towards the front wall of the vagina. Experiment with different pressure levels, speeds, and angles to find what feels best for you. Frequently Asked Questions About the G-Spot What exactly is the G-spot? The G-spot is an erogenous zone located inside the vagina, on its anterior wall. Although its size and sensitivity vary from person to person, it is generally located about 2 to 3 cm inside the vagina, just beyond the entrance. How do I know if I've found the G-spot? You will know you have found the G-spot when you feel an area that is slightly rougher than the rest of the vaginal tissue. Stimulating this area can cause an intense sensation, which can be very pleasant for some women, while for others it may be simply comfortable or even indifferent. Is it normal to not feel pleasure when stimulating the G-spot? Yes, this is completely normal. G-spot sensitivity varies greatly from person to person. Some people may find great pleasure in stimulating this area, while others may not feel any particular sensation. The important thing is to discover what works for you and what gives you pleasure. One thing is for sure, you have to try it to know if you will like it. Every person is unique, and the quest for the G-spot is a personal journey that may require patience and experimentation. Feel free to try out different techniques and toys that we have recommended, listening to yourself and always respecting your personal limits and those of your partner. If you don't like it, there are still many other things to try!

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Low libido: our advice to revive your desire

Libido is what allows us to have desire, since the definition of libido is exactly “the search for sexual pleasure” . But what happens when our desire seems to weaken for no apparent reason? This phenomenon, much more common than we think, deserves special attention to understand all its subtleties. In this article, we will explore together the multiple facets of libido, from its influences to its variations, to offer you essential keys to understanding. We will talk about why and how libido sometimes fails us and where it comes from. We will also give you some secrets to improve your libido and consider the use of sex toys as well as other moments dedicated to the desire of the couple. How does libido work? Libido is simply sexual desire. Like any aspect of our health, it is subject to fluctuations that can be influenced by a multitude of factors. Recognizing that these variations are normal is the first step in approaching the subject without judgment and with openness. Libido is a key indicator of our overall well-being. It is closely linked to our physical, mental and emotional health. A drop in libido can sometimes signal other underlying problems, whether physical, such as hormonal imbalances, or psychological, such as stress or anxiety. It is therefore essential to approach it carefully and understand its causes in order to maintain or regain a satisfactory balance. Talking openly about libido as a couple is crucial, as it demystifies sexuality issues and encourages individuals to seek help and solutions. In a society where the topic can still be taboo, providing accurate information and supporting open discussion contributes to better sexual health for all. Factors that influence libido Libido can be influenced by a variety of psychological, physical and relationship factors, which can then impact our sex lives. Hormones: Hormonal fluctuations, whether due to the menstrual cycle, menopause, or other medical conditions, can have a profound impact on libido. Physical health: Health conditions such as chronic illness, fatigue, or taking certain medications can reduce sexual desire. Sleep: The quality and quantity of sleep has a direct impact on libido. Lack of sleep can reduce energy levels and increase stress, while adequate, restful sleep can improve sexual desire. Diet and exercise: A balanced diet and regular exercise routine promote good overall health and, by extension, better sexual health. Obesity or, on the contrary, insufficient diet can both negatively impact libido. Emotional state: Stress, anxiety, and depression are among the main culprits of low libido. Mental health plays a crucial role in regulating sexual desire. Self-esteem and body image: How we perceive ourselves can influence our interest in sex. A positive body image is often linked to a stronger libido. Couple dynamics: The quality of the emotional relationship and communication with your partner are fundamental. Unresolved conflicts, lack of connection or novelty can all contribute to a drop in libido. Sexual satisfaction: Previous sexual experience, whether gratifying or unsatisfying, can also influence future desire. Understanding the roots of low libido is the first step to solving the problem: in fact, if you know why you have less desire for your partner, you will be able to more easily know where to start to change the situation. If you experience persistent low libido, we still encourage you to consult a healthcare professional for a complete evaluation. How to deal with a drop in libido in your relationship? A low libido isn’t just a personal change; it profoundly affects the dynamics of a relationship. Understanding how it impacts the relationship can help partners navigate this challenge together, strengthening their bond. Know how to communicate with your partner Low libido can lead to misunderstandings and frustrations in a relationship. It is crucial that partners maintain open and honest communication to express their feelings, concerns, and desires without judgment. This helps prevent resentment and allows them to work together to find solutions. Encouraging regular discussions and using assertive communication techniques can improve mutual understanding. For example, dialogues that focus on emotions and needs, rather than criticism, foster a supportive environment. Managing the couple's expectations It is essential to adjust expectations regarding the frequency and intensity of sexual interactions . We are all different so there are no obligations regarding the frequency of intercourse. Some will want to make love every day while others will be satisfied by making love only twice a month. The trick is to find a happy medium that suits the couple. Below we detail ideas for things to put in place to encourage communication and desire. Spice up your life as a couple to tickle your libido Testing new things Introducing new experiences to break the routine certainly helps to spice up the libido. If you are a beginner with sex toys , we invite you to start with “soft” sex toys: Rabbit Vibrators : Recognizable by their design with a rabbit-shaped extension for clitoral stimulation, these vibrators offer dual stimulation — internal and external — simultaneously, making them particularly appreciated for their complete and intense sensations. This is the case of our sublime MyPleasur Plus. Clitoral vacuums: These sex toys use pressure waves to create a suction sensation around the clitoris, simulating the effect of oral sex. They are perfect for those looking for gentle, highly targeted clitoral stimulation. If this is you, you need to check out The Amazing, the clitoral vacuum from Goliate. Geisha Balls : Originally used to strengthen the pelvic muscles, these small balls inserted into the vagina stimulate with slight muscle contractions when they move, ideal for improving muscle tone and intensifying sensations during sexual activity. Practice foreplay well Upping the ante on foreplay can significantly increase libido. Taking the time to build arousal with gentle new practices like simple intimate caresses or humping before intercourse can transform the sexual experience, making it more satisfying for both partners. Pay attention to the sexual atmosphere Ambiance plays a crucial role in boosting libido. Creating a sensual environment with soft lighting, soothing music, and pleasant scents can help you relax and get into the right frame of mind for intimacy. Knowing how to communicate these desires Having open conversations about fantasies and desires can strengthen connection and trust between partners. It also helps ensure that both partners are on the same page about their expectations and boundaries. Where to start to recreate communication as a couple? Planning evenings for 2 Organizing themed evenings, such as a romantic weekend or an erotic evening, can add an element of play and novelty to the relationship. Sometimes, even just the time we decide to take to organize a romantic dinner can do a lot of good for our shared sexuality. Participate in workshops on sexuality Attending sexuality workshops or seminars can be a great way for couples to learn new techniques and better understand sexual dynamics. These educational sessions can also offer tools to improve communication and sexual satisfaction. Have a massage evening for two Getting sexy massages can be a great way to increase libido because they promote intimacy and relaxation, reducing stress and tension that can inhibit sexual desire. These massages also improve the emotional connection between partners, creating an environment conducive to spontaneity and desire. Enjoy romantic getaways Planning romantic getaways or vacations can break the routine and rejuvenate the relationship. Choosing destinations that encourage intimacy and offer new experiences can revitalize the relationship and, by extension, the libido. Some apps like Staycation even allow you to book luxury hotels at discounted prices during off-peak hours! A great discovery. Meet sexuality professionals If personal efforts and communication are not enough to resolve the challenges of low libido, it may be beneficial to consult a couples therapist or sexologist. These professionals can offer outside perspectives and tailored strategies to overcome this difficult time together. A drop in libido is not permanent! Remember that libido naturally fluctuates throughout life. Giving yourself permission to explore, discuss, and experiment can often unlock doors you thought were closed. Whether it's through simple daily adjustments or more in-depth approaches such as consulting specialists, every step is a step towards a more fulfilling balance. Your well-being is our priority, and our mission is to support you in your quest for a fully satisfying sex life. Explore, dare, and above all, take care of yourself!

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How to improve libido naturally?

Libido, or sexual desire, plays a crucial role in our emotional well-being and intimate relationships. However, many factors can affect libido, such as stress, fatigue, or health issues. Fortunately, there are natural methods to boost libido without resorting to medication . This article explores practical solutions to naturally improve your sex life. Understanding Libido Libido is influenced by a complex set of psychological, biological, and relationship factors . Research shows that conditions such as depression or anxiety can severely decrease interest in sexual activity. From a biological perspective, hormones such as testosterone and estrogen play a critical role in regulating sexual desire. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism found that balanced levels of these hormones are essential for normal libido in both women and men. Natural factors affecting libido Sleep Quality sleep is crucial for a healthy libido. Studies have shown that lack of sleep can lead to a decrease in testosterone production in men, reducing their sex drive. Research from the University of Chicago found that men who slept less than five hours a night for a week had significantly lower testosterone levels than those who got a full night's sleep. Food As you might expect, what we eat has a direct impact on our libido. Certain foods are particularly beneficial for increasing libido, such as: Oysters: Rich in zinc, they stimulate testosterone production. Dark Chocolate: Stimulates the release of serotonin and phenylethylamine, improving mood and desire. Avocados: Source of vitamin B6 and potassium, which improve blood circulation and energy levels. Of course, it is essential to have a healthy and balanced lifestyle. So there is no point in throwing yourself on the 3 bars of chocolate that are patiently waiting in your cupboard... Physical exercise Regular physical activity improves blood circulation and increases the production of endorphins, the " happy hormone ," which can boost libido. Specific exercises like yoga or Pilates also improve flexibility and body awareness, which are key to a fulfilling sex life. Regular exercise, especially cardiovascular exercise , can increase libido by improving blood flow and reducing stress. According to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, men who exercise regularly have better sexual performance and a higher libido than those who remain sedentary. Natural strategies to improve your libido Stress management Stress management is vital to maintaining a healthy libido. Techniques like meditation, deep breathing, and mindfulness can significantly reduce stress and improve sexual function. A study conducted by the University of California, San Francisco showed that regular meditation practice can significantly improve sexual function in women. Take time for yourself Taking time for yourself is essential to cultivating a healthy relationship with your sexuality and, by extension, improving your libido. In a world where daily stress and obligations can erode our energy and sexual desire, taking time out to reconnect with your own needs and desires becomes essential . Self-reflection helps us understand the underlying causes of low libido, whether they are physical, emotional or psychological. To practice this listening to yourself, it can be beneficial to regularly engage in activities that promote relaxation and mindfulness (such as meditation, the yoga mentioned above), or even walks in nature . These quiet moments help reduce stress and clear the mind, which can reveal buried or neglected desires. By becoming aware of your inner state and actively addressing stressors, you can often rediscover an interest in intimate interactions and see a noticeable improvement in your libido. The massage Sensual or sexy massage is a beautiful and effective method to enhance intimacy and boost libido between partners. With an emphasis on gentle, intentional touch, this type of massage can not only relax the body but also awaken the senses, setting the stage for deeper and more satisfying sexual interactions. The key is open communication and mutual consent , allowing each partner to express their preferences and boundaries. To incorporate sensual massage into your intimate life, start by creating a relaxing and seductive atmosphere: turn off the lights, light scented candles, and choose soft music. Use an organic massage oil that is pleasant to the touch and has the right scent to create an atmosphere conducive to letting go and sexual exploration. The massage should be gentle and exploratory, without focusing solely on erogenous zones. Encourage communication during the massage, asking for and giving feedback on preferred pressure and movements. This practice can not only increase physical connection, but also emotional connection, making partners more open and receptive to each other. By exploring new ways of giving and receiving pleasure, sensual massage can reignite passion and significantly improve the dynamics of your relationship. Herbs and food supplements Herbs like ginseng and maca have been used for centuries to boost libido. Ginseng promotes endurance and performance, while maca (a Peruvian root) regulates hormonal imbalances that affect sexual desire. A review published in "BMC Complementary and Alternative Medicine" confirmed that maca improved sexual desire in both men and women after six weeks of use. Here is a small list of plants that can help support libido: Maca : Native to the Peruvian Andes, maca is a tuber known for its properties that boost energy, stamina, and libido. Studies have shown that maca can improve sexual desire without directly affecting hormonal levels. Ginseng : Ginseng, especially Korean red ginseng, is famous for its beneficial effects on libido and sexual performance. It is often used to improve energy and reduce fatigue, which can indirectly increase sexual desire. Tribulus terrestris : This supplement has been used for centuries in traditional medicine to treat a variety of conditions, including low libido in both men and women. Some studies suggest it may help increase levels of certain sex hormones, including testosterone. Ginkgo biloba : Known for its effects on blood circulation and neurological health, Ginkgo biloba may also help improve sexual function by increasing blood flow to the genitals, which is essential for sexual arousal and performance. Fenugreek : Fenugreek is an herb that has been shown to help increase libido and sexual performance by increasing testosterone production and improving symptoms of menopause. L-Arginine : This amino acid helps improve blood circulation, which can benefit sexual health. Arginine is converted in the body into nitric oxide, which helps dilate blood vessels and improve blood flow to the genitals. It is important to note that while these supplements may help improve libido, they should be used with caution and preferably under the supervision of a healthcare professional . Effects may vary from person to person, and they may interact with other medications or medical conditions. Integration of sex toys and masturbation Using sex toys and practicing masturbation are effective ways to explore your sexual preferences and improve your libido. Sex toys can help individuals and couples discover what turns them on, which can increase their desire and improve their sexual experiences. So don't hesitate to take the plunge and choose your first sex toy , your libido could be greatly improved. Masturbation, on the other hand, is not only a practice to satisfy immediate needs; it is also essential to understanding what gives pleasure. Studies indicate that regular masturbation can have several health benefits, including improved sleep quality, reduced stress, and improved focus. An article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who masturbate regularly report better sexual function and greater sexual satisfaction. The same is true for men, so feel free to brush up on the basics of masturbation. The Harms of Porn on Libido and How to Get Rid of It  Pornography consumption has become commonplace in modern society, but its impact on libido and sexual health can be complex. While for some, porn can add a spicy dimension to their sex life, especially partnered porn , for others, it can lead to addiction issues, distorted sexual expectations, and a decreased desire for real-life sexual interactions. Negative effects of porn on libido: Distortion of expectations : Pornography can create unrealistic expectations about performance, body, and sexual practices, which can lead to dissatisfaction in real-life sexual relationships. Desensitization : Frequent exposure to extreme sexual stimuli can make normal sexual stimuli less arousing, which can decrease libido and arousal in real-life situations. Porn Addiction : Like any addiction, porn addiction can lead to a compulsive need to consume more and more content, often to the detriment of other activities and relationships. Strategies to Reduce Porn Addiction Awareness and education : Understanding the potentially harmful effects of porn can help motivate behavior change. Seeking therapy : Professionals, such as sex therapists or therapists, can offer advice and strategies for overcoming addiction. Developing Other Hobbies : Replacing time spent watching porn with other activities can reduce addiction and improve overall quality of life. Sexual education to better understand your body Open communication with your partner is essential for a healthy sex life. Discussing your needs and desires can not only improve your relationship, but also increase your desire for each other. Beyond communication, comprehensive sex education is essential and should include information about anatomy, sexual physiology, and sexual and reproductive health. Knowing your body and understanding how it works can greatly improve self-confidence and sexual satisfaction. For example, understanding the different phases of sexual response (desire, arousal, orgasm) can help individuals better manage their expectations and enhance their sexual experience. Sex education can also help debunk many myths surrounding sexuality, which can reduce performance anxiety and increase pleasure. Well-designed sex education programs can also teach the importance of consent and communication, which are essential for healthy and fulfilling relationships. Follow the Goliate pleasure guide to better understand female anatomy and know how to give yourself pleasure. In a more fun and educational way, you can also participate in our "hottest" Quiz in France each month, which will allow you to learn more about sexuality while having fun , and who knows, maybe even win gifts . You will have understood... Improving your libido naturally is possible through a combination of good nutrition, regular exercise, effective stress management, and open communication with your partner. There's no secret that by adopting these habits, you can not only improve your sexual health but also your overall well-being. Up to you !

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Managing libido differences in couples: practical guide

In any relationship, sexual harmony plays a crucial role for the general well-being of the partners. However, it is not uncommon for sexual desires to diverge at times, which can create tension and misunderstanding. How, then, can we effectively manage differences in libido to maintain a fulfilling relationship ? This article explores practical and respectful strategies for addressing these differences without stigma or frustration. Understanding Sex Drive Differences Origins of differences The origins of differences in libido between partners can be extremely varied , reflecting the complexity of human sexuality. Biologically , factors such as hormonal levels, general health, and medications can play a significant role. For example, hormones such as testosterone have a direct impact on sexual desire, and variations in these levels can lead to changes in libido. On a psychological level , elements such as the state of mental health, stress, and the personal history of each individual also influence sexual desire. Depression, anxiety, and even fatigue from a busy lifestyle can significantly reduce libido. Additionally, past experiences such as trauma or sex education received can shape the way individuals experience and express their sexuality. Contextually, the dynamics of the relationship itself are determining. Unresolved conflicts, a lack of communication, or even the monotony of daily routine can decrease sexual attraction between partners. On the other hand, periods of major change, such as parenthood or career transitions , can also influence sexual desires significantly. Understanding these origins not only helps demystify the causes of libido differences but also encourages a more empathetic and personalized approach to managing these differences within couples. By recognizing and addressing these underlying factors, partners can work together to find a balance that respects everyone's needs. Myths and realities Understanding libido differences in relationships is often clouded by myths and misunderstandings that can create unrealistic expectations and unnecessary pressure on partners. A common myth is the idea that compatible partners should naturally have synchronized libidos. In reality, it is normal for desires to fluctuate and not always align . This does not necessarily mean incompatibility or a relationship problem. Another persistent myth is that high libido is synonymous with virility or feminine health, while low libido is often seen as a flaw or deficiency. This type of stereotyping can lead to unnecessary shame and prevent people from speaking openly about their true feelings and needs. The reality is that libido is influenced by a multitude of factors and varies greatly from person to person. It is also frequently assumed that libido should always be spontaneous and irrepressible. In truth, many individuals experience what is called a reactive libido , where sexual desire only arises in response to an erotic stimulus rather than before it. Recognizing these diverse ways of experiencing sexuality can help partners better understand and respond to each other's needs without judgment. Effective communication Express your needs and desires Communication is the cornerstone of resolving any differences in a relationship, including libido imbalances. It is crucial to create a space where everyone feels safe to express their needs , concerns and expectations without judgment. Partners should practice empathetic listening to understand the other's perspective and needs without feeling threatened or rejected. Planning vs spontaneity Discussing the frequency of sex can help balance each other's needs. For some, planning intimate moments can help build positive anticipation and manage expectations, with a tender and gentle approach a la vanilla sex , while for others, maintaining an element of spontaneity is crucial. Finding the right balance is key. Pragmatic solutions Innovation and exploration Innovating the way you experience your sexuality can help meet the needs of partners with different libidos. Exploring new forms of intimacy, whether massages, lingering kisses, or even erotic play, can enrich the sexual experience without requiring high desire on either side. Why not try couple porn or audio porn? A gentler way to treat yourself, together. Professional support When differences in libido are causing significant tension, seeing a therapist who specializes in sexology may be an option. This professional can offer personalized strategies and help explore the psychological or relational roots of these differences. Do not hesitate to take part in our “pleasure guide” in which you will have access to a free first appointment with a sex therapist. Take care of the relationship Nurture the relationship outside the bedroom The sexual health of a relationship is often a reflection of its overall health. It is therefore important to nourish the relationship in its other dimensions: spending quality time together , sharing pleasant activities, and supporting each other in daily challenges. Importance of autonomy Recognizing and respecting each person's autonomy when it comes to desires can also alleviate a lot of pressure. Understanding that each partner is an individual with their own rhythms and needs can transform the way we approach the issue of libido. Differences in libido are not insurmountable. With communication, understanding, and a commitment to working together, it is possible to manage these differences in a way that strengthens the relationship rather than weakens it. It takes patience, openness, and sometimes a little creativity, but the rewards—a stronger, more intimate relationship—are worth it. The importance of individual masturbation in a couple relationship Give yourself personal space Individual masturbation , even when in a relationship, plays a crucial role in personal sexual health. It allows each partner to stay in touch with their own desires and to better understand their body and its reactions . This can, therefore, enrich the shared sexual experience, providing knowledge and practices that can be shared and discussed with the partner. Softer, intimate caresses can also be a good approach. Reduce sexual pressure Practicing masturbation can also be used to balance differences in libido within a couple. For the partner with a higher libido, it provides an outlet for their sexual needs without putting pressure on the other. This helps maintain harmony in the relationship, reducing any frustrations or feelings of rejection that might arise. Building confidence and independence Masturbating while in a relationship can also build self-confidence and autonomy. This shows an open-mindedness and maturity in the relationship , where both partners recognize that their sexual satisfaction can also be personal and not exclusively shared. This act can help build a climate of trust where everyone feels free to explore their sexuality without judgment. Promote dialogue around pleasure Finally, accepting and encouraging masturbation in a relationship can promote an open dialogue about pleasure and sexual preferences. This can open up discussions about what each partner likes or discovers about themselves, enriching their shared sex life with new ideas and experiences. Encouraging masturbation as a healthy component of individual sexual identity and well-being in a relationship can transform the way partners perceive intimacy and desire, cultivating a more fulfilling and inclusive approach to sexuality. Integration of sexual accessories and intimate gels Diversify the intimate experience The introduction of sexual accessories or intimate cosmetics can play a significant role in managing differences in libido. Sex toys, for example, can offer new sensations and experiences that reignite sexual interest and break up routine. They allow us to discover new facets of pleasure together, thus facilitating more frequent and satisfying moments of intimacy. With a wide and complete offer, it will be easy for you to find the sex toy that best meets your expectations. Stimulating gels , massage oils and other natural and organic lubricants add an enriching sensory dimension that can make sex more exciting and less predictable, allowing the couple to re-discover themselves in new ways. Explore without pressure These tools can also help maintain physical intimacy at times when one partner feels less sexual desire. For example, using a sex toy can satisfy the need for closeness of the partner with a higher libido without putting pressure on the other for full sexual interaction. Massage oils and gels can be used for moments of relaxation and tenderness, increasing emotional and physical intimacy without focusing solely on the sexual act. Another possibility, why not try a remotely controlled sex toy to spice up your outings ? This will take you out of your routine and can lead to a new discovery of others, around a newfound complicity. Additional Tips for Managing Libido Differences Mutual sex education Sometimes a limited understanding of sexuality can restrict the expression of desires. Taking the time to educate each other about the different dimensions of sexuality can open up new avenues of communication and pleasure. Reading books together on sexuality, watching educational videos such as our complete training of 18 video modules entitled “Guide to Pleasure” , or even attending workshops can enrich your mutual experience. Maintain a positive atmosphere It is crucial to maintain a positive and encouraging attitude towards sexuality in the relationship. Avoiding negative criticism and instead encouraging small steps forward can create a healthier dynamic. Celebrate moments of connection, even if they are small or different than what you had in mind. Define common goals Discuss what each person wants to achieve in the sexual relationship. Whether it is increasing the frequency of sexual intercourse, sharing new forms of pleasure, or simply improving the quality of your intimacies, having clear objectives can guide your joint efforts. Consider satisfaction alternatives It's important to recognize that satisfaction in a relationship doesn't come from sex alone. Finding other sources of pleasure and satisfaction in the relationship can help relieve pressure around sexuality and strengthen other aspects of your partnership. Navigating the sometimes murky waters of libido differences requires empathy, respect, and a willingness to adapt and experiment . By using tools like sex toys and intimate cosmetics, educating themselves about sexuality, and maintaining open and positive communication, couples can overcome these challenges. This can not only improve their sex life, but also strengthen their relationship as a whole, building a deeper understanding and mutual respect between partners. With the right mix of patience, innovation, and commitment, the difference in libido can become an opportunity for growth and renewal for the couple.

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How to overcome porn addiction?

Porn addiction isn't just about numbers or statistics; it touches the very heart of our intimacy, our relationships and our well-being. In this introduction, we lay the foundations for a caring and enlightened exploration, intended for all those who feel concerned, directly or indirectly, by this issue. Our objective ? Support you in understanding this addiction, by untangling the complex threads that link our behaviors to our deep needs, our fears and our aspirations. Beyond the challenges, it is really about freedom and fulfillment. The freedom to choose, to understand, and ultimately, to love oneself in a sexuality lived without constraints or guilt. Ready to start this journey? Leave your prejudices in the locker room and open the door to a new perspective on porn addiction, armed with curiosity, compassion and the sincere desire to understand. Together, let's explore the paths to a balanced and fulfilling sexuality, guided by the conviction that each step forward is a step towards oneself. What is porn addiction? Porn addiction, a subject often whispered about but rarely addressed with the depth and sensitivity it deserves, is at the heart of many personal and societal questions. Porn addiction occurs when the consumption of pornographic content takes over from daily activities, negatively affecting relationships, work, and emotional well-being . It is not so much the frequency of consumption that defines addiction, but rather the impact and emotional or physical dependence it causes. Where does this addiction come from? To understand the essence of this addiction, it is crucial to recognize the multiple facets that make it up. Often, it is rooted in a complex mixture of seeking pleasure, escaping reality, managing anxiety or loneliness, and sometimes, unsatisfied curiosity. The ease of access to this content online and the anonymity offered by the internet play a significant role in the equation, making pornography both ubiquitous and discreetly consumable. The impact of pornography on the brain Neurologically, porn consumption stimulates the reward centers of the brain, releasing neurotransmitters associated with pleasure, such as dopamine. This chemical reaction can create an addictive cycle, where the brain constantly seeks this stimulation to experience pleasure or temporary relief from emotional or psychological tension. How do I know if I'm addicted to porn? Identifying the signs of addiction is an essential step towards understanding and healing. These signs include increasing consumption of porn, to the detriment of other activities or interests, repeated and unsuccessful attempts to reduce this consumption, and negative repercussions on personal or professional relationships or on mental health. Show kindness to yourself and your partner Approaching porn addiction with kindness means recognizing the complexity of the human experience and the diversity of journeys. At Goliate, we invite you to explore this topic with openness and curiosity, remembering that every step toward understanding is a step toward yourself. Together, in a spirit of non-judgment and acceptance, we can begin the journey toward a healthier relationship with our sexuality. In this quest for understanding, let us remember that porn addiction, like any addiction, is a signal, not of weakness, but of a deep need seeking to be heard and addressed. By lifting the veil on this subject, we give ourselves the means to build bridges towards a balanced life, where sexuality occupies a healthy and fulfilling place. How to control this addiction? The first step toward controlling porn addiction is recognizing that it exists. This step, although seemingly simple, requires courage and honesty. Accepting that one can be dependent is not an admission of weakness, but an act of strength, the beginning of a constructive inner dialogue. Identify triggers Understanding what drives compulsive porn consumption is essential. Stress, boredom, loneliness, or even lack of self-esteem, the triggers can be multiple and deeply personal. Identifying them allows us to develop tailor-made strategies to confront and overcome them. Create new habits Replacing one habit with another, healthier and more rewarding one, is a proven technique in managing addictions. Whether through sport, art, meditation, or any other activity providing satisfaction and well-being, the idea is to redirect energy towards practices beneficial to the body and mind. You can also limit the consumption of films and try other approaches such as erotic audios which are all the rage with women. You can also read erotic books. In both cases, these practices use creativity much more and will allow you to create new habits. Discover your body differently You also have the possibility of learning to discover other erogenous zones of your body : caress yourself, your chest, your face, your buttocks... Discover other ways to gently take pleasure. There's even a word for it and it's slow sex . To start this practice, you can also use relaxing massage oil to allow you to discover your body and do the same with your partner. Consult a professional if necessary Sometimes professional help is needed to unravel the complex threads of addiction. Psychologists, therapists, or specialized counselors can offer personalized support, in a caring and non-judgmental environment. You can find sexologists accessible by video anywhere in France very easily. be patient The path to addiction control is often non-linear, strewn with successes and relapses. Arming yourself with patience and compassion towards yourself is crucial. Every day is a new opportunity for progress, every effort a step closer to freedom. Try Cognitive Behavioral Therapies (CBT) CBT is an effective treatment approach that helps identify and change problematic thoughts and behaviors related to addiction. By focusing on current thought patterns, CBT encourages the development of strategies to manage temptations and build self-control. Obviously, it is the professionals in the sector mentioned above who are able to carry out these therapies. If you want to change, you can make it happen! As we navigated the twists and turns of porn addiction together, we explored various strategies and approaches to regaining control of our sexual and emotional lives. The importance of understanding the roots of this addiction, adopting healthy habits, and surrounding yourself with strong, caring support cannot be underestimated. At Goliate, we firmly believe in personal development through healthy and enlightened sexuality. Porn addiction, like any other form of addiction, is a complex challenge that requires compassion, patience, and perseverance. Breaking free from your chains is a personal journey, unique to each person, but it is important to remember that you are not alone in this quest. The Goliate community is here to offer you a secure space, valuable resources, and unconditional support, do not hesitate to ask us your questions on our Instagram account , we will be happy to answer them (in complete anonymity of course ).

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How to masturbate well when you are a man?

Welcome to a space where self-discovery takes on its full meaning, where the quest for personal pleasure becomes an enriching and respectful journey. Male masturbation, often surrounded by mysteries and taboos, deserves to be approached with openness, kindness and precision . It is in this spirit that we have designed this guide: to support you in exploring this intimate facet of your sexuality, by offering you keys to a fulfilled and conscious practice. In our society, where sexuality is both omnipresent and sometimes poorly understood, it is essential to reclaim your own body and your desires. Masturbation is not just an act of pleasure; it is a door to better self-knowledge, a way to discover what really makes us tick, far from clichés and external expectations. This guide is designed for you, men from all walks of life, eager to navigate the waves of your pleasure with confidence and curiosity. Far from preconceived ideas, together we will approach the art of male masturbation in all its forms, highlighting its benefits both physically and psychologically. Our objective ? Offer you the tools to make this practice a moment of complete well-being, a joyful and non-judgmental exploration of your body and your sensations. Why is masturbation important? Masturbation, far from being a taboo subject or a simple quest for ephemeral pleasure, represents a fundamental dimension of sexual health and personal well-being. For men, understanding and practicing masturbation in an informed and self-respecting manner is essential for several reasons, which go well beyond the simple physical act. Self-discovery and personal development Masturbation offers a unique opportunity to discover your body in an intimate and detailed way. It is through this practice that many men learn what gives them pleasure , how they like to be touched, and what caresses awaken their senses. This self-knowledge is crucial, not only for personal sexual fulfillment but also for enriching shared experiences with a partner. Benefits on sexual health In terms of sexual health, regular masturbation has several benefits. It allows, among other things, to maintain good erectile function, regulate sexual desire and even prevent certain prostate problems . Additionally, it provides a safe space to experiment with your body without the risks associated with partnered sex, such as sexually transmitted infections. Positive psychological impact Masturbation can also have a profoundly positive impact on mental health. It helps reduce stress and anxiety, promotes better quality sleep and can increase self-esteem by strengthening the connection with your own body. In a world where pressure and stress are omnipresent, setting aside moments of personal pleasure is a form of self-care, an act of well-being that deserves to be valued. The basics of practicing male masturbation Masturbation, a personal exploration of pleasure, varies from man to man. However, some basic techniques stand out for their popularity and effectiveness. These methods offer a starting point for those looking to enrich their masturbation experience or discover new ways to thrive. Technique 1: The classic grip The most common method involves using the index and middle fingers to form a circle around the penis, simulating sexual intercourse. This technique, simple but effective, allows a wide variety of sensations by adjusting pressure, speed, and movement. It adapts to your desires of the moment, whether you are looking for gentle or more intense stimulation. Technique 2: Using masturbators For those looking to diversify their experience, using masturbators can offer new and intensely pleasurable sensations. These sex toys are designed to simulate various sexual experiences, offering varied textures and sensations like this masturbator that simulates fellatio . Technique 3: Both hands Using both hands can transform the act of masturbation into a more enveloping experience. By using one hand to stimulate the penis and the other to caress the testicles, perineum, or other erogenous zones, you can explore a wider range of pleasures and discover what fully satisfies you. This technique is even the basis of a practice that is slow to be discovered: circumclusion . Technique 4: In the shower Masturbating in the shower not only offers ease of cleaning but also the opportunity to experiment with water as an element of pleasure . The feeling of warm water running over the body can be extremely pleasurable and add a sensual dimension to your masturbation routine. Technique 5: anal pleasure For those who are curious and open to exploration, anal pleasure as a man can open the door to deep and intense pleasures. Whether with fingers or toys specifically designed for this practice, prostate stimulation offers unique sensations and can lead to orgasms of remarkable intensity. How to improve the masturbation experience? The quest for personal pleasure is a never-ending journey, where each discovery opens the door to new sensations and experiences. For those looking to enrich their masturbation practice, here are some advanced tips and techniques to turn every moment into a deep and satisfying exploration of your sexuality. Choosing the Right Lubricant Using lube can drastically change your masturbation experience. Water-based lubricants are ideal for use with sex toys and are easy to clean, while silicone-based ones offer a silkier, longer-lasting feel, perfect for an extended session. Experimenting with different types can help you discover what increases your pleasure the most. Change techniques and locations Varying your practice can revitalize your masturbation experience. Don't limit yourself to just one method or position; explore different ways of touching yourself and different environments to do so. Variety is the spice of life, and that applies to masturbation too. Exploring the use of sex toys Using sex toys isn't just for couples; there are a multitude of toys designed to enhance solo male pleasure. From vibrating cock rings to the latest generation of masturbators, adding toys can introduce new sensations and intensify your pleasure. Stimulate your imagination Porn is obviously an easy solution to stimulate your desire, but new practices exist that allow you to be even more creative. This is particularly the case with erotic audios , which take you into very hot stories, while letting your imagination do the work. Masturbation is good for sleep! The physical and mental relaxation that follows orgasm can make it easier to fall asleep and improve the quality of sleep. By approaching masturbation with curiosity, openness and self-respect, every man can discover a world of pleasure that contributes to his personal development and overall health. Remember that the journey to fulfilled sexuality is unique to each person; explore at your own pace and according to your desires, keeping in mind that personal pleasure is a fundamental right and a source of joy and well-being. Frequency of masturbation: finding your balance The question of the frequency of masturbation is often a source of curiosity, even worry, among many men. It is essential to understand that masturbation is a personal practice and that the "norm" for frequency varies greatly from person to person. The important thing is to find a balance that suits you, listening to your body's needs and respecting your psychological well-being. Listen to your body Your body is the best guide to determining the ideal masturbation frequency. Some may feel the need to masturbate daily, while others will find satisfaction with less frequency. The important thing is to never force or restrict yourself too much, as long as it remains a healthy and balanced practice in your life. Enjoy your moment, it will only do you more good In conclusion, exploring the many facets of male masturbation is not just an act of personal pleasure; it is a deeply enriching process that opens the door to better self-understanding and fulfilled sexuality. Through this guide, we have gone through various techniques, practical advice and caring perspectives together to support you in your quest for authentic and satisfying solo pleasure. At Goliate, our mission is to guide you in this exploration with respect, openness and expertise. We firmly believe that every man deserves access to a full and rich sexuality, where pleasure is discovered without taboos or judgments.

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But what is average penis size (and how to get past it)

In a world where intimacy and sexuality occupy a central place in our quest for well-being, the question of penis size often emerges, surrounded by mysteries, questions and, sometimes, concerns. At Goliate, we understand that these questions go far beyond simple curiosity; they touch the very essence of our self-esteem and our capacity to experience and share pleasure. This is why we have decided to lift the veil on this delicate subject, by discussing with you, in a spirit that is both calm and educational, the reality surrounding the average penis size. Our objective ? Provide you with a reassuring and informed perspective , based on reliable data and a caring approach to sexuality. Because yes, it is time to deconstruct the myths and free ourselves from taboos to embrace a healthier and more fulfilled vision of our intimacy. In this article, we will explore together not only what studies and experts say about penis size, but also and above all how this issue influences our perception of sexuality and performance. We will offer you keys to understand why, ultimately, size should not be a source of concern, and how everyone can flourish in their sexuality, regardless of standards and comparisons. What is the “average size” of a penis? In our exploration of fulfilled sexuality, the notion of average penis size occupies a preponderant place, arousing curiosity, questions, and sometimes, concerns. At Goliate, we approach this topic with the goal of clarifying, reassuring and educating. The numbers on penis sizes Scientific studies offer us valuable data on the average penis size, indicating that when erect it is generally between 13 and 15 centimeters . However, it is crucial to emphasize that these figures represent averages and not ideals to be achieved. The importance of these averages must be put into perspective, because sexual satisfaction and fulfillment in intimacy cannot be measured in centimeters. The diversity of penis sizes is a manifestation of the natural variability of human anatomy, and each size has its place on the spectrum of normality. We are all different and the key is self-acceptance Celebrating body diversity is essential to cultivating self-acceptance and a positive body image. Pressure from media and societal norms regarding the "ideal size" can lead to unnecessary comparisons and personal dissatisfaction. At Goliate, we encourage everyone to recognize and appreciate the unique beauty of their body, regardless of external standards. Self-acceptance is the first step toward fulfilling sexuality, where trust and open communication pave the way for enriching intimate experiences. Penis size is just one aspect of sexuality. Reassessing its importance helps redirect attention to more essential aspects of intimacy, such as emotional connection, communication, mutual exploration of pleasure and erogenous zones . A more inclusive sexuality recognizes the richness of possible experiences and pleasures, well beyond physical concerns. Perception about penis size has an impact on sexuality Average penis size, although a simple aspect of our anatomy, is laden with heavy psychological significance. It is often seen as a symbol of virility, power, and ability to satisfy the partner. This symbolic charge can influence self-confidence and body image, crucial factors in the quest for fulfilled sexuality. It is essential to untangle these perceptions, often fueled by myths and unfounded comparisons, to reclaim a healthier and more authentic vision of our sexuality. Impact on intimate relationships Concern about penis size can have a significant impact on communication within a couple and the ability to experience fully satisfying moments of intimacy. When one partner feels concerned about the size of their penis, it can lead to a reluctance to talk openly about sexuality, for fear of judgment or inadequacy. This reluctance can, in turn, limit opportunities to share desires and fantasies, thereby reducing the couple's ability to explore new dimensions of their intimacy. Excessive concern about size can also affect self-confidence during intimate moments, leading to a less fulfilling sexual experience for both partners. Performance anxiety, fueled by these concerns, can decrease presence and engagement in the sexual act, thereby reducing the ability to feel and provide pleasure. Additionally, this focus on penis size can distract from the many other aspects of sexuality that contribute to a rich and varied intimate experience, such as foreplay, nonverbal communication, and the exploration of alternative pleasures. Regaining self-confidence by being original is the key In the quest for fulfilled sexuality and strengthened self-confidence, venturing into original practices can open new doors to intimacy and pleasure. Communicate crudely about your desires Dirty talk , or the art of erotic conversation, is a fascinating practice for intensifying desire and strengthening the emotional bond between partners. Talking about our desires, expressing in words what excites us, or recounting fantasies can not only increase arousal but also provide a space where size becomes a detail among the immensity of shared pleasures. This intimate communication invites a deeper exploration of each other's desires, strengthening confidence in oneself and in the relationship. Taking care of each other Foreplay and sexy couple massages also play a crucial role in building rich and satisfying intimacy. They allow you to slow down, focus on the present moment and explore each other's bodies with attention and devotion. These moments of mutual discovery are essential to create an atmosphere of desire and respect, where each caress and each kiss contribute to building a full and fulfilling sexual experience, far from superficial concerns. Test gentle practices Finally, slow sex , just like vanilla sex are approaches that favor the quality of the connection and the intensity of sensations over performance, offer a magnificent opportunity to rediscover pleasure in its purest form. This practice invites you to savor every moment, every touch, putting aside traditional goals linked to orgasm to focus on the sensual experience itself. Slow sex is a celebration of intimacy, where time seems to stand still, and the size of the penis loses all its importance in the face of the depth of the connection established. Use toys to compensate! But who says you have to make your partner cum with your penis? If you are uncomfortable with the size of yours, you can also use toys to take your partner to seventh heaven. Discover MyPleasure Plus which, thanks to the pleasure of uncompromising double stimulation, will allow you to do your partner a world of good. Designed for those seeking an intensified pleasure experience, this innovative toy promises a limitless exploration of satisfaction. Our rabbit stands out for its ability to simultaneously stimulate the G-spot and the clitoris, providing a symphony of sensations that lead to deep and memorable orgasms. Its ergonomic design and intuitive interface allow easy use, inviting you on a journey to the heart of pleasure, alone or in pairs. The key is to question the standards linked to penis size The key to transcending concerns about penis size and cultivating fulfilling sexuality lies in our ability to question established standards . These norms, often conveyed by the media, pornography and social discourse, shape our perception of masculinity and sexuality in restrictive ways. Questioning and challenging these standards is essential to deconstruct the myths around the "ideal size" and to recognize the harmful impact they can have on self-esteem and sexual satisfaction. By opening the dialogue about the diversity of bodies and pleasures, we can begin to see penis size as one natural variation among many others, and not as a criterion of judgment or sexual competence. At the same time, it is crucial to promote a new definition of normal that embraces all sizes, shapes and appearances, celebrating variety as an expression of natural beauty. This redefinition requires inclusive and caring sexual education , which plays a fundamental role in the formation of a healthy and balanced vision of sexuality. Education that values ​​diversity and teaches respect for self and others can radically transform the way we experience our sexuality. Remember, the most important thing is not the size, but the quality of the moments shared and the intimacy built with your partner. At Goliate, we are dedicated to helping you experience a fulfilled sexuality, full of discoveries and pleasures. Because, after all, a fulfilling sex life is a key component of a happy and satisfying life.

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Anal Pleasure: our complete guide to gentle exploration

In the infinite universe of sexuality, each exploration is an open door to new dimensions of pleasure, unknown territories where each sensation is a discovery , each thrill a revelation. Anal pleasure, often shrouded in prejudices and taboos, is nevertheless rich in the potential for deep and unexplored pleasure. At Goliate, we firmly believe that sexuality is a space of freedom and personal expression, where every curiosity deserves to be explored with respect, gentleness and open-mindedness. It is in this spirit that we approach the subject of anal pleasure, not as an ultimate challenge to take on, but as an invitation to discover another facet of our intimacy . Ready to explore new horizons of pleasure? Follow us on this journey where gentleness, listening and self-respect are the real keys to a fulfilling exploration. Preparation is the key to anal pleasure Approaching anal pleasure requires above all careful preparation, both physically and mentally. This essential step is the foundation of an experience that is both pleasant and fulfilling. Understanding and respecting the preparation process is essential to gently opening up to this form of pleasure, often surrounded by mysteries and prejudices. Relax to have a good time Relaxation is the key word when it comes to exploring anal pleasure. The sphincter, this powerful muscle which guards the entrance to our most secret intimacy, only opens fully in a state of deep relaxation. It is therefore crucial to create an environment conducive to relaxation , where time seems suspended, and where the body and mind can surrender to the experience without restraint. To do this, you can start your moment together by performing a sexy massage to create an atmosphere conducive to relaxation. Choose the moment wisely Choosing the right moment is essential: a moment where distractions are far away, where calm reigns, allowing total immersion in the present moment. Whether it's a quiet weekend or a relaxing vacation, the important thing is to feel safe, comfortable and free from pressure. Communication and consent Talking openly about your desires, fears and limits is fundamental. Whether the exploration is done solo or accompanied, giving yourself permission to discover this facet of your sexuality is an act of trust and self-acceptance. As part of a shared experience, dialogue with the partner is crucial to establish a framework of mutual trust, where consent and respect for others are essential. Gentle foreplay to promote anal pleasure Before venturing further, it is recommended to start with external stimulation to properly prepare for the anal act . Gently massaging the area around the anus, without pressure to penetrate, allows the body to get used to being touched in this area. Stimulating other erogenous zones , like the clitoris or penis, can also help relax the anal muscles, making the experience more fluid and pleasurable. Use toys dedicated to anal pleasure The exploration of anal pleasure can be greatly enriched by the introduction of sex toys designed specifically for this experience . These tools, far from being simple gadgets, are real allies in the discovery and appreciation of anal sensations. They allow a progressive, controlled and above all, adapted approach to each stage of your journey towards anal pleasure. Start with butt plugs Butt plugs are often the first step in using sex toys for anal exploration. Their ergonomic shape, designed for easy insertion and comfortable wearing, makes them an ideal choice for beginners. The widened base of the plugs ensures optimal security, preventing the toy from sinking too deeply. Using sex toys with a wide base If you don't have a plug on hand, you can dig into your toy drawer to choose a suitable sex toy . The main tip is to choose a toy with a base or feedback like our Rabbit Vibrator . Indeed, the suction power of the anus can be very significant so it is recommended not to use a toy without a wider base. With our Rabbit, you will be 100% safe for anal practice. How to practice anal according to the rules of the art? Definitely use lube The use of any anal sex toy should be accompanied by abundant lubrication. The lubricant facilitates insertion and makes the experience more pleasant and pain-free. Opt for water-based lubricants which are recommended when toys are used as a bonus. You can obviously use our natural lubricant which is completely suitable for anal use and use with toys. Hygiene is super important The maintenance and cleanliness of your anal sex toys are essential for anal use. Clean them before and after each use according to the manufacturer's instructions to ensure an experience that is both safe and hygienic. Hygiene is also important in anal practice as such, a quick shower before taking action can be pleasant for you and your partner! Also, if you practice anal penetration, avoid subsequently practicing vaginal penetration because it could encourage the appearance of vaginal infections. If you still want to do it, change your condom between the two penetrations. And now is the time to remember that it is essential to protect yourself with a condom if you and your partner have not taken the necessary tests in due form. Discover anal sex but listen to your body By exploring together the delicate and deep contours of anal pleasure, we have lifted the veil on an often misunderstood practice, surrounded by mysteries and taboos. Far from being limited to a simple quest for new sensations, the exploration of anal pleasure reveals itself to be an intimate journey towards a deeper understanding of our body, our desires and our limits. We invite you to continue this exploration with curiosity and open-mindedness, remembering that the key to an enriching experience lies in communication, listening to oneself and others, and the adoption of safe and respectful. If this article has awakened in you the desire to further explore the vast horizons of your sexuality, we encourage you to browse our other advice on the subject !

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Breast orgasm: complete guide to exploring breast pleasure!

In our infinite quest for pleasure and self-knowledge, there are territories of the body still shrouded in mystery and curiosity. Among them, the breast orgasm stands out as a fascinating enigma, often overlooked, but nevertheless well worth discovering! The breast orgasm, this symphony of sensations which originates in the heart of the chest, invites a delicate and deep exploration of our bodies. It reminds us that pleasure is not limited to the traditionally recognized erogenous zones , but that it is a holistic experience, capable of arising from every particle of our being. In a world where female sexuality continues to free itself from the chains of taboos and preconceived ideas, talking about breast orgasm is opening a door to a richer intimacy , to a more intimate understanding of what makes us tick. It means recognizing that the woman's body is an inexhaustible source of pleasure, whose secrets are just waiting to be revealed. What is breast orgasm? The breast orgasm, or the art of discovering pleasure through breast stimulation, invites us to rethink our approach to sexual pleasure . Traditionally, the quest for pleasure is often centered on the genital areas, thus obscuring the erogenous richness of other parts of the body . However, the breasts, and more specifically the nipples, are endowed with a sensitivity which can, under adequate stimulation, lead to orgasms of surprising intensity. But how can you have a breast orgasm? Scientific studies have shed light on how nipple stimulation activates areas of the brain associated with sexual pleasure , similar to those activated during genital stimulation. This discovery highlights the importance of considering the body as a whole when it comes to pleasure, reminding us that every inch of our skin can become a gateway to ecstatic experiences. Addressing breast orgasm is therefore inviting you on a journey of discovery and self-rediscovery, where curiosity and experimentation play a key role. It's about opening up to new dimensions of pleasure, by gently and attentively exploring our body's responses to different forms of caresses, pressure and stimulation. In short, breast orgasm is not only a path to unprecedented pleasure; it is also an invitation to rethink and enrich our relationship with our sexuality. By abandoning the beaten path to venture onto less explored paths of our intimacy, we give ourselves the opportunity to experience moments of deep connection with ourselves, thus revealing the true extent of our capacity to feel pleasure. The importance of the brain in sexual pleasure The brain, this complex and fascinating organ, processes the sensory information it receives to transform it into sensations of pleasure . When we talk about breast orgasm, we are referring to an experience where stimulation of the breasts and nipples sends electrical signals to the brain, which then interprets them as pleasurable, even ecstatic, sensations. Research has shown that nipple stimulation activates areas of the brain similar to those stimulated during genital arousal, highlighting the universality of pleasure and its ability to transcend physical boundaries. This discovery highlights the need to consider sexual pleasure as a holistic experience, where the mental and the physical intertwine in an inseparable way. Breast orgasm, in this context, is not only the result of physical stimulation; it is also the fruit of a mental disposition open and receptive to pleasure in all its forms. Approaching breast orgasm from this angle invites us to cultivate a deeper and more conscious relationship with our body. It is about recognizing and appreciating the capacity of our mind to amplify, modulate and enrich our experience of pleasure.** This awareness encourages us to explore our sexuality with curiosity, to experiment without judgment and to welcome the multiple facets of our desire. How to become a breast stimulation pro? The exploration of breast orgasm naturally leads us to the crucial question of stimulation techniques. How to awaken this often neglected source of pleasure? The answer lies in a gentle, attentive and exploratory approach, which takes into account the uniqueness of each body. Create a pleasant atmosphere Before diving into specific techniques, it's essential to emphasize the importance of atmosphere. For the experience to be fully satisfying, you must create an environment that invites relaxation and intimacy. Soft lighting, soft music, a pleasant temperature: all these elements help to prepare the body and mind for a sensory journey like when you prepare a little sexy massage as a couple . Set out to discover sensations Stimulation of the breasts and nipples can begin with simple caresses, exploring the surface with the palms of the hands or the tips of the fingers. This initial approach helps awaken the sensitivity of the area and prepares the ground for more direct stimulation. Using massage oils or creams can not only make contact easier, but also add an extra layer of sensation. The movements can vary in intensity and rhythm, ranging from gentle circular pressure around the nipples to more vigorous kneading of the entire breast. Stimulate the nipples The nipples, as nerve centers, play a key role in breast orgasm. Their stimulation can be done in multiple ways: light pinching, sucking, use of specific sex toys such as nipple vibrators or even feathers and other accessories to vary the sensations. Amplify breast pleasure with accessories The adventure towards breast orgasm is not limited to caresses and manual techniques. The world of erotic toys and accessories offers a range of possibilities to enrich and diversify the sensory experience. Judicious use of these tools can transform the quest for breast pleasure into an even deeper and more rewarding exploration. Nipple Vibrators Vibrators specially designed for the nipples are valuable allies in the stimulation of this erogenous zone. Their ability to provide targeted vibrations allows the nerve endings to be activated intensely, paving the way for new sensations and a potentiation of breast orgasm. If you don't have one on hand, you can also easily use clitoral aspirators to suck on the nipples and feel pleasure. Try nipple clamps For those who enjoy more direct stimulation, nipple clamps offer a unique pleasure experience. By exerting adjustable pressure on the nipples, these accessories can intensify the sensitivity of the area and increase the sensations during stimulation. It is important to start slowly and adjust pressure according to comfort and arousal level. Test the feathers Using feathers or other sensation accessories, such as soft whisks or brushes, can add an exciting dimension of foreplay. The lightness of caresses, contrasting with more direct stimulation, prepares the body for increased receptivity and can amplify the intensity of breast orgasm. Use massage oils Oils and creams designed to awaken the senses can also play a key role in exploring breast orgasm. Applied to the breasts and nipples, they can increase the sensitivity of the skin and enrich tactile sensations. Some formulations provide warming or cooling effects, adding an extra layer of sensory stimulation. Regarding Goliate products, we strongly recommend our edible massage oil which will be perfect for then kissing your partner's nipples. The key to achieving a breast orgasm is sharing! The exploration of breast orgasm can clearly become a shared adventure, enriched by the presence and participation of a partner . The first step toward successful shared exploration of breast orgasm lies in open communication and mutual consent. Discussing your desires, boundaries and expectations creates a framework of trust and respect, essential for a positive experience. It is in this secure space that the partner can become a true ally in the quest for pleasure. The experience of breast orgasm as a couple can be intensified by the synchronization of sensations: what if you tried this at the same time . One stimulates the nipples of the other and vice versa. If the nipples are too sensitive , you can also stimulate other erogenous zones in parallel, creating a symphony of pleasures that respond and amplify each other. Remember, the path to pleasure is as unique as you are. Take the time to discover yourself, cherish yourself, and celebrate every aspect of your sexuality. Pleasure is a right, a source of joy and well-being. Embrace it, explore it, and most importantly, share it.

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Understanding everything about sexual breakdowns

Sexual dysfunction , a disorder affecting sexual function, does not only affect men. In fact, many women also experience similar sexual difficulties. A study conducted by Lilly Laboratories on the sexuality of the French reveals that 42% of men and 38% of women have already experienced sexual failure. This problem tends to increase with age. It is important not to panic when faced with these sexual dysfunctions because solutions exist. Exploring your sexuality can be an effective way to find answers and prevent these dysfunctions from affecting your life as a couple. Why can we have sexual breakdowns? Knowing the causes of your sexual dysfunction allows you to find the appropriate solutions. Here are the factors that can cause desire disorders. Stress It is the first enemy of a fulfilling sex life . Stress is a sneaky evil and it brings with it various psychological and physiological problems. It even promotes sexual disorders . First of all, stress causes significant mental concern. It leads to a lack of concentration that will harm your sexual activity: it can get to the point where it becomes impossible to have a pleasant time and be truly present during your intercourse. In cases of intense and chronic stress, other psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression can arise, which can trigger other harmful consequences for your relationship: difficulty letting go during intercourse , which prevents orgasm during intercourse, the probable inability to maintain an erection for long, loss of sexual performance or premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction or male impotence. You should also know that stress reduces the production of noradrenaline . However, a deficiency in this hormone leads to a decrease in arousal , which will deteriorate the quality of sexual intercourse. Organic causes of sexual dysfunction Did you know that some pathologies can cause sexual dysfunction ? By causing damage to the blood vessels, they generate a decrease in the flow of blood to the genitals. If you think you have a problem that is more serious than simple stress, we strongly recommend that you consult a sexologist or a doctor who can guide you. Erection problems can actually intensify the development of diseases. You may develop one of the following diseases: high blood pressure, diabetes, heart problems, increased blood cholesterol levels. Hormonal deficiency extends the list of organic causes of sexual dysfunction . The decrease in the level of sexual hormones causes, for example , male impotence, as does a deficiency in thyroid hormones, which will have the same effect. Finally, age is another factor that increases the risk of sexual dysfunction . If you are in one of these cases, we strongly recommend that you consult a sexologist to learn more about your problem. The Sexologues France platform brings together certified sexologists that you can consult by video or directly in the office! We recommend! Taking care of yourself to avoid sexual breakdowns To help you avoid sexual breakdown, the ideal is clearly to learn to take care of yourself! Adopt a healthy lifestyle How to avoid erectile problems or other sexual disorders ? Adopting a healthy lifestyle is the first solution to explore if you are not already used to it. Focus on a balanced and varied diet. You also reduce any risk of developing erectile dysfunction by reducing consumption of: of sugar, salt, of fats, tobacco, of alcoholic beverages. A healthy lifestyle obviously includes regular exercise since it is a natural stress reliever! In addition, it optimizes the production of the happiness hormone which is good for morale and the body! This therefore makes sport an ally of choice in the fight against sexual dysfunction. Improve sleep and promote relaxation A good night's sleep is an ally to have better endurance during your intercourse. If you do not sleep well, you can develop certain health problems, promote your stress and be more irritable. Lack of sleep, if excessive, can go as far as causing erectile dysfunction. So, improve the quality of your sleep! If you still need a few more hours of sleep, you can already use relaxation methods before your date or intercourse. Choose what will please you the most: the hot bath, the meditation session, the yoga session, massage, a little reading…. Increase excitement and reduce performance pressure Increasing arousal means increasing the intensity of desire and pleasure. The question is: how to do it? First, learn to manage your stress ! Some foods known for their aphrodisiac properties can also help you increase arousal, such as: chocolate, coriander, ginger, oysters, calf's liver…. In addition to all this, try to detach yourself from the result: it is not necessary to always be a good sexual "performer": in real life, it is not like in porn! The fear of not being able to satisfy the other sexually will automatically generate stress and therefore itself reduce your performance: it is a vicious circle from which you must try to escape to regain confidence in yourself. Finally, using sex toys or sex toys is also a good option to overcome a breakdown: toys help to optimize pleasure and stimulate sexual desire . Talk about the subject without taboos with your partner A sexual breakdown is not a taboo subject. To manage it well, you must discuss it with your partner. If you find yourself faced with someone who judges you, who makes fun of you and who is not supportive, it is certain that it is the wrong person in front of you: the problem comes from his side! It is important to make him understand that this breakdown was not a failure, neither for you nor for him, but that it can happen to anyone and that we must move forward, as a duo, to find adequate solutions. To approach the subject lightly, you can also use humor if it is too delicate for you to go straight. The most important thing is to talk, this will bring you closer together and allow you to boost mutual trust. This rapprochement will allow you to overcome the sexual breakdown together. When should I really worry? Certainly, sexual breakdown affects everyone. That said, there is a big difference between an occasional problem and recurring erectile dysfunction . If the breakdown repeats itself, consulting a sexologist is essential. This specialist can guide you towards the appropriate medical approach and possible treatments to take. But you also need psychological support, which a sexologist is generally able to provide you. Women can also have sexual dysfunctions Female sexual dysfunction is not a myth! It manifests itself by a loss of desire or lack of interest in sexual intercourse and also causes various problems such as vaginal dryness, making penetration painful. If this happens to you, the best solution is obviously to use natural gels or lubricants. These products have been designed to facilitate vaginal lubrication, in order to eliminate pain and optimize your feeling of pleasure. Asking for erotic help or advice from those around you is also an excellent idea: there is a good chance that your friends have already been confronted with the problems and they will therefore be good advisers to reassure you and help you find suitable solutions. Don’t stress, breakdowns can be managed! Are you facing sexual breakdown ? Stay calm! It is a problem that can be managed. Here is what you need to do: Take care of yourself and manage your stress, Establish dialogue, because it will allow you to overcome this impasse together, Practice slow sex to avoid the pressure of an erection, Make an appointment with a sexologist if the problem persists. But what you really need to do is change the way you perceive the problem. In other words: De-dramatize the situation, Take a positive approach by trying to solve the problem together, Have sex differently: use massage oils to have a pleasant time for example, Focus on the future and stay optimistic. If you're with the right person, they'll understand, that's for sure!

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But then, have you already simulated it too?

Faking an orgasm is pretending to reach seventh heaven . It must be said that this is often the end result that we appreciate when we have sex . If you have already faked it, tell yourself that you are probably not an isolated case. A survey conducted by Amorelie, a sex toy brand, in 2022 reveals that 49% of French people have already faked an orgasm, 67% of whom are women. This practice raises questions: Why fake non-existent pleasure and what are the repercussions? Why do we choose to fake it during certain relationships? Although researchers have tried to identify the causes of orgasm simulation, erotic pleasures are difficult subjects to discuss. The reasons behind orgasm simulation remain complex and little discussed, and testimonies on this subject are rare. But here is some information that could enlighten you. Differences between men and women in orgasm simulation It is often said that the simulation of sexual orgasm is a woman's business. However, this is not entirely true since an Ifop study for the Online Séduction site in 2019 revealed that 42% of the men surveyed have already simulated. The question that arises is: why have so many men already simulated? It must be said that orgasm is always associated with ejaculation in men , that is a mechanical proof that pleasure has been achieved. But this is not entirely true since a man can reach ecstasy well before ejaculation. More precisely, he can have orgasms without having ejaculated and vice versa. For women, faking it is more accessible, since everything happens in what we send back to our partner. The recipe is simple: reproduce certain common reactions linked to orgasm, in particular screams and muscle contractions. Psychological and relational reasons First of all, it should be noted that orgasm is characterized by a peak of pleasure felt after stimulation of the erogenous zones . In women, the source of pleasure can vary since the female organism is quite complex. For example, orgasm can be clitoral: it is then caused by stimulation of the clitoris. If it is triggered by penetration, we then speak of vaginal orgasm . Some women also manage to come following simple caresses or even with anal penetration. But female orgasm can also be mixed, both clitoral and vaginal, or even produced only by G-spot stimulation. According to researchers, orgasm simulation has psychological reasons such as: the desire to protect one's partner and not hurt them, the desire to please or make one's partner happy, the desire to end unpleasant sexual intercourse, the lack of sexual desire, the inability to let go. And besides, the simulation of orgasm can also have relational reasons . Indeed, for some people, it is a way to show the attachment that he or she has for the other partner. They then let themselves be taken by the excitement and love felt during the sexual act . The simulated orgasm is then a way to please the other, or sometimes a fear of feeling judged. The simulation is therefore orchestrated by fear or following a feeling of insecurity. Pretending isn't great for our relationships Is faking an orgasm cheating? If you're asking yourself this question, it's because you feel guilty about doing so. In reality, faking orgasms is clearly not a good long-term option. The consequences of such a decision can be really unpleasant for you, your partner, and your relationship. Impact on trust and communication in the couple In most cases, sexual intercourse is supposed to give you intense pleasure. It occurs thanks to a mutual desire shared between two partners: the sensations of pleasure are supposed to be shared. Even if sometimes, you can also have maximum pleasure by practicing sex in a gentler way ( slow sex , circumclusion , etc.) If you are faking it just to shorten that intimate moment , you need to ask yourself some questions. The same is true if you are faking it out of compulsion just to meet your partner's expectations. In these cases, faking orgasm can actually be detrimental to the development of your relationship: it indicates a lack of communication and trust. You prefer to live in the illusion that everything is fine instead of acknowledging that there is a problem. Long-term effects on sexual satisfaction Looking for a satisfying and enjoyable sex life ? It's simply impossible if you're always pretending to feel pleasure that doesn't exist. Sex will become a source of frustration for you. Over time, you'll end up feeling cheated and jaded, especially when the situation repeats itself. What if we stopped pretending? First of all, you need to know that orgasm is not a must. So, put some trust in your relationships and stop faking it! To start and ensure that your intimate moments bring you pleasure , you can start by being honest. Tell your partner the truth! After all, sexuality should not be a taboo subject in a couple. On the contrary, it is the cement that will strengthen your relationship. So here is what you will need to do: Express your expectations and fantasies so that your next sexual relationship is perfect, Discuss together if you have any sexual dysfunction issues. Be careful! You have to approach the subject tactfully so as not to hurt your partner's self-esteem. He must not feel that he is a bad guy. Avoid talking about your past experiences or making comparisons, you have to talk about the present problem, and in a positive way. How to satisfy yourself and your other half to stop pretending? Here are some tips that will help you fully enjoy your intimate moments and avoid faking orgasm . Importance of knowing your own body Knowing your genitals , your erogenous zones and your source of pleasure is key to having more orgasms. But you also need to talk about it with your partner, hence the need to communicate well. He will then know better how to give you pleasure . You should also remember that vaginal penetration is the last step of a sexual act: your intimate moments can begin with foreplay and games to gently raise the temperature. They help to optimize desire and the level of excitement and promote the lubrication of the vagina , which facilitates penetration. Role of sex toys and aids You should also know that there are different ways to trigger orgasm. Instead of faking it, it is better to resort to these techniques. One of them is to use adult toys or sex toys to allow you to discover new ways to have fun. For example, you can try the clitoral stimulator and vibrator: you will love The Amazing ! It will allow you to reach ecstasy in no time. There are also products designed to remedy the problem of vaginal lubrication and it is strongly recommended to use natural lubricant . This increases the pleasure and perhaps even the duration of the relationship. Who knows, thanks to the lubricant, you may no longer need to pretend ! So, ready to be 100% honest with your partners? Faking orgasm happens to everyone and it's not the end of the world . But nothing beats honesty and sincerity because over time faking it could deteriorate your sexual satisfaction. It can also harm your relationship . Finally, being honest with your partner helps you let go . The inability to reach orgasm can actually be caused by: a psychological blockage, a lack of self-confidence, a communication problem. If you want to have a fulfilling sex life , bet on sincerity! Dare to talk about it with your partner so you no longer have to fake an orgasm !

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Exploring pegging

In the vast universe of sexuality, where each desire is a door to new horizons, there is a daring practice that invites us to redefine pleasures and break conventions: pegging. Pegging isn't just about positions or accessories; it is an invitation to explore, without prejudice, the depths of our intimacy, where taboo gives way to an exhilarating freedom. In this article, we will reveal the secrets of pegging. From its definition to its benefits, including the techniques for a fulfilling practice, we guide you step by step in this universe where pleasure is combined in the plural . Whether you are a curious novice or an expert looking for new perspectives, this journey to the heart of pegging promises to transform your vision of sexuality. What is pegging? Pegging, in simple terms, is the act where a person, usually a woman, penetrates their partner, often a man, anally, using a pleasure accessory . This practice, far from being a simple role reversal, is a sensual dance of power, confidence and shared pleasure. It allows everyone to explore new facets of their sexuality, discover new sensations and deepen the connection with their partner. Gender dynamics in pegging Pegging transcends preconceived ideas about gender roles in sexuality. It invites deeper reflection on how we perceive pleasure, power and vulnerability in our intimate relationships. In this practice, the person who penetrates is not necessarily the one who dominates ; Rather, pegging is a balanced exchange of control and letting go, where each partner has the opportunity to explore and express different aspects of their sexuality. This reversal of traditional roles can be incredibly liberating. It offers a new perspective on sexuality, where pleasure is not dictated by norms, but by curiosity, mutual respect and the desire to discover together. Why does pegging feel good? The prostate , often compared to the female G-spot, is a key erogenous zone in men , capable of providing sensations of rarely equaled intensity. In pegging, stimulation of the prostate is not a simple mechanical act; it is a sensual dance, a game of discovery where each movement can trigger waves of deep pleasure. This exploration not only allows you to access more intense orgasms, but also to discover a new dimension of male sexuality, often neglected in traditional practices. I want to try pegging: how do I go about it? Bring up the conversation with your partner In the world of pegging, the first step is often the most delicate: broaching the subject with your partner. This conversation, far from being a simple exchange, is a bridge to deeper intimacy . It is about opening a space for dialogue where desires, sometimes silenced, can be expressed freely. To begin this discussion, choose a favorable moment, where complicity is present, and approach the subject gently and openly. Honestly share your apprehensions and desires Talking about pegging also means sharing your desires, your curiosities, but also your apprehensions. It is essential to clearly communicate why this practice intrigues or attracts you. Explain what you expect from it, and also listen to your partner's reactions. This transparency creates a climate of trust and mutual respect, essential for exploring new erotic territories. Overcoming preconceived ideas Pegging is often surrounded by prejudice and misunderstanding. It is crucial to confront them together, to demystify preconceived ideas to see this practice in a new light . Openly discuss stereotypes, fears, and possible psychological barriers. This approach is a step towards a freer and more fulfilled sexuality, where taboos give way to curiosity and exploration. Find common ground In this common quest, it is important to build common ground. Pegging should be a shared experience, where both partners feel comfortable and excited about the idea. Always respect each other's boundaries and move at a pace that suits both of you. Consent and comfort are the keys to a successful and rewarding pegging experience. The practice of Pegging Confidence leads to seduction Pegging, this intimate dance where roles intertwine, requires a setting where confidence and seduction reign. Before you get started, it is essential to create a space that invites relaxation and the awakening of the senses . Imagine a cozy cocoon, subdued lighting, captivating music in the background – a place where everyday life fades away, giving way to intimacy and discovery. Listen to your bodies When you begin pegging, remember that gentleness is key. Every gesture, every movement must be guided by listening and understanding the needs of others. Communication is your ally: talk, share your feelings, adjust your pace according to your partner's reactions. What accessories to start pegging? The choice of accessories for pegging is a fundamental element of this practice. Select suitable toys that respect everyone’s comfort and limits. Here are the key accessories that you absolutely must have on hand: A natural intimate lubricant , to ensure that the practice is done gently A natural anal relaxant if you want to ensure that the practice will be pain-free An anal plug to start the practice slowly (and just your fingers will do the trick too!) And then what do we do ? Share a moment of tenderness After an experience as intense as pegging, a moment of aftercare, of care and mutual attention, is essential. It's an opportunity to get together, share caresses, sweet words, and bathe in the warmth of the moment. This step, often neglected, is nevertheless crucial for strengthening the emotional bond and trust between partners. To help you, you can also practice slow sex regularly , just to learn how to take care of yourself and your partner. Share these moments as a couple Take the time to discuss your experience, express what you felt, what you liked or what could be improved. This open communication is the key to understanding each person's needs and wants , and to making future pegging experiences even more rewarding. Explore new ways to treat yourself Don’t hesitate to experiment and vary your practices. Pegging can be the start of a path towards a richer and more diverse sexuality. Explore together other forms of erotic play, other accessories, other scenarios. Each new exploration is a chance to discover new aspects of your sexuality and that of your partner. So, are you tempted by pegging? So, dear readers, here we are at the end of this exquisite journey through the captivating twists and turns of pegging. We explored together the contours of this practice, revealing its secrets, its pleasures, and above all, its incredible potential to enrich and diversify our erotic universe. Pegging, much more than a simple practice, is an ode to freedom, an anthem to the exploration of our deepest desires. It invites us to push the boundaries of our intimacy, to question our roles, and to embrace a sexuality that is richer, more open, and infinitely more rewarding.